arms folded

[la-migra-is-after-me]

wassup dj's, dj's in training and rafc's

i know that when a girl folds her arms it means "leave me alone". but i have a question about this and i need ur guy's advice: ok i met this girl (i think in 2001 but im not sure if its her) she approached me on the when i was on my way to school, and apparently she was on her way to jog around the track. she went into the seat next to mine and asked me my name and we started talking. back then i wouldn't know if a girl was hitting on me no matter how obvious it is...we talked and as we were walking we were about to be split by a pole, she grabbed my arm and pulled me away saying it was bad luck to be split by a pole we talked for a little more, and we got to the track and she was waiting for something but i was too shy to ask her out..so i was just like whatever about it...then (yes this story has a point im just getting into how we are toward each other).......


then about a year later i got into the bus and saw this cute filipina chick again, she kept giving me the eye, and i was wondering who it was...but im not sure how to ask if it is her...but yeah i saw her and as she was getting off we exchanged hello's and how are you's.....and she got off and i was left wondering if it was her or not (what would be a good way of finding out? never mind i guess ill have to risk it and ask her b/c she did give me some info i could ask her about...

anyway about a month ago, i saw her again said hi and we just held eye contact, but she seemed to get nervous and fold her arms across her chest....i was just wondering what that could mean? i am gonna get her number next time i see her, but i was just wondering what that would mean....

(NO i am not an afc b/c she isn't the only girl i have my eye on right now, there are many more at my school i need to "check out"

the arm folding thing happened twice..the next was a co-worker that caught me checking her out three times b4 this meeting: i finally had the opportunity to say hi as we were walking by each other, and she did the same as the girl above: folded her arms and kept walking.....i am just curious to see how u guys would intertpret this action in the two situations above...the first girl im gonna go after next time i see her, the other one has a man so i nexted her, and there are two better looking girls working at my store anyway so im not stressing off of either.....

thanks for your help
la-migra-is-after-me: the un-afc

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

it could mean frustration or that they think u r staring at their breasts!!

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

The folding arms often mean nothing at all it's just an easy way of putting your hands somewhere. If it was ment as anything else it was negative maybe a "wtf you don't remember me?" or "oh dude wtf are you, Forest Gump?"

 

[Snoopy]

body language

Folding her arms doesn't necessarily mean leave me alone. It could mean she's cold, or maybe she's nervous or it could just be a habit of hers. It takes several signs for you to put together how a girl is feeling. With the first girl, she shows more signs of intrest than not (I think you already know this.) With the second girl, things seem less promising, at least at this point. You said hi and she walked by saying nothing? That's cold. Well maybe you caught her off guard. However she also crossed her arms, showing a few signs of disintrest. I don't think you should pursue this one, either she has low confidence (or you are such a stud that you intimidate her to the point of social discomfort) or she has low intrest. Either way I find them to be not worth one's time. The first one however....

 

[Speed Demond]

Introduce yourself and just casual talk.....seems like your comming on a lil too strong....don't be afraid to talk..and if she seems nerviouse..well thats a lil normal...But why the hell you asking Us..Why don't You Just try new ****t on your own..it'll improve your game a hell of alot more then asking lil afc questions on here

 

[Dee-Zy]

There can be million of reasons she's folding her arms.

She can be

physically cold
uncomfortable
comfortable
shy
pissed
defensive
nervous

or it can be a reflex, or an unconscious thing.

the only way you will be able to read the right meaning is through observing her patterns, overall body language, reaction, (manneurism in general), facial expression and tone of voice.

so basicly, you are

reading too much into this
overanalyzing
afc (yes I said it)
unable to read a woman
and stressing this for nothing

 

[Ice Cold]

Dude - you need to get out more. You sound like you've had one flirting session in the last year...

BTT: Isolated body language sighns bear no meaning.

 

[jungleman pete]

Heres a great site on body language I come across a while ago. Its a bit more scientific than other body language sites.
Although i'm not sure how to enter in websites on this forum its this address:

http://members.aol.com/nonverbal2/entries.htm#Entries

But I definately would say dont read to much into it though!

