I am a classic AFC, I think. Or maybe I'm a BAFC. Unfortunately, I am a sensitive guy. Every time I really like a girl, I somehow forget everything I have read here and decide to tell her that I like her. And that ruins everything. This has happened to me like 5 times in the past year. When I'm talking to a girl that I am barely interested in, or practicing my game on, I usually do pretty well.
I think this is because I have been single for a long time, so when I finally meet a girl that I like, I tend to rush things. Most of them meet so many guys, that to them it is no big deal, even if they do like me. So in this way I am conveying my desperation.
I know this doesn't work, but at the same time it annoys me that this type of sincerity is actually a drawback when it comes to dating. I could care less about people's social status. If a girl has what I am looking for, whether physically or intellectually, then I like her. I am not going to be influenced by insignificant psychological effects like whether she compliments me or not, or whether she pays for my drink. But then again I am an intelligent and rational person. Most women are... I wouldn't say stupid, but they are obviously influenced by their emotions and situational effects. If you are a total douchebag, and you present yourself to them like, 'hey I'm the greatest guy in the world,' then they will probably believe you, to some extent. And if you do have a lot going for you but you are like, 'hey, i'm really not that great,' then they will basically ignore you.
I do think there is a way to be modest, and still be confident and strong. It's not necessary to abandon higher values just to get women. I mean that's kind of the concept of being a Don Juan right? At least that is my version of it. I just need to stop making weak AFC moves like showing neediness, or telling girls that I think they're hot, or that I like them, when we've only gone out once.
