are you still friendly w people who rejected you?

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

I mean my point is that she's in social circle w me so thats the idea of a thread

I'll remove myself from this convo, because social circles ain't my forte.

 

[DreamAgain]

Mode One won't prevent rejection, nor is there any single method that will.

Mode One allows you to cut through the bullshiit, and let's you know where you stand with the woman before you are 3 dates in, and your bank account is $120-$180 lighter.

Every man gets rejected..just move on and talk to other women.

The master has spoken.

 

[BeExcellent]

Advice from the old lady:

Kinda like the age old question can man and women be friends....it depends on the maturity of the individuals.

I have had great friendships with men who either I rejected or who rejected me. It is a question of ego management first and foremost. Can my ego handle romtantic rejection if I have a crush on someone?

In my 20s there was a really sexy guy I was very attracted to. He didn't feel the same about me. We never kissed or fooled around or anything. But we were social circle connections. I set aside having a crush on him and we became great friends. Like we'd chat about our relationships, we'd exercise together, we talked daily, we went out together....but just friend stuff, nothing sexual, nobody unrequited. While we were close friends I dated a serious boyfriend for several years, and my friend dated various women and eventually met his first wife.

We had an absolute blast together as friends and many fun adventures and my life was richer for his company and those experiences. We double dated often and he got to know my LTR well. We remain connected today, 30 plus years later, on social media. He has grown kids and is married to his second wife. I have grown kids and am married to my second husband. We do not interact with any frequency but its nice to see him happy & fulfilled and have a window into his life.

But this was only possible because I set aside ego, changed gears and went from a crush to platonic.

And guys have made that adjustment with regards to having a crush on me as well.

So there's something to be said for maturity and boundaries.

 

[CornbreadFed]

In my 20s there was a really sexy guy I was very attracted to. He didn't feel the same about me. We never kissed or fooled around or anything. But we were social circle connections. I set aside having a crush on him and we became great friends. Like we'd chat about our relationships, we'd exercise together, we talked daily, we went out together....but just friend stuff, nothing sexual, nobody unrequited. While we were close friends I dated a serious boyfriend for several years, and my friend dated various women and eventually met his first wife.

This highlights my issue with females having male friends. More than likely it’s some guy they would sleep with under the right circumstances. Even if it’s your stereotypical friendzone relationship, the guy will be willing to sacrifice his whole life to drink your girl’s bath water at any moment. Unless it’s business related, I only think high value men can be maturely responsible to have “female” friends.

 

[BeExcellent]

This highlights my issue with females having male friends. More than likely it’s some guy they would sleep with under the right circumstances. Even if it’s your stereotypical friendzone relationship, the guy will be willing to sacrifice his whole life to drink your girl’s bath water at any moment. Unless it’s business related, I only think high value men can be maturely responsible to have “female” friends.

Never crossed those lines. But we were both high value people with maturity and character.