 

[la-migra-is-after-me]

ok

ok let me get this out of the way:

LMAO AT THE FIRST TWO POSTS!! HAHAHAHAHA

second: thanks for your input: you are right i do analyze too much......i can't help it, this kind of stuff perks my curiousity and i was wondering what your OPINIONS are.....maybe i am an afc, but we all have some (a little) afc in us, other wise we wouldn't be able to fall in love with a girl after going out with her for a while....but yeah we won't get into that.....thanks for your help..

la-migra-is-after-me: the un-afc (in my opinion )


any other thoughts? Final thoughts? comments? opinions? observations?

 

[Dee-Zy]

don't sweat it,

the reason I replied is to help you - not to say stop analyzing. I have to warn you though. You have to be careful because eventually, 'little curious' can turn into mad overanalyzing.

I said you overanalyzed because of the overly detailed story ONE YEAR AGO????

anyways, if you want to know more of this, buy books and read them. There are books on body language, just look it up on amazon.com or sumthin.

 

[la-migra-is-after-me]

nah i meant one year ago as a set-up...

u see my problem is, i do go out and approach, the only thing is i have troulbe doing it in crowded places, like buses, and stuff. then i don't do it consistently enough. the last girl i approached was tuesday (12/2), and that feels like a long time ago. i do put myself in situations to approach (there are only two malls in the immediate vicinity, i work at one, and the other doesn't seem to have alot of h*oes when im there), well there is one more mall but it got turned into a ghetto..but yeah my only problem is sometimes she doesn't seem all that insterested and its hard to keep the conversation going...but i can do it, i just didn't realize that the three posts that i recently put up were afc, but i guess that's what it is considered so f*uck it, ill just figure **** out for myself....but yeah, right on for your help and opionions dudes


la-migra-is-after-me the un-afc

 

[God Of War]

decision to make

I see the person I once was, the person I've become, and the person i could be. This may seem strange, but the latter invokes fear in me. I don't know why, but the the thought of me being better than i am now strikes a nerve.

Sometimes, when I'm just sitting quietly I can feel a sense of pure power come over me when I begin to vision the man I'm capable of becoming. Still i hold back...............

I've narrowed it down and I believe that the main reason I haven't let go and ascended is because I'm afraid I won't be able to control it. There is alot of anger and repressed rage that must come out before I can move to the next level. Basically what I'm saying is that I must evplode like a volcano if I'm to grow and mature. Trust me this is the only way. I've tried it all and believe me: nothing works EXCEPT

I think back to when I was in third grade. The teacher would go down the row making each student read about half of a paragraph. Well, once a couple of kids would read theirs(miserablely) I began to feel guilty, so I would pretend that I couldn't read that well to make them feel better. At first I thought it to be the noble thing to do , but since then I've become careless and let others abuse this priviledge.

This type of behavior and guilt has plagued me most of my life.
I'm fed up with shrinking so that others won't feel intimidated by my presence. I'm tired of feeling guilty for being gifted.

At any giving moment I could break every single chain that restricts any part of my life once and for all.
The only problem is my fear of people seeing the real me , the me I've tried so desperately to hide. You know what I'm talking about. The voice in your head that speaks with convition and fearlessness, but you deny it out of fear of being an outcast. You know, the not so friendly, never back down, take no shyt voice you continue to restrain because of denial.

I've come to a crossroad and I must now decide. Will I continue to deny the truth. Or will I let go and unleash the very power that each person comes to this site to attain.

I know alot of yall would say: Man, that's an obvious choice, but her me out. If I let go, I will lose control. Years of rage and repressed anger will flow like lava.

Here's the punch: My whole life has built up to these last couple of months. I believe this to be the beginning of a new chapter in my life. Destiny if you will.

THis is not a story to entertain you or teach you or even motivate you. This is about me and the battle that rages within.




I've placed this post here for a reason, only a select few will bear witness to it. The way it was meant to be.

 

[Skel]

Folding arms:

Defensive mode or uncomfortable with the situation they are in.

or it could just mean im cold

If you feel its defensive simply open her up with a neg hit, works for me normally unless i say something really stupid