Are these thoughts healthy? Have i entered jerk-zone?

[silverwex]

Hi all,

Ive been through a lot over the past few years in regard to girls/women and them treating me badly/saying one thing and doing another.

Now i think ive entered a stage whereby i DONT trust ANY woman and to be honest am a bit pissed off with themn in general. Am i entering 'jerk-zone'?

I doubt ill be able to trust any one woman 100% as long as i live. What are your thoughts on this?

Thanks

 

[DankNuggs]

are you hoping to become a jerk or something? no they aren't healthy, soon you will find another oneitis and it will all change...

 

[silverwex]

No im not trying to become a jerk altho id rather be a jerk than a nice guy/AFC.

Im just annoyed with girls in general - dont get me wrong im not depressed or anything, just a bit pissed with girls at the moment.

 

[stormwriter]

I don't think that's a negative attitude, per se.

People need to EARN your trust and respect. Some of the most evil things anyone has ever done to me were from women i loved, and supposedly loved me.

I'm very bitter about women, cause i've been run through the wringer and put back in again. If you guys don't know my story, i just declared bankruptcy last week cause i went into business with a woman, and she screwed me for $50,000. I won a legal judgment against her, but she's single mom with no job that lives in her parents basement, so i won't get the money, that's why i declared.

However, that doesn't mean i don't distrust all women. It just means my eyes are EXTREMELY wide open, and my awareness is high. These bad woman experiences in my past have raised the bar for future women. I WILL NOT accept a chick that lies. If she lies about something significant - SHE's GONE. Most people lie, but if they lie about big things, then GET THE F**K OUT!

That girl i sued, she lied to her kids and told them she was 33 years old, when she was only 26, cause she didn't want her kids doing the math and figuring out how young she was when she had them!
It took her a year of being with her before she divulged that her kids weren't from the same dad. It took her about three months to tell me that her nine year old BROTHER was actually her son that she had at age 15, that her parents adopted.

So, that's just some of my experiences. In summary, people have to earn your trust.

Silverwex, you are looking out for #1, and that's YOU. Make them work to prove themselves to YOU. That's not being a jerk, that's protecting yourself from pain, misery, and possible BANKRUPTCY!!! haha....

 

[silverwex]

Thanks storm - very good post.

Sorry to hear about your dilemma! Best of luck man!

 

[fan27]

Wether it be meeting potential friends or lovers, I find that a resentfull attitude is a total turn off.

 

[Oscar Wilde]

I dunno guys...

I'm quite a trusting person, and whilst yes, I have been screwed over on occasion, I do find that if you trust people then they come to trust you too, very quickly. And because of that, they like you, and this helps the whole process.

People can smell your distrust.

So I recommend being slightly more cautious about who you trust, but do not hold back when someone seems trustworthy - because you will seem like the untrustworthy one.

And if you get screwed, learn from it, and be more cautious. But don't stop trusting people.

Storm, that's a bad tale, I feel for ya man.

Oscar.

 

[bugsquish]

I hear all these stories about women screwing guys over and I just feel like I've been so lucky and too stupid to realise. Almost every girl who has ever got close to me has been a complete angel in every way (especially my 4 year ex), and I am the one who always screws it up. I am the one who has treated them like **** and lost them.

 

[Oxide]

You'll understand uve entered jerk zone when girls call u *******, and so do your MAle friends. i mean call you on that ALL The time.

that is what happened to me, so i toned down jerk and turned up alpha, now its great.