article: How porn is affecting the libido of the American male

[MatureDJ]

http://nymag.com/news/features/70976/

 

[Zarky]

Assuming, arguendo, that what the article says is true, I'd have to say: so what?

Hyperreality baby. A sexual experience that's better than an actual sexual experience. It's a brave new world. Embrace it, understand it, control it, or perish.

 

[The Assistant]

Another useless study to try to make men look bad.

just SHUT UP already with these goddamn "studies".

I can only speak for myself, but I can easily jack it a few times to porn one day (not to mention sexy chicks dancing on youtube, it's even better than porn in my eyes!), and then I can fvck my girl really well the next morning.......3 times.........then get a handjob later in the afternoon......jerk it some more..........and then fvck her to sleep later that night.

Men need to stop being pvssies, no studies needed

 

[Falcon25]

Masturbation makes you less aggressive when pursuing women. Porn corrupts your mind into thinking that women are sex objects. As an experienced man who has had years of experience on this topic, I would highly recommend cutting porn and masturbation to a minimum. If you don't jerk off, women also start to notice your masculinity. You are not only more aggressive, but more bold and daring. You can lift more at the gym, talk to more girls, etc. Porn is so bad for you that I can't begin to explain to you how good your life will be without it. Just stop and see. Try to cut it to once a week, then once every two weeks, etc.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

Knowing the difference between reality and fantasy is important in having healthy sexual libido as well. Men who blur the line of course become confused, angry, distraught because they feel numb to women when they actually have sex with them.

They don't understand the importance of courtship and physical sex: It's not just about getting yourself off. It's a pleasure that should be equally shared by two consenting adults. It's about the chase, the chemistry, the build up. That whole dichotomy dance...n' sh!t.

Sometimes after sex I drop my girlfriend off and go home and jerk it. I've had sex before I left a hotel with a coworker, got a ******* in a car from a different chick hours later, and still looked at 30 minutes of porn...in one night.

I jerk almost everyday and have sex 4 or 5 times out of the week. Maybe it's because I have, and have always had an extremely high libido. I dunno. Regardless, I know the differences between jerking by myself to a fantasy movie and having real physical intimacy. There should be highschool classes on this.

 

[Strelok]

Of course that eating a steak is better than eating canned meat but guess what,some guys just can't afford steaks.
If they cannot afford steaks it's not that bad if their stomachs are full of canned meat and they have no place for a steak.

I try to avoid masturbation mostly for the effect that Falcon listed,since I like to lift hard in the gym and be aggressive,not aggressive toward women and courting but to men that piss me off and I find that masturbation if prolonged drives me in sissy mode.

 

[mrRuckus]

Oh please. Guys' girlfriends are fat and the porn stars aren't. Let's not pretend here that there's some huge issue. Get on the treadmill, ladies.

 

[Jitterbug]

It's porn? Damn it, I had my money on the ever expanding arses of American women instead.

 

[Mike32ct]

Masturbation makes you less aggressive when pursuing women. Porn corrupts your mind into thinking that women are sex objects. As an experienced man who has had years of experience on this topic, I would highly recommend cutting porn and masturbation to a minimum. If you don't jerk off, women also start to notice your masculinity. You are not only more aggressive, but more bold and daring. You can lift more at the gym, talk to more girls, etc. Porn is so bad for you that I can't begin to explain to you how good your life will be without it. Just stop and see. Try to cut it to once a week, then once every two weeks, etc.

Spot on.

 

[Boilermaker]

Masturbation makes you less aggressive when pursuing women. Porn corrupts your mind into thinking that women are sex objects. As an experienced man who has had years of experience on this topic, I would highly recommend cutting porn and masturbation to a minimum. If you don't jerk off, women also start to notice your masculinity. You are not only more aggressive, but more bold and daring. You can lift more at the gym, talk to more girls, etc. Porn is so bad for you that I can't begin to explain to you how good your life will be without it. Just stop and see. Try to cut it to once a week, then once every two weeks, etc.

Can I ask what your expertise on the subject is? Apart from years of watching (or not watching) porn?

Please don't hold your wisdom back. Please begin to explain how those poor chaps' lives will be so "good" without porn. I can't wait to hear.

As Zarky (Baudrillard to be more accurate) says:
Welcome to the world of hyper-reality. It's the age of Second Life, Facebook, and perfect porn-stars.

 

[Zarky]

You could just as easily tell people to stop watching movies, stop reading novels, stop reading magazines with attractive people in them, stop watching advertisements that show products that you can't afford.

Entertainment is the presentation of a world that's better than the world we live in. There's a multi-billion dollar industry built around it.

Porn is simply sexual entertainment.

 

[Colossus]

Masturbation makes you less aggressive when pursuing women. Porn corrupts your mind into thinking that women are sex objects. As an experienced man who has had years of experience on this topic, I would highly recommend cutting porn and masturbation to a minimum. If you don't jerk off, women also start to notice your masculinity. You are not only more aggressive, but more bold and daring. You can lift more at the gym, talk to more girls, etc. Porn is so bad for you that I can't begin to explain to you how good your life will be without it. Just stop and see. Try to cut it to once a week, then once every two weeks, etc.

