Are women nowadays less empathetic then men?

[Ricky]

I don’t necessarily love the gender wars and i don’t want to give anecdotal examples to prove a point, but are woman nowadays less empathetic then men?

For men, it is believed that high testosterone mutes empathy, and women tend to have historically been considering more nurturing but that may extend mostly to their children.

who do you think the more empathetic sex is?

 

[The Duke]

I wouldn't be surprised if women have become less empathetic over time. I think some of that has to do with society's expectations. We've basically told them its ok to act like men. And for sure men have less empathy than women. Most studies back that up as well.

Some of the least empathetic women will be found amongst career women. My last LTR was with someone lacking empathy. Ultimately when it comes to addressing serious issues, its tough to seek a compromise. There's a total lack of ability to see where the other person is coming from and as a result its impossible for them to seek middle ground thru understanding. The only thing that allowed her to seek compromise was her desire to be submissive, not empathy.

 

[Manure Spherian]

I don’t necessarily love the gender wars and i don’t want to give anecdotal examples to prove a point, but are woman nowadays less empathetic then men?

For men, it is believed that high testosterone mutes empathy, and women tend to have historically been considering more nurturing but that may extend mostly to their children.

who do you think the more empathetic sex is?

Men as not empathetic is nonsense. Normal men are plenty empathetic and do plenty of protecting and rescuing and feel for those hurt and weaker than them.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

I don't believe women are (or have ever been) more empathetic to anyone except to their children. This is just a social construct not based in reality.

 

[itouchyou]

Women when pressed to their true nature are very cold and calculating beings who only have empathy when it requires nothing of them

 

[maturin]

I don't believe women are (or have ever been) more empathetic to anyone except to their children. This is just a social construct not based in reality.

100%

 

[plumber]

presenting empathy is different than actually being empathetic. most women are very good at showing empathy, but actually being empathetic is for men. would be interesting to measure philanthropy men vs women.

its my general view that women do not respect empathy in men.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Empathy as a word has a lot of positive feelgood connotations, but it really just means emotional intelligence, the ability to understand what someone else is thinking. "Street smarts" sounds different, but it is the same thing. Knowing when someone is sizing you up or trying to rip you off is still empathy. Having emotional intelligence by itself does not make someone a good person, it depends on how they use those skills.

 

[itouchyou]

presenting empathy is different than actually being empathetic. most women are very good at showing empathy, but actually being empathetic is for men. would be interesting to measure philanthropy men vs women.

its my general view that women do not respect empathy in men.

very good points. they "show" empathy but they don't actually behave that way.

they'll protest in favor of illegal immigration but when asked to house an illegal immigrant, they won't.



also regarding empathy in men, I believe it is seen as weakness. for example if Trump doesn't destroy his enemies completely and instead offers them a second chance, I think that makes him appear weak.

 

[Divorced w 3]

I think a lot of women, play into typical roles further their personal lives, which is what they’ve had to do since the dawn of time to ensure their survival as the physically inferior sex. I think that seeming to be empathetic is one of them. I don’t think when it’s viewed objectively that they’re more empathetic than men. I would say less so.

Women have no remorse taking a man for a proverbial ride, so to speak in the name of dating. A construct mind you that they invented for their need, legitimately , to project higher status so as to remain relevant to those physically more dominant . Asking a man to empty his wallet for her on a recurring basis is not empathetic. One example.

Another is on cheating. My ex wife told me yesterday she could understand why someone would cheat. I was shocked. Truly shocked. She would never have done that in our marriage and now she’s out in the world and she feels this is justifiable. Women cheat more than men, the men that laid their wallet and lives out for them. Is that empathy?

Women will do what they have to do to survive. They will stab pretty much anyone they need in the back to get ahead. Their friends will get the knife first. Their family, anyone that gets in their way. Men have a code. Men typically don’t do this.

I can go on.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Men have a code.

Women do too. Girl Code says you must always assist a fellow woman in her cheating and always snitch on any man doing the same. I remember driving to Tampa to see my soon to be ex wife and going to Busch Gardens with her and a friend of hers. I was leaving and thinking, "her friend was nice, but I feel like she is hiding something."

 

[BaronOfHair]

Empathy on it's own is more overrated than sending your kids off to junior high without their kevlar vests, all in the name "Opposing Safety-ism" https://newhumanist.org.uk/articles/5202/could-empathy-do-us-more-harm-than-good

Which gender has more of it is thus immaterial

 

[Barrister]

Women are less empathetic now than they traditionally have been due to societal influence. Less empathetic than men overall though? I’d say no.

The sexes show empathy in different ways. Women tend to offer outward support. Men will tend to offer helpful acts — especially to one another. So this can be difficult to judge as it is a little bit of an apples/oranges comparison. However, in the context of someone telling a sob story to a group of men and women, the women will (still) be the ones being most vocal in their support.