are you getting laid? share some knowledge

[wise_mage]

Im not. havent had a chance in years.
but it amazes me the quantity of posts on the site where people keep talking about how women have no shame and that its so easy to get them to do anything now a days and all that sh1t.
I even read a post where this 2 something year old guy claimed to have slept with over 50 women. then the replies to his post came and it turns out almost everyones numbers are sky high.
I personally feel a lot of it is bullsh!t but then again, it might not be.
all of this gets me thinking, if its really that easy to get women into you and into your bed as well, how come it never happens to me? why am I being played for a fool by girls who are even below my range of looks and there are guys here who have slept with over 50 women? I dont know what it is really. I behave the way the site is all about. and why is getting laid such a prize anyway?
Im a virgin so I dont know what its all about, but I see it is glorified by everyone and its the reason both men and women do some very stupid sh!t at times.
it must be the best I think. such a force that drives society mad.
Im really looking forward to it. having lots and lots of sex.
but how oh how do I get to such situation, the question remains.
I was thinking I could get all this guys (and there are tons in here) that claim to have sleot with a lot of women to give me some advice on how to achieve it being that its so easy for them.
hope u post something intresting.

 

[jlujan]

Dude don't worry,

Some guys like to fvck anything that moves, others like me only do it with women that we truly like, you are right about one thing, theres a lot of bull**** on those threads, i wouldnt pay too much attention to the claims of some people, after all, if they where fvck champions like they claim, why would they be here at sosoave.com?

I have one friend that seems to be a master at getting laid all the time, the guy is not that good looking, but he has the right conversational skills to get women to open their legs, but the funny thing is that he is always alone, he can get women to fvck him in one night, but after that hes usless in any relationship.

Go figure.

 

[Ronin I]

Yeah man don't sweat it. It all depends. I know my hit ratio dramatically decreased after I left college. Just not as easy to get laid in the real world in my opinion (for a variety of reasons).

I'm sure some of these guys bullsh!t about how many women they've slept with and some are telling the truth. I've met a couple of guys in my time that were really, really good at getting laid.

One of them was a friend that went to a huge party school and had no standards. The other used to be very into the drug scene (coke, ecstacy, etc) and would party pretty much every night at this huge loft apartment of his - the b!tches would parade in, get all fvcked up and he'd be loving life. (oh and both these guys were horrible in relationships... career one-night standers)

I also think the city you live in has a lot to do with it. I'm originally from NYC and I had trouble sarging chicks down there when I would go to the big clubs in Manhattan. I don't know if it was simply the logistics of it (didn't have my own apt, parents house was about 45 min drive from the city...-or in some ways living in a smaller town makes it easier - you may see the same faces over and over and can build up rapport gradually) NYC is so freakin' big and impersonal. Anyway, I've since lived in 5 other different cities and some were definitely easier to get the puss in than others.

In a lot of ways sex is over-rated so don't even worry too much about it.

 

[Avsguy01]

Man your not alone on this topic......

 

[RKTek]

A female comedian compared sex to rain (or snow) this way. "Sex is like the rain...you never know how many inches you'll get or how long it will last."

In my life, it's been "feast or famine" and both situations have been completely unpredictable. Additionally, the quality can vary greatly. If I can wax philosophic for a moment, an attractive woman willing to have sex with me seems to arrive when I least expect her or am looking for her. Or maybe I should say that is the mindset I've chosen. I go on dates simply to have an attractive woman to share that evening's experience with me. If it so happens that she's also interested in throwing a little p*ssy on me, all the better, but I lower my expectations to the point that even if she refuses to kiss me goodnight aftet that first date, I've still had a better time than had I simply sat home.

"Happiness is like a butterfly,
the more you chase it,
the more it will elude you.
But if you turn your attention to other things,
it comes and softly sits on your shoulder".
~~By Nathanial Hawthorne.~~

 

[Oscar Wilde]

Originally posted by Ronin I
Yeah man don't sweat it. It all depends. I know my hit ratio dramatically decreased after I left college. Just not as easy to get laid in the real world in my opinion (for a variety of reasons).

