Arrrghhh I Can't Let Go!!!

[thatguy]

SHYT!! So many times I wanted to breakup with my gf and just couldn't go through with it.

Now we've come to a point where it's as easy as saying "bye" to break up, since we've come to another one of these points where it's clear that we can't stay together.

But, I can't let go. I know we love each other, we've been together for almost 9 months now, and she was my very first girlfriend. Yeah, I probably sound AFC, but I can admit I'm not a Playa and I don't really want to be! But, I don't wanna think that I will miss all the hugs, kisses, and sweet lovemaking... And yes it was great... But then, at other times I hated her guts SO MUCH that I was ready to throw her out of the car for the things she said and argued with me about...

GRRRRRRRRR... AFC, AFC, AFC, AFC....

 

[Knicknack]

read the bible and move on. there are plenty of other women out there.

 

[WestCoaster]

You almost had me. It sounded like she was worth hanging on to until you got to the arguing part and about wanting to throw her out of the car.

Look! Up in the sky! It's a huge red flag! Don't ignore it.

A few moments of pleasure is fun, but don't let it turn into a lifetime of pain. This woman sounds like she has problems.

Like the guy said before me: Read the DJ Bible, or at least read the articles of Hall of Fame posts on the sosuave.com home page.

Good luck -- dump her!

 

[Bonhomme]

You found her ...

You'll find others. Find one, then break up, if you're one of those poor saps who just can't stand to be without a GF .

Also, who's to say she won't change her ways if you show her the door and give her the gift of missing you?

 

[thatguy]

No.

Couldn't go through with it.

Not worthy of this site.

Going back into hiding.

However, still have my girlfriend.

Rules are better defined now.

The taste of separation has bittered both our mouths.

We go on living.

We go on loving.

We go on fighting [hopefully not much].

Thanks.

 

[NewMan]

The best indication of the future is the past....

Unless you both change your expectations and attitudes you will have suceeded in only putting off the inevitable

 

[GropeDope]

This sounds a lot like the situation I had with the girl who was my f-ckbuddy for a good portion of last year.

All I have to say about that incident is that you have to toss her before she tosses you. You're the one that is supposed to be in control. What will you do if she dumps you? You may badly feel like calling her in a week or so and begging her to get back together. Not only will your self esteem take a major blow by the loss, you'll probably be too hurt to find someone else. This is exactly what I went through, and THEN I got her to take me back (in bed) only to have more and more fights later on.

This is my opinion and I don't know if I'm right or wrong in saying this, but you should make sure it happens the other way around. If you dump her, it gives you the notion that you've "conquered" her (well at least this is what it felt like for me) after putting up with all her ****, and now you want someone better. Then again, in my case I was dumped first, so maybe I was trying to make a retribution dump.

I'm not suggesting you should go ahead and end it. I'm just trying to warn you about what you may potentially go through if she's the one that ends up doing the dumping.

 

[thatguy]

All of you are totally right... It hasn't worked in the past too well, and it will only get worse, and it has to end before it's too late.

I know all that... even my father told me the same exact words. But, I'm weak, and I hate being alone, so I think *something* is better than nothing. I guess, I'm not closing my eyes on other women, no one's stopping me from approaching them, but why do I need to end what I have now to do that? I want to try and fool the situation by leaving things as they are now, patched up, and looking for a better woman. Will it work? Probably not... but I'm too oblivious to see it.

Originally posted by GropeDope
This sounds a lot like the situation I had with the girl who was my f-ckbuddy for a good portion of last year.

All I have to say about that incident is that you have to toss her before she tosses you. You're the one that is supposed to be in control. What will you do if she dumps you? You may badly feel like calling her in a week or so and begging her to get back together. Not only will your self esteem take a major blow by the loss, you'll probably be too hurt to find someone else. This is exactly what I went through, and THEN I got her to take me back (in bed) only to have more and more fights later on.

This is my opinion and I don't know if I'm right or wrong in saying this, but you should make sure it happens the other way around. If you dump her, it gives you the notion that you've "conquered" her (well at least this is what it felt like for me) after putting up with all her ****, and now you want someone better. Then again, in my case I was dumped first, so maybe I was trying to make a retribution dump.

I'm not suggesting you should go ahead and end it. I'm just trying to warn you about what you may potentially go through if she's the one that ends up doing the dumping.

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by thatguy
All of you are totally right... It hasn't worked in the past too well, and it will only get worse, and it has to end before it's too late.

I know all that... even my father told me the same exact words. But, I'm weak, and I hate being alone, so I think *something* is better than nothing. I guess, I'm not closing my eyes on other women, no one's stopping me from approaching them, but why do I need to end what I have now to do that? I want to try and fool the situation by leaving things as they are now, patched up, and looking for a better woman. Will it work? Probably not... but I'm too oblivious to see it.

Woe is you.

"I'm weak, I'm blind, it's not gonna work..."

Take control of your life, man.