El Payaso
Master Don Juan
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Nice Guy: The nice guy dismisses what he used to value and what used to be important in his life.
The Jerk: The jerk values his priorities, his values, his time and his preferences. Always.
Nice Guy: She is the boss . . . of him.
The Jerk: He stays the boss . . . of himself.
Nice Guy: The nice guy senses how happy she is, paying close attention to her approval of him.
The Jerk: The jerk doesn't obsess over her opinion or need her approval.
Nice Guy: When she’s “into it” with the nice guy, he feels good; when she snubs him, he feels bad.
The Jerk: The jerk has more confidence, so someone else’s mood doesn't have much impact. Instead he goes out and has fun.
Nice Guy: The nice guy treats his interests as “little things” or secondary.
The Jerk: The jerk doesn't treat his interests as minor little things. They are his things.
Nice Guy: The nice guy gives too much first, and then negotiates reciprocity later.
The Jerk: The jerk gives only when it is reciprocal.
When a relationship starts off at lightning speed, the woman will at
some point pull back to regain her need for space and then the
man will be left off-balance. It’s then that the nice guy appears
needy, trying to “win back” her affections. This is when he jumps
through hoops. A woman loses respect for a man who needs her
approval, particularly when he will overcompensate to get it.
Don't be a Nice Guy. Be a Jerk.
The Jerk: The jerk values his priorities, his values, his time and his preferences. Always.
Nice Guy: She is the boss . . . of him.
The Jerk: He stays the boss . . . of himself.
Nice Guy: The nice guy senses how happy she is, paying close attention to her approval of him.
The Jerk: The jerk doesn't obsess over her opinion or need her approval.
Nice Guy: When she’s “into it” with the nice guy, he feels good; when she snubs him, he feels bad.
The Jerk: The jerk has more confidence, so someone else’s mood doesn't have much impact. Instead he goes out and has fun.
Nice Guy: The nice guy treats his interests as “little things” or secondary.
The Jerk: The jerk doesn't treat his interests as minor little things. They are his things.
Nice Guy: The nice guy gives too much first, and then negotiates reciprocity later.
The Jerk: The jerk gives only when it is reciprocal.
When a relationship starts off at lightning speed, the woman will at
some point pull back to regain her need for space and then the
man will be left off-balance. It’s then that the nice guy appears
needy, trying to “win back” her affections. This is when he jumps
through hoops. A woman loses respect for a man who needs her
approval, particularly when he will overcompensate to get it.
Don't be a Nice Guy. Be a Jerk.