"Are you always this forward with girls?"

[moldingcheese]

Alright, I went ice skating with this girl and it went pretty well. We were holding hands and I was rubbing her arm. Near the end she asked me "So are you always this forward with girls?" I was not very aggressive - all I did was rub her arm and hold her hands. I have never met a girl who asked me this. So wtf is this girl thinking?

 

[DJ4Real]

She thinks that you want her.

 

[Joe The Homophobe]

moldingcheese, you did nothing wrong! I say all this because im also very forward with girls. If I see a girl that interests me or if I see a nice girl that I have noticed looking/checking me out, that is a signal for me to attack. I initate a conversation, find out if she has a bf, then if it all adds up I don't hesitate in putting my hand on her shoulder and starting the kino. I do it the first time I talk to them always.

you got the right mentality to be a DJ. Remember that in this game men are the hunter, women are the prey. Guys that are confident and ****y get all the chicks. When she asked you about being so forward she adknowledged your confidence and by your post I dont see that she refused or pushed you away. When you are a forward type DJ and you have a situation like yours (happens often) there is only 1 move to make, THE KISS! You had kino and you holded hands and she didn't mind. She knows your intentions and so do you. There is only 1 route and 1 way to go about it. You have to kiss her.

My advice is to go out a few more times, keep up what you're doing (don't hold hands it seems needy, but do use other forms of kino LOTS) then when you have a moment where your close to her and can plant a quick kiss, DO IT!
You have to realize only 1 route to follow which is the kiss. Since you were forward with her from the start you can't slow down and change pace. If she wants you she accepts the kiss, if she doesn't you can move on to the next target.

 

[moldingcheese]

Uh oh, I think I screwed up by saying there are plenty of guys more aggressive than me.

 

[TheRelic]

"Are you always this forward with girls?"

"Only to those that are as receptive as you"

"Ohh.. so you're saying i'm easy?"

"I'm saying I like a girl that knows a good thing when she sees it"

Kewl... my first lines... anyway, may have worked better than 'there are plenty of guys more aggressive than me'

 

[DJ4Real]

Originally posted by moldingcheese
Uh oh, I think I screwed up by saying there are plenty of guys more aggressive than me.

What possessed you to say that?!!!! Yeah, man, that was a big ouch. There is a way to patch this up. Stay tuned, I'll think of something later.

 

[moldingcheese]

Ya I was really dumb to do that. I was really taken aback by that question and I lost my composure for a minute. I am thinking of saying this:
"I guess I got used to being forward to girls because this has always been the way I and my friends operated. I m thinking you have never met a guy like me. Well, you are lucky you met me because I know how to treat ladies the right way." wink
How does that sound?

 

[DJ4Real]

No no no, with that statement you sound like you are trying to seek her approval for that mistake that you made.

I've thought about it, there is nothing you can say to make it better. But, now you have to be manly and confident and "****y and funny" with her even more than normal. She may not be attracted to you now, but you can certainly spark it up again. Just be stong.

 

[moldingcheese]

She said her previous boyfriends weren't like me.
How about "You have been with a bunch of pussies."

 

[DJ4Real]

That sounds a little bit better. If you want to go up that route and say that. I would modify that and say " Well, those were "man pussies", it must have sucked having "man pussies" around,huh? *sound nonchalant* and *ndifferent* when you say it.

 

[moldingcheese]

What are the chances that she ll go to homecoming with me? lol

 

[DJ4Real]

I would have to be in person to be accurate. But if you play your cards right.....I'm sure she'll you'll have a 6.5 out 10 chance to get her there. It's worth a shot. Be smooth and interesting before you ask....don't just walk up to her and ask " HEY WILL YOU COME TO HOME COMING WITH ME?" no no no, don't do that.

 

[moldingcheese]

I m looking into the possibility that this girl might be prude. Anyone have experience with prude girls and can give me some advice?

 

[moldingcheese]

Ugh! I always think of something good to say AFTER I made a fool of myself. How are you guys so fast at things like this? Where's a good place to practice this?

 

[DJ4Real]

By yourself or online with women.

 

[moldingcheese]

How do you practice by yourself?
And update on the situation. She pretends to not see me when I say Hi to her. Even my ex who I so cruelly dumped still says hi to me, so I don't know wtf is wrong with this girl.

 

[DJ4Real]

Make up C&F lines and transitions and judge how well you think they'd work in a real situation. It takes logic to practice it on your own, so, if you decide to do so, judge yourself honestly.

She's playing hard to get.

 

[moldingcheese]

Good idea I never thought of that thanks.
Alright give me some advice with girls playing hard to get and do girls play hard to get because I have been needy or something?

 

[DJ4Real]

Originally posted by moldingcheese
Good idea I never thought of that thanks.
Alright give me some advice with girls playing hard to get and do girls play hard to get because I have been needy or something?

Most girls don't play hard to get because the guy acts needy. Rather, girls play hard to get to "test" to see how you'll react. What do most guys do when women "play hard to get"? They submit and they turn into wusses, and act like they need her attention, basically, doing anything for her to "make her want to pay attention to him or give him a chance". Well, guess what? these kind of guys get used and rejected in the short or long run. Do the opposite of what they do. Counter her game with yours. It's like chess, you have to do good counters moves to win "defensive game". You have to talk to other women and show her what she's missing and just be a challenge. Women aren't attracted to "easy men". You have to counter her play hard to get with yours. Even if the woman doesn't approach you after you play hard to get with her, if she likes you, you'll notice that she's "nice" and she acts "attracted" to you. It's only a test dude.


Good Luck