Are women intimidated by good looking men

[SayWhat]

This is a really ego-centric post, but I'm strugling with very low self-esteem and am wondering if these two have some sort of connection.

The question is clear, are women intimidated by good looking men? I get called good looking by women (aging from 20 to even 80 plus), by gays,... I feel that the women who are open about this don't really care, that they have BPD (see my previous post about my latest ex,...). Every relationship I had was with a girld who chased me and showed high IL. But I also feel that other girls are checking me out, but who are quiet (even to the point of arrogance). Can this really be because of my looks or am I just socially inadequate...
A post I recently made is about my social skills, they are terrible and can relate to these girls being arrogant (let alone the fact I have such low self-esteem that every move I make is thought about and thus injected with subconcious low confidence moves which girls can see...).

Thoughts?

 

[ucde]

Its not looks. You're clearly super, super uncomfortable with yourself and with people in general.

I don't say that as someone who is better than you. But people pick up on anxiety, and just reading what you wrote, I was taken aback by how self-conscious and afraid you are.

It's the work of a lifetime to come into your own skin as a man and own it, I'm still learning new things everyday. But don't fool yourself that "Women are intimidated by me" when clearly, even just reading what you said, you are very intimidated by them, other people, and the world in general.

Prioritize relaxation and self-acceptance over relationships. That would be a beginning.

 

[skinnyguy]

If you're good looking and on SS you probably have major social issues. The majority of guys here are below average looking.

 

[foreverAFC]

yes, many women are intimidated and nervous around guys they find attractive. many of them freeze up, will avoid looking at you, some will even appear angry. many will try hard to hide their attraction.

 

[prison/con.net]

read Nathaniel Branden's book. THE PSYCHOLOGY OF SELF ESTEEM

 

[MountainSlide]

Decide on what kind of person you want to be and think about what he looks like, how he dresses, how he acts, his level of confidence. Watch movies and see how actors portray the idealized man? You can portray that too. After deciding on who you want to be, create a plan to accomplish this goal; brainstorm and think of different variables in life and how they can effect you. I will give you an example: I have realized that my body is quite sensitive to sugar and processed foods, and when consuming it, I get an elevated heart rate as well as more anxiety. Weight lifting/exercising reduces my anxiety and working hard also reduces my anxiety (because I am proving my worth). If you want to have social status you are going to have to earn it by accomplishing things with your life, sometimes convincing yourself of a lie just isn't good enough. That's what being a man is, it is standing up, being strong, and going after what you want in life.

 

[latino158]

Its not looks. You're clearly super, super uncomfortable with yourself and with people in general.

I don't say that as someone who is better than you. But people pick up on anxiety, and just reading what you wrote, I was taken aback by how self-conscious and afraid you are.

It's the work of a lifetime to come into your own skin as a man and own it, I'm still learning new things everyday. But don't fool yourself that "Women are intimidated by me" when clearly, even just reading what you said, you are very intimidated by them, other people, and the world in general.

Prioritize relaxation and self-acceptance over relationships. That would be a beginning.

u sound like the typical pua who brings down the importance of looks

lmao

 

[WanderingMan]

Its not looks. You're clearly super, super uncomfortable with yourself and with people in general.

I don't say that as someone who is better than you. But people pick up on anxiety, and just reading what you wrote, I was taken aback by how self-conscious and afraid you are.

It's the work of a lifetime to come into your own skin as a man and own it, I'm still learning new things everyday. But don't fool yourself that "Women are intimidated by me" when clearly, even just reading what you said, you are very intimidated by them, other people, and the world in general.

Prioritize relaxation and self-acceptance over relationships. That would be a beginning.

I agree with a lot of this^.

As I just posted in another thread, looks are a part of what attracts women to you but it's your overall presence that's most important - which looks are apart of, but is also comprised of many other factors, including confidence...

If you're good looking and on SS you probably have major social issues.

Why would you say this? When it comes to women and different types of relationships, there's always room for improvement.

 

[MountainSlide]

If you're good looking and on SS you probably have major social issues. The majority of guys here are below average looking.

So are you trying to say that it is a bigger social issue for good looking people than not? As if everything is handed to good looking people and women just flock to us. Maybe only if the person had a bad enough personality would he end up on this site? I'm just saying, good looking people can rely on support forums and advice forums just as much as the next person. Especially if you just moved to a new city or are trying better ways to live life.

 

[latino158]

So are you trying to say that it is a bigger social issue because someone is good looking than if not? Or are you saying that women flock to good looking men and only if the person had a bad enough personality would he end up on this site? I'm just saying, good looking people can rely on support forums and advice forums just as much as the next person.

they do flock to good looking men, or men that they find attractive

you may think some guy is average, or nothing special, while some girl may find him very attractive, maybe she likes a certain race or facial features, etc

looks alone wont make a woman fall in love with you

 

[MountainSlide]

they do flock to good looking men, or men that they find attractive

you may think some guy is average, or nothing special, while some girl may find him very attractive, maybe she likes a certain race or facial features, etc

looks alone wont make a woman fall in love with you

That isn't the way our society is structured. The difference for a good looking man vs. unattractive, is whether or not he gets the girl he approaches and the level of effort. Only desperate women initiate and only ***** men think that they will.

 

[Poon King]

If you're good looking and on SS you probably have major social issues. The majority of guys here are below average looking.

You have no possible way of knowing that.

Don't get into the habit of projection. Just because you're hideous.. don't assume its every man on SoSuave. :crackup:

Women are generally intimidated by men they are sexually attracted to and men who have something they want and can't easily get elsewhere. If the woman is confident that she can EASILY extract what she wants from the man.. then she will not be intimidated. If she is unsure of her abilities or unsure of the man's ability to be manipulated.. then she might be intimidated.