And for me my hit ratio dramitically *increased* when I left college! Currently I've had 4 ONSs since breaking up with my ex 12 weeks ago, a lot better than I was doing when I was in college.

This site will help you with the core ideas and the technical details, so instead of getting "lucky" once in a blue moon, you'll up those rates to once in a full moon or better

Good luck,
Osc.

 

[wise_mage]

Originally posted by Ronin I
Yeah man don't sweat it. It all depends. I know my hit ratio dramatically decreased after I left college. Just not as easy to get laid in the real world in my opinion (for a variety of reasons).

I also think the city you live in has a lot to do with it. I'm originally from NYC and I had trouble sarging chicks down there when I would go to the big clubs in Manhattan. I don't know if it was simply the logistics of it (didn't have my own apt, parents house was about 45 min drive from the city...-or in some ways living in a smaller town makes it easier - you may see the same faces over and over and can build up rapport gradually) NYC is so freakin' big and impersonal. Anyway, I've since lived in 5 other different cities and some were definitely easier to get the puss in than others.

In a lot of ways sex is over-rated so don't even worry too much about it.

Im 19 and still havent gone to college. I just finished high school this semester (actually I still have to pass two other exams to get my diploma) and will have a sabatical year. So Ill actually be starting college around january, 2005. plenty of time to work on my game from here to there.
the thing is in my country people dont go off to college someplace far away from home like they do in the states, we go to colleges that are found right in our cities. so I dont think girls will get as wild as they do on the states, especially since they still live at home.

I live in a city that has about 1 million 200 000 habitants. I like the size of it and the fact that there never seems to be a shortage of new people to meet if you **** up or dont get along with a certain group of people. but according to some statistics I read, my city is one of the most conservative cities of my country.
but still, I see guys get action all the time, so thats no excuse.
I live in a suburb thats about a 20 , 25 minute drive away from downtown. I like the place, but sometimes I am so tired of having to drive all the way over there that I preefer to stay at home playing my guitaror doing something quiet.

I wonder if sex is really over rated. I have a small suspicion it is but I guess I wont find out about it till I get laid at least a few times with a few different girl. who knows, it might suck with one and rock with another.

 

[princelydeeds]

You have to learn understand and read women. Theres more to fishing than throwing a line in the water. You need to have the right bait. I know for fact that looks matter a lot. I lost 40 pounds 3 years ago, now my body is tight, I look good in clothes (not bragging because I worked my butt off to get this body, I run 2 miles a day, lift 5 times a week, do 200 crunches everyday). Before i tightened up the looks it was way harder for me to meet women. Now I get women to introduce themselves to me. I may not get every chick I want but I definitely get alot more than when I was pudgie. I have always been a pretty good dresser, Im usually a little over dressed, but it makes me stand out. Plus Im only 5'6" so I have to over come the shortness factor. I know if I can do it anyone can do it.

Im 29, I read women alot better than I did at 19. Experience matters, I won't lie. I screw alot of women I would never consider having a relationship with. i met a chick at a fight party satuday within 2 hours she came home with me. Do you guys who are complaining about not getting laid have your own apartments or cars? You have to have a little to offer. I don't spend money on women, but it doesnt hurt to have a decent place, and a decent car. Im a much better conversationalist at 29 than I was at 19. Hope that helps be patient practice give yourself time.

 

[-HPNOTQ-]

I'm not sure which country you come from, so I'm not sure if dorming is part of the college experience when you go.

In either event, my college dorm mate was a complete stranger that was picked by the college to live with me. He was a tall, lanky, dorky fella. He never had a serious gf and was a virgin also at 19. He had no friends from his Highschool that attended the University, so it was hard for him to open up and introduce himself to the social scene.

At the time, 3 of my good buddies were attending the Univ. So, we decided to make my roomate as part of the 'crew'.

To make a long story short, by the end of our first semester, my roomate was going to keggers, getting wasted, meeting girls, and actually bringing a cutie back to the dorm.