I go back and fourth with the porn thing, but I think you are right. Jacking off too much can lead to depression, apathy, lack of motivation. If a grown-as$ man is jacking off more than a couple times a week it's too much. If you aren't getting laid on a regular basis, a little release actually is healthy for the prostate and such; but there is no additional benefit to be gained from jerking it daily vs weekly.

I def watch way less porn than I used to, but old habits die hard. I would wager to say ~90% of young American men watch porn on a weekly if not daily basis. It's so accessible. I think once in a while it's ok, but like anything else if you do it enough it will start to warp your perceptions. The real danger is when watching porn becomes more exciting than the real thing---then you have a serious problem and need to check yourself immediately. I dont think porn has been good for men as a whole.

 

[Falcon25]

Can I ask what your expertise on the subject is? Apart from years of watching (or not watching) porn?

Please don't hold your wisdom back. Please begin to explain how those poor chaps' lives will be so "good" without porn. I can't wait to hear.

As Zarky (Baudrillard to be more accurate) says:
Welcome to the world of hyper-reality. It's the age of Second Life, Facebook, and perfect porn-stars.

I am nine years older than you. I'm 34, I've been 25, have you been 34? I have watched and felt my body grow and change and evolve the last four years more than it did in my early and late twenties. If I knew what I know now at your age, I would do many things different. The first being cutting porn and masturbation to a minimum.

I don't care what you do with your life or how much you jerk off, but I know for a fact that when I don't jerk off, I am not only more motivated when it comes to women, but I concentrate more and am stronger. Are there any scientific articles on this topic? I don't know. I can only tell you my experiences. I have done almost everything known to man when it comes to sex with women. I have experienced things that most men on here would blush about, and all those experiences came from my AGGRESSIVE and BOLD attitude. I don't have that attitude when I fuvk myself. You have to keep it to a minimum. You have to save that energy. Besides, watching porn gives you the mentality that all women are the same. This, has led me to lose a lot of good women in my life. Life is not a porn clip. Not all girls like the same thing when it comes to sex. But they ALL like aggressive, bold, and strong men. Jerking off takes those three important characteristics away from you if you keep satisfying yourself everyday, or multiple times a day. God's Speed.

 

[mrRuckus]

Bah. Porn doesn't make me think of women as objects. I'd still prefer to have sex with a thin, feminine, loving woman, but since those are being bred out of existence porn is just fine with me.

I don't actually even like hardcore porn. It kind of disgusts me. I don't need to see some dudes d1ck doing anal.

 

[runner83]

I am nine years older than you. I'm 34, I've been 25, have you been 34? I have watched and felt my body grow and change and evolve the last four years more than it did in my early and late twenties. If I knew what I know now at your age, I would do many things different. The first being cutting porn and masturbation to a minimum.

I don't care what you do with your life or how much you jerk off, but I know for a fact that when I don't jerk off, I am not only more motivated when it comes to women, but I concentrate more and am stronger. Are there any scientific articles on this topic? I don't know. I can only tell you my experiences. I have done almost everything known to man when it comes to sex with women. I have experienced things that most men on here would blush about, and all those experiences came from my AGGRESSIVE and BOLD attitude. I don't have that attitude when I fuvk myself. You have to keep it to a minimum. You have to save that energy. Besides, watching porn gives you the mentality that all women are the same. This, has led me to lose a lot of good women in my life. Life is not a porn clip. Not all girls like the same thing when it comes to sex. But they ALL like aggressive, bold, and strong men. Jerking off takes those three important characteristics away from you if you keep satisfying yourself everyday, or multiple times a day. God's Speed.

Falcon, despite your silly attitude that it is wrong to bang girls you work with, I was going to give you a rep for thus, but it said I must spread it around more. Wtf!

This has been my experience as well though. Stop jacking off to porn and you will be more active with girls in real life.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

What’s pathetic is that, as per usual for feminine-centric porn complaints, the author lumps all porn into the same stereotypical profile. By ignoring the overwhelming variety of porn that any given man may “consume”, the sympathetic reader (mostly concerned women and their white knight sycophantic men) is left to presume “porn” means the unattainable, blonde hair, blue eyed, perky boobed, perfect bodied girl in nothing but high heels and ready to take the money shot in her mouth. Porn hating women love this caricature of porn because, for most, it’s just as unattainable for them to live up to as it is for most men to actually experience.

All one need do is look at the sex category sections of any free video porn site (Pornhub, Red Tube, Tube 8, etc.) to see what a parody this really is. Porn’s not just a blonde and brunette in a threesome with some random guy. It’s amateurs, asians, lesbians, interracial, orgy, fatties, skinnys, matures, teens, etc. Just name the body type, sex act, racial profile, age, hair color, etc. and there is a pornographic niche for it. Considering the sheer amount of sexual variety available for a myriad of preferences, women bemoaning their inability to “live up to” porn star requirements is ludicrous and indicative of their complete lack of understanding the male sex dynamic.