 

[MountainSlide]

You have no possible way of knowing that.

Don't get into the habit of projection. Just because you're hideous.. don't assume its every man on SoSuave. :crackup:

Women are generally intimidated by men they are sexually attracted to and men who have something they want and can't easily get elsewhere. If the woman is confident that she can EASILY extract what she wants from the man.. then she will not be intimidated. If she is unsure of her abilities or unsure of the man's ability to be manipulated.. then she might be intimidated.

I agree, same thing for me with women. Super hot/attractive women make me feel more anxious than say a 6.5 or 7.

 

[WanderingMan]

If she is unsure of her abilities or unsure of the man's ability to be manipulated.. then she might be intimidated.

Right, and some women, no matter what, will not make the first move, or at least won't make it easy for you. Some will eventually make that move, but it will take some time for them to do so. And in that time, there's a lot of room for you to **** it up.

 

[latino158]

That isn't the way our society is structured. The difference for a good looking man vs. unattractive, is whether or not he gets the girl he approaches and the level of effort. Only desperate women initiate and only ***** men think that they will.

most men in society are average lol

approaching is waste of time anyway, go to the mall or anywhere where lots of people congregate, look at couple, 99% of them got together through social circle of friends, got introduced to friends, etc

most cute women are already taken because of this, by the time you see her, and want to meet her, she has probably already been whiteknighted, pursued, orbited by hundreds of men before you, who have tried, and are currently pursuing/orbiting her, and everything, you are not the first or the last, and you are not special

chances are she is already taken, and if she is not, what makes you think she will give your stranger ass a chance, when she has so many options in her social circles, or anywhere, even if you were very good looking, she may give you her number, but without chemistry, looks won't do ****, unless you make her feel some connection, nothing will happen

pua approaches were designed for the aspie people who dont have friends or social circles, so their only option to get women is through a retarded harassment approach

 

[Poon King]

Right, and some women, no matter what, will not make the first move, or at least won't make it easy for you. Some will eventually make that move, but it will take some time for them to do so. And in that time, there's a lot of room for you to **** it up.

There is no such thing as "f*cking up" with women. Such a belief implies women are a prize you must win. This is false.

All women care about is what you can do for them. They know exactly what they want and they know which men they can get it from. Its just a question of how willing those men are to give them what they want.

The bottom line is.. an interested woman will always follow your lead with few exceptions. When she flip-flops its always a power play or a manipulation attempt. ALWAYS.

Knowing this sh!t when you see it makes life easy.. because you already know the woman is attracted and will eventually f*ck you. So its just a waiting game. In the meantime you should be screwing others.

I rarely have the time to analyze the behavior of any ONE woman anymore because I spin plates. The difficult ones get forgotten. There is no "f*cking up" with women. There are just women who want to f*ck you and women who don't.

The faster men understand this the better off they will be.

 

[WanderingMan]

There is no "f*cking up" with women. There are just women who want to f*ck you and women who don't.

I'm going to focus on these two statments here^. Of those women who want to 'f*ck you', there are things you can do to make it so she does not want to f*ck you anymore. Without reading to far into this statement, do you agree with it?

Now, whether or not you care if you "f*cked up" or not, is another matter.

The point: your personality and game and everything that these two aspects of you entail, can change a woman's feelings for you.

That is the point, and that is what this thread is about.



One step at a time...

 

[sharkfin]

You have no possible way of knowing that.

Don't get into the habit of projection. Just because you're hideous.. don't assume its every man on SoSuave. :crackup:

That's hilarious coming from the king of assumptions and projection.

You should follow your own advice instead of do as I say not as I do.

 

[MountainSlide]

most men in society are average lol

approaching is waste of time anyway, go to the mall or anywhere where lots of people congregate, look at couple, 99% of them got together through social circle of friends, got introduced to friends, etc

chances are she is already taken, and if she is not, what makes you think she will give your stranger ass a chance, when she has so many options in her social circles, or anywhere, even if you were very good looking, she may give you her number, but without chemistry, looks won't do ****, unless you make her feel some connection, nothing will happen

pua approaches were designed for the aspie people who dont have friends or social circles, so their only option to get women is through a retarded harassment approach

I agree primarily, approaches are more of the exception than the rule. Best approaches involve groups of people, because groups mingling lead to people meeting one another. Approaches are only retarded when they are forced or unnatural. Like phaggy pua approach. Game is game though and if you have real confidence, sky is the limit.

 

[G_Govan]

yes, many women are intimidated and nervous around guys they find attractive. many of them freeze up, will avoid looking at you, some will even appear angry. many will try hard to hide their attraction.

This.

There's nothing more irritating than getting attitude from a chick you never met while you sit there and think to yourself, "wtf did I do to that b-tch?"

I won't say I'm a good looking guy because I'll never post a picture for others to verify, but I've had these experiences with women who I later found out had a "thing" for me.

I was at a job where I crossed paths with a chick I found cute and tried to make eye contact. She wouldn't even turn her head. After the 3rd or 4th time I encountered her she started smiling.

Sometimes they need repeated exposure to become more comfortable around you but if you're not sure you will ever see them again it's best to take a chance and approach. The approach itself can calm their fears because you showed outward interest before they did anything themselves.

I'm pretty good at spotting interest because of my experiences with all these things. It's actually hilarious when I get thrown off by a woman (who I find attractive) who shows obvious interest. It's so rare that I'm never ready for it.