'Are you a bit weird or something?'

[louis]

Hello all,

I'm a newcomer to this board, having discovered it by searching the internet for tips on dating and dealing with rejection. I'm based in London in the UK, and have recently become interested in dating women again after a long period on my own.

I've read a lot of the articles on sosuave.com, askmen.com/dating and the David D'Angelo material. My confidence is increasing in other areas of my life (I've recently taken up dancing, for example).

Regarding dating, I'm learning the importance of teasing, waiting, not chasing too hard, being confident and funny, and being a mystery or a challenge rather than 'just' a nice friendly guy. I like David D'Angelo's writing style, and his suggestion that men have an on-off switch and women have a volume knob.

I've started using what I'm learning on-line (useful for practice) and in everyday social situations, and I've noticed some positive feedback from women. Although I've yet to go on any dates, I expect to do so in the next few weeks.

Now a question (in fact two)

I received an email back from a woman I contacted on a dating site. I sent her a funny imaginative reply. And her reply to that was

'are you a bit weird or something?'.

I know I'm not weird, but it looks as though she didn't get my joke.

So, the questions:

1. Is this a straight rejection, or do I have a chance of dating her?

2. What would be a good reply?

 

[b's nuts]

when i do just random sh*t and my girl tells me im wierd, i always just respond with lines like, "is that a problem?" or "your point?"
just being ****y. also when she asks me to do something or tries to tell me to do something I always reply with "or else what?" or if it is something that I will do for her (i usually wouldn't but this gril does so many things like cooking and cleaning my entire place, just doing nice things for me all the time) but I will always answer with a salute like im in the army and shes is telling me what to do. just be ****y and funny in your response.

 

[Omega]

Originally posted by louis
Hello all,

I'm a newcomer to this board, having discovered it by searching the internet for tips on dating and dealing with rejection. I'm based in London in the UK, and have recently become interested in dating women again after a long period on my own.

I've read a lot of the articles on sosuave.com, askmen.com/dating and the David D'Angelo material. My confidence is increasing in other areas of my life (I've recently taken up dancing, for example).

Regarding dating, I'm learning the importance of teasing, waiting, not chasing too hard, being confident and funny, and being a mystery or a challenge rather than 'just' a nice friendly guy. I like David D'Angelo's writing style, and his suggestion that men have an on-off switch and women have a volume knob.

I've started using what I'm learning on-line (useful for practice) and in everyday social situations, and I've noticed some positive feedback from women. Although I've yet to go on any dates, I expect to do so in the next few weeks.

Now a question (in fact two)

I received an email back from a woman I contacted on a dating site. I sent her a funny imaginative reply. And her reply to that was

'are you a bit weird or something?'.

I know I'm not weird, but it looks as though she didn't get my joke.

So, the questions:

1. Is this a straight rejection, or do I have a chance of dating her?

2. What would be a good reply?

1. You killed at least half of her IL, since your joke obviously sucked However, you can make up for it.

2. Whatever you want it to be, there's tons of options. No one can really tell you what to say since you never gave us reply you sent, in which she asked if your wierd.

 

[jbbrain]

man, i wished I learnt all this shyt when i was 14!

It could have either helped me out tons to get laid super early...or completely destroyed my innocence and sanity.

 

[xblitz44x]

What did you write to her? Most likely you're trying to hard, and you're very transparent. Thats a big problem with this "playing the game" crap is that it is very unnatural. And to somebody who hasn't memorized and emulated well enough, it CAN AND WILL come across as weird. Think about it, we're discussing with random strangers how to act and behave a certain way so that women will like us...that IS weird. Try to figure out what you really wanted to write to her, and write that instead of what David D. told you to write.

 

[Named]

Where r u based?

I'm in London England, what part do u live in? i didn't know that there were many DJ's around these parts.

 

[mateo_g]

Seeing that you are 45, you might not to lay on the C+F so much with older women, unless you are going after some younger girls. This is a long process, learn what works and what doesn't; don't be afraid to try new things. If a girl gets flakey, just NEXT her and keep active.

If I was you, I'd next this woman, go out and start working the clubs, pubs, and anywhere that HB's hang out.

 

[louis]

Hi everyone,

Thanks for the replies.

Yes, she obviously didn't get the joke. Maybe I used a bit too much imagination in the humour.

Anyway, I have sent the reply: 'Flattery will get you nowhere'. I'm not anticipating hearing from her again, and have put it down to experience.

Thanks again for the input, and it's interesting to know that some of you guys have differing views on the effectiveness of some of the advertised strategies.

 

[Austin Allegro]

Louis, good to have some more London DJs on here.

Basically don't worry about what the woman said. You can't judge tone or emotion properly on emails/Messenger. Just make a joke out of your perceived 'weirdness' and carry on.

If she still flakes, next her. It's best not to email/messenger chat with women too much anyway, in my experience - try and call and set up dates instead.