Are you able to game a women when a situation just drops out of the sky? Or do you only game when you've planned ahead for it, when you know you're going to a bar or club and you know you're going to have some drinks and flirt and get in the mode? I notice that some guys, the naturals in particular who have never studied PUA, it's just game on 24/7. They don't talk to any woman casually. Every girl they talk to it sounds like their flirting with her. The waitress, the girl ringing up the groceries, it doesn't matter. It's just game on for them nonstop. Then there are guys like me who are not naturals and who don't naturally go out of their way to talk to others and pretty much mind their business most the time. It takes a conscious effort to get "in the mode" and feel that light-heartedness and spontaneity that leads to ease of words and flirting.
I found out something very important about myself today. I am not prepared. I'm just not. I've been studying PUA and game for awhile now and I don't feel like I'm seeing much improvement. Today, I was mountain biking. I rode my bike up a big hill along Muhalland Drive here in Los Angeles where I could get a view overlooking the city. I was exhausted, sweaty and it was a nice clear day out. I sat my bike against the wood fence and sat on it. I was just having a very calm, zen-like moment enjoying the clear view of the mountains, thinking about life and purpose and all this stuff. At this spot, cars often park for a moment and people get out to look at the view. These two girls park, in their early 20s. They go to check out the view and then ask me to take their picture. One was moderate cute blonde, definitely bangable. The second was a smokin brunette with a dress and a nice body. I took their pictures. Then made some friendly(actually too damn friendly) chit chat with them for about 10 minutes. They were from out of town and visiting L.A. and will be here till Sunday. We talked about where they were from, what they were doing here, what they've done in town, how much they like California, blah blah. And before I knew it, they said "we have to go...bye" and they were gone forever.
I don't know what the f*ck was wrong with me. They were both attractive, yet I didn't even try to hit on them. It's like my brain was completely in OFF mode. If this had happened in a club, I'd have had a different attitude. But I I'd been mountain biking for an hour and the last thing in the world I was expecting was to meet some cute girls just out of the blue. It was only when they took off that I started thinking, "whoa, WTF just happened here, why didn't I say this, when they said that? Why didn't I invite them out to a bar?? Why didn't I at least get an email???" That was one frustrating ride back down the hill. I was absolutely astounded with myself and lack of preparation. All this PUA sh*t I've studied, all this time reading sosuave and it was for naught. It would be like having studied martial arts for 5 years, then while walking, out of nowhere, some dude comes and sucker punches you and knocks you out before you even know WTF is going on. Not a perfect analogy but you get my drift.
I can't let something like this happen again. I need to develop a game personality that's always ON. It's usually off for me and I talk to most women I don't know just as people and not as potential sex/romantic interests. Only when I'm in an environment where that's expected, like a bar or club do I feel that mode switched on. This is killing it for me. Any thoughts?
I found out something very important about myself today. I am not prepared. I'm just not. I've been studying PUA and game for awhile now and I don't feel like I'm seeing much improvement. Today, I was mountain biking. I rode my bike up a big hill along Muhalland Drive here in Los Angeles where I could get a view overlooking the city. I was exhausted, sweaty and it was a nice clear day out. I sat my bike against the wood fence and sat on it. I was just having a very calm, zen-like moment enjoying the clear view of the mountains, thinking about life and purpose and all this stuff. At this spot, cars often park for a moment and people get out to look at the view. These two girls park, in their early 20s. They go to check out the view and then ask me to take their picture. One was moderate cute blonde, definitely bangable. The second was a smokin brunette with a dress and a nice body. I took their pictures. Then made some friendly(actually too damn friendly) chit chat with them for about 10 minutes. They were from out of town and visiting L.A. and will be here till Sunday. We talked about where they were from, what they were doing here, what they've done in town, how much they like California, blah blah. And before I knew it, they said "we have to go...bye" and they were gone forever.
I don't know what the f*ck was wrong with me. They were both attractive, yet I didn't even try to hit on them. It's like my brain was completely in OFF mode. If this had happened in a club, I'd have had a different attitude. But I I'd been mountain biking for an hour and the last thing in the world I was expecting was to meet some cute girls just out of the blue. It was only when they took off that I started thinking, "whoa, WTF just happened here, why didn't I say this, when they said that? Why didn't I invite them out to a bar?? Why didn't I at least get an email???" That was one frustrating ride back down the hill. I was absolutely astounded with myself and lack of preparation. All this PUA sh*t I've studied, all this time reading sosuave and it was for naught. It would be like having studied martial arts for 5 years, then while walking, out of nowhere, some dude comes and sucker punches you and knocks you out before you even know WTF is going on. Not a perfect analogy but you get my drift.
I can't let something like this happen again. I need to develop a game personality that's always ON. It's usually off for me and I talk to most women I don't know just as people and not as potential sex/romantic interests. Only when I'm in an environment where that's expected, like a bar or club do I feel that mode switched on. This is killing it for me. Any thoughts?