 

[squirrels]

The more sex I have, the more I'm like, "man, I wish it were more like porn".

One is just the general attractiveness of the women. Sure, I'll dog out a 6 just like any guy...but it limits the amount of "freaky stuff" I want to do. For example, there are girls you will happily f**k, but you'd never do something like a "69" with or lick her butthole if the shape and feel of her bottom-end isn't just so. Even some positions are weird if what you're looking at while you do it is anything less than a solid "8". When a girl is really good looking, you WANT to do stuff to her.

Another is the overall naughtiness of it. Most women are freaks in the bed, but never outside of the bed, for one thing. Doing it in places you're not supposed to, in circumstances you're not supposed to, in ways you're not supposed to. I do some crazy stuff sometimes...pop girls' t!tties out right in the bar and give 'em a kiss, then put 'em away before anyone sees, f**k in the car in the parking lot of a strip club...hell, I get less pleasure out of f**king a girl in the comfort of her own bed than making out with one in the stairwell at work. It's the thrill of it.

Maybe I'd be more apt to explore as well if I had more stay-power. I'm an avid porn-watcher and I think it's had just the opposite effect for me...the notion of getting used to getting yourself off as quickly as possible turns to getting off too soon with women. Especially if you get used to "fast-forwarding"...I get bored watching a man and woman in the same position for more than 30-60 seconds and jsut bump the slider up...next position, that's neat, next position, money-shot...DONE.

In an environment where the girls are getting paid for the use of their bodies, just about anything is fair-game, it seems. I'd love to find a girl who is that into the kinesthetic aspects of sex and is willing to admit it. To really ENJOY it.

 

[Iceberg]

I am nine years older than you. I'm 34, I've been 25, have you been 34? I have watched and felt my body grow and change and evolve the last four years more than it did in my early and late twenties. If I knew what I know now at your age, I would do many things different. The first being cutting porn and masturbation to a minimum.

I don't care what you do with your life or how much you jerk off, but I know for a fact that when I don't jerk off, I am not only more motivated when it comes to women, but I concentrate more and am stronger. Are there any scientific articles on this topic? I don't know. I can only tell you my experiences. I have done almost everything known to man when it comes to sex with women. I have experienced things that most men on here would blush about, and all those experiences came from my AGGRESSIVE and BOLD attitude. I don't have that attitude when I fuvk myself. You have to keep it to a minimum. You have to save that energy.

I'm 30. And I disagree.

Masturbation and sex are two totally different worlds. And it takes absolutely nothing away from my AGGRESSIVE and BOLD attitude.

If it affects you in such a way, then okay. But that's you. That's like me telling other guys that coffee is bad for them because drinking coffee gives me the sh*ts.

Besides, watching porn gives you the mentality that all women are the same. This, has led me to lose a lot of good women in my life. Life is not a porn clip. Not all girls like the same thing when it comes to sex. But they ALL like aggressive, bold, and strong men. Jerking off takes those three important characteristics away from you if you keep satisfying yourself everyday, or multiple times a day. God's Speed.

That's like telling me that TV isn't the same as reality. No kidding.

Anyone whose had sex with more than 2 women knows that girls get off in different ways.

 

[Zunder]

Masturbation makes you less aggressive when pursuing women. Porn corrupts your mind into thinking that women are sex objects. As an experienced man who has had years of experience on this topic, I would highly recommend cutting porn and masturbation to a minimum. If you don't jerk off, women also start to notice your masculinity. You are not only more aggressive, but more bold and daring. You can lift more at the gym, talk to more girls, etc. Porn is so bad for you that I can't begin to explain to you how good your life will be without it. Just stop and see. Try to cut it to once a week, then once every two weeks, etc.

So if I became a Super Alpha, fvcked a different woman every night, then I would then become less masculine due to the fact I am cumming every night? Whats the difference in the end wether you are fvcking or jackingoff? The end result is the same...you shoot your mustard.

All the stuff about about masturbation making you less agressive etc etc has been the opposite for me. The more I jack it the more aggressive I seem to become.

Work that one out.

 

[f283000]

So if I became a Super Alpha, fvcked a different woman every night, then I would then become less masculine due to the fact I am cumming every night? Whats the difference in the end wether you are fvcking or jackingoff? The end result is the same...you shoot your mustard.

All the stuff about about masturbation making you less agressive etc etc has been the opposite for me. The more I jack it the more aggressive I seem to become.

Work that one out.

Good point. I'm guessing that it has to do with the penis being stimulated by going into the vagina/you being with an actual woman which is a world of difference from you using your hand. This leads to a chemical reaction in your brain/body which increases your testosterone.

Someone correct me if I'm wrong but i'm sure it works like that somehow.