My point? You're at that goofy, wild, funky, point of your life..chicks dig that. More importantly, you're going to meet tons of guys, girls, and other people who will influence you in many ways. They can introduce you to new things, cultivate new hobbies/interests, and maybe give you the b*lls to pick up ladies. Who knows, maybe your future lab partner will invite you to a nightclub, in which, you meet the hot girl of your dreams.

IT can happen, and from my experience...it ALWAYS does.

You're at a great time of your life...RELISH IT!!!

I bet half the guys on this site would give up their 401K plan to have the DJ BIBLE their freshman year of college!!!

 

[princelydeeds]

Originally posted by -HPNOTQ-
You're at a great time of your life...RELISH IT!!!

I bet half the guys on this site would give up their 401K plan to have the DJ BIBLE their freshman year of college!!!

Amen Brother, you ain't never lied. If I only knew then what I know now. If only I had the Bible then.......??????

 

[Jay26]

Oh hell yeah, if I had this info back in college I'd be set, I was such a chump, had total HB's interested and then would just proceed to completely blow myself out of the water;p

 

[wise_mage]

Im from mexico.
there is nor dorm room experience here. at the end of the school day, each person just returns to their own home.

princelydeeds - Im only 5`7 as well. how did u overcome the short man syndrome? I at times feel kind insecure because of my height.

I am confused with girls. hope it all sorts out soon. girls are kinda prudish here though.

I am not a smart dresser. in fact I dont have a lot of clothes that I really like to wear. but I am going to the gym everyday and watching my diet and I have dropped over 20 pounds in the last 4 months and weight around 140 pounds right now which is great but I still wanna cut 10 more. I have a type of body in which I cant really look scrawny. not even at that weight. I look strong. but I cant seem to eliminate the fat on the belly area.
and Im doing pushups and small weights as well to keep muscle tight and packed. I gotta buy myself new clothes though.
I just need to find a style and clothes that look good on me, which for me is very hard to do. and I have to wait at least two more months till I have the money to buy them.

I know its not true but lately it just seems all girls want jerks exclusively. its like if u show interest in a girl and act kind and honest and direct they think ur a loser and reject you and stuff like that and if u misrepect them and make fun of them and ridicule them they try hard to please you. its like everythings the other way around. Im not talking about being an afc but about being a kind respectful of other human being. it seems u have to be a super jerk to get laid in this world.
I feel so confused.

 

[jlujan]

Hey Wise Mage,

Good to see another hermano Mexicano here, don't worry about your height, i have dated many women that are taller than me, its all in the attitude.

 

[WatchMeWalk]

Originally posted by wise_mage

I know its not true but lately it just seems all girls want jerks exclusively. its like if u show interest in a girl and act kind and honest and direct they think ur a loser and reject you and stuff like that and if u misrepect them and make fun of them and ridicule them they try hard to please you. its like everythings the other way around. Im not talking about being an afc but about being a kind respectful of other human being. it seems u have to be a super jerk to get laid in this world.
I feel so confused.

Lately, I've been paying close attention to the men I see parading with HBs in public. The vast majority of them are physically fit, ranging in build from lean to muscle-bound. Hairstyles are almost uniformly tapered and neat, often with thick hair gel. Where I'm from, the hip-hop thug image is an effective bait. At my college, the HB pullers are fratboys who are just as shallow, but don't inspire as much disgust as thugs. All these guys are very casual and aggressive about their sexuality, often I see them slapping HB ass with no hesitation.
An encouraging observation is that these men typically attract their female counterparts: attention-whoring HBs who love to show off their physical assets and wear heavy makeup and gaudy jewelry. Complete with a cellphone that should be surgically grafted to their faces.
Something to muse about.

