Are there some people just blind to this whole thing?

[teddy]

Met up with a guy I knew a few years ago to catch up. Talked about all the normal stuff; naturally we started talking about women and he basically was telling me he was having oneitis for this one girl.

-They were friends for 3 years.
-They would do everything together: watching movies, getting drinks, go to concerts, comedy clubs
-Would text an average of 70 (!) text messages a day
-Nothing physical ever happened between them
-In the mean time she starts dating other guys.
-Started walking all over my friend. For instance, she was his "date" at a wedding and left after an hour to see her "other friends" and left him out to dry.
-They started skyping every day. My friend finally realizes he's acting like a boyfriend without the benefits of being one, so abruptly stops skype without telling her. She blows up his phone, keeps asking where he was, etc.
-Girl gets into another relationship with a dude.
-Drunk texts my friend that "there are no good guys in the world."
-Guy snaps, completely drops her

-My friend has begun to start the cycle with another girl. Hangs out with her for past 3 months, nothing physical, sees movies, has conversations over drinks, etc.


Now I've been in bad situations. But nothing like this. I'm sure there a lot in the community who can attest to experiences like this.

If nothing happens at max of 2 dates for me, I cut the girl off. If she is in a LTR, don't bother with her. It just wastes my time. At this point, it's so clear to me and mostly so easy to just stop things if I nip it in the bud in time.

But this guy here is just repeating his mistake all over again. I even tried to help him out, but are there some people who just don't want to help themselves?

 

[Bizzle13]

There's a massive amount of guys that are in similar or worse situations. I'm currently in the process of trying to help a friend with classic 'now I don't have her I can't live without her' oneitis. No matter how solid my advice (gets the same advice from his dad and grandad) he won't hear it. It gets to a degree where you stop pitying them and want to bang their head against a wall made of blue pills!

 

[foreverAFC]

a lot of guys will have to learn the hard way, some will never learn at all

 

[Trixx]

Tough, some guys will always be in the friendzone.

If you do the same things, you can't expect different results.

 

[DarkDetective50]

The devastating part is that he might never wake up. The older he gets, the older the women get and at that point, all the women will have on their mind (after having their slut phase) is to find a chump like him who will put a ring on their finger and worship them for the rest of their life. Really sad and pathetic. A moment of silence for another lost soul.

 

[Jair213]

All my friends are AFC's.. its pathetic talkin to them about girls. Some guys will never learn and remain afcs there whole lifes..
Maybe only 10 percent of them will wake up and that's a devastating number.

I feel blessed that I came upon the dj bible. I'm having all my nephew's and cousins that are in high school read it. Pass the knowledge to the young ones at an early age. They will thank you later in life.