Schadenfreudianslip said:
My question: how much do you Don Juans really want a woman who is basically a guy with a vagina?
Not at all. While companionship is important, I prefer women that are rather feminine, to balance out my masculinity. I find traits such as a social focus, "emotional intelligence" (for lack of a better term), sensitivity (to a point), and nurturing as traditionally feminine, as attractive. Focuses on vanity and appearance are not desirable, but there's no use in complaining about it.
However, there are also other traits shared by both sexes that I find important in a girl, such as honesty, compassion, confidence, intelligence, curiosity, love for life, and adventurousness.
I need a girl who doesn't mind going out of her comfort zone and getting dirty sometimes, but I don't want one who's playing rugby, shotgunning PBR, and making out with her friends when she's drunk.
Are you okay with women who have feminine psychological characteristics, like needing foreplay, cuddles, emotional intimacy, and occasional shopping?
Sure. I think foreplay is the most interesting part of sex, and cuddling and intimacy are enjoyable if they're genuine and reciprocal (and I don't have my arms crushed).
No shopping, though. Nothing but a waste of time for me.
I mean, women should not deny their feminine psychology and identity in general just becuase it attracts men. Are tomboyish women really the perfect women?
Like most things in life, most men will seek someone on the middle ground. You need to be who you are, as you'll be honest to your suitors and more importantly, to yourself. Honesty is attractive.