 

[wise_mage]

Originally posted by WatchMeWalk
Lately, I've been paying close attention to the men I see parading with HBs in public. The vast majority of them are physically fit, ranging in build from lean to muscle-bound. Hairstyles are almost uniformly tapered and neat, often with thick hair gel. Where I'm from, the hip-hop thug image is an effective bait. At my college, the HB pullers are fratboys who are just as shallow, but don't inspire as much disgust as thugs. All these guys are very casual and aggressive about their sexuality, often I see them slapping HB ass with no hesitation.
An encouraging observation is that these men typically attract their female counterparts: attention-whoring HBs who love to show off their physical assets and wear heavy makeup and gaudy jewelry. Complete with a cellphone that should be surgically grafted to their faces.
Something to muse about.

so ur saying that this kind of girls only attract this kind of girls (which is to say the kind of girls I dont like)?

I like simple nice girls, who like to stay home and watch movies or a walk in the park or stuff thats not like loud and heavy like clubbing and dress simple without tons of make up and things that obviously are unconfortable. I hpoe u know what I mean.
I like alternative chicks, not preppy ones with mainstream thoughts and tendencies. I like skater chicks and intellectual artistic cute girls. they more of my kind of girls. I am artistic and intellectual as well and have this kind of alternative look going on. I dont have mainstream tendencies or thoughts as well.

how do you seduce this kind of chicks so to speak? is it any different than with the ones u talk about? what do the chicks I like respond to?

 

[wise_mage]

Originally posted by jlujan
Hey Wise Mage,

Good to see another hermano Mexicano here, don't worry about your height, i have dated many women that are taller than me, its all in the attitude.

hey jlujan - are you from mexico? where do u live? maybe u live close to where I do.

 

[es_mer8]

The last time I got laid was the 21st and I typed that in a field report. However that time was very unsuccessful and my sex drive is a little down at the moment. In fact, at the moment, I don't even feel like doing anything with women. I am going to take my friend's cousin around because he asked me a favor and I'm not going to be a bastard about it. The number gathering game is getting lame to me now. I may just spend the rest of the month on DJ sabbatical - play games, lift weights, slim down, work, and really not give a **** about women. Then I'll come back stronger than ever.

 

[matius]

Do you guys who are complaining about not getting laid have your own apartments or cars? You have to have a little to offer. I don't spend money on women, but it doesnt hurt to have a decent place, and a decent car. Im a much better conversationalist at 29 than I was at 19. Hope that helps be patient practice give yourself time.

In college I was a chump too...but I'm getting wiser and I agree with this 100%. I've heard hot women say, oh, you live with mommy. That's it. Game over on them anyway.

And thanks for sharing this by the way, I'm all about progression too.

 

[krd]

Originally posted by matius
In college I was a chump too...but I'm getting wiser and I agree with this 100%. I've heard hot women say, oh, you live with mommy. That's it. Game over on them anyway.

And thanks for sharing this by the way, I'm all about progression too.

That's part of my problem too. No apartment, no job, no car, living with mom (I am a student, by the way). A lot of stuff about myself I have to avoid talking about if I can. But getting an apartment and a car is something you have to work up to--you can't work at McDonald's and expect to be able to afford such things. What to do in the meantime, I believe is the real question.

 

[princelydeeds]

Originally posted by krd
That's part of my problem too. No apartment, no job, no car, living with mom (I am a student, by the way). A lot of stuff about myself I have to avoid talking about if I can. But getting an apartment and a car is something you have to work up to--you can't work at McDonald's and expect to be able to afford such things. What to do in the meantime, I believe is the real question.

You my friend, miss the point of all things DJ. The basic point is that attitude determines everything. All things DJ can be summed up by saying your attitude and confidence determine your success. As long as you say and think you cant, you wont ever be successful with women. I know guys who are 35 have like 5 kids and live at home with their moms who mack lots of chicks. Its all in the attitude, you have been defeated before you stepped up to the plate.

You have to learn to believe that you are the greatest thing since sliced bread. It doesn't matter what you don't have, because simply being you makes up for all your short comings. Yuo have to believe that any chick who doesn't see the good in you is truly losing out on the best guy on earth. Start believing in your self and I guarantee no matter who you live with or what you dont have you will be successful with women.