Are relationships worth it?

[SharinganUser]

I want to know what you guys think about relationships with women. I am starting to doubt that relationships are nothing more than two deluded mental humanbeings that like being together. Every time I try to date a chick she will tell me after the fact, that she's either married, getting married, or has a boyfriend. Dont get me wrong these aren't all women that rejected me, I've slept with most of them and my friends fvck buddies have told me that they have a boyfriend waiting for them somewhere. I wont even get into the rising divorce rates where half your **** ends up gone.

That's just my opinion.

Are relationships worth it?

 

[canadianmetalhead]

most people here might tell you otherwise, but being in love with someone is actually an incredible thing, and not something to be afraid of or avoid. just make sure its not with some psycho

 

[dannyegg4575]

Well, modern days, we are brainwashed to think that relationships are bad blah blah blah...
there is no real answer... it depends on who you meet and if the chemistry is there I think. Because if you do meet someone that matches what you look for in a partner, you're in for a good ride.

why do we even want to get into a relationship? well, ask yourself, is it the same when you have accomplished something and you are happy about it alone? or is it much better when you have someone to share that happiness with?

This is something that you will have to figure out for yourself. You see, I still believe in it despite what society tells me otherwise.

 

[j0n024]

Personally for me I dont think that relationships work anymore, we have so much crap going on right now that is actually making everyone independent that relationships dont work anymore. Now there is a difference between having a relationship or marriage and being in love....the difference I will leave for you to figure out but there is a big difference.

Now the best advice I have ever gotten about this sort of subject is this.......ALWAYS I mean ALWAYS put your belongings like car, house....big things in your PARENTS NAMES....I know it sounds childish but it is a very very good backup play for divorces, my uncle went through 2 divorces....first one he got cleaned out he is a defendant so he was able to recover pretty quickly but the second one he was ready and when he got a divorce the b1tch got nothing but her clothes and handbags...lol I was there for some reason cant remember and when she found this out the b1tch was pissed...I mean damn. So always remember what I said.

 

[rimman]

Relationships don't have to be two old people sitting in front of martha stewart all day.

It becomes what you make it. Make sure u have fun

 

[KontrollerX]

Well its not really a question for us to answer as its about what a person wants on an individual level but since you want our take I think they are alright so long as you make sure to screen the chicks out thoroughly for any red flags and make sure she is not late teens to early 20's if you are looking for a long term relationship with a partner you can depend on and trust and share emotions with.

Also you have to keep in mind even the best screened and selected chick for a mature age level to have a relationship with can turn on you so you need to know that all you can do to combat this is to be the best man you can be, pay attention to massive behaviour changes in the girl be they bad or good and bail at the first mention of her suggesting you both take a break from the relationship or disrespect of you starts up and gradually climbs over time.

So while there is no full proof method to weed out and avoid deserters, cheaters and turncoats entirely you can at least be a DJ in such a way and screen in such a way that it makes the chances of the chick leaving you or cheating on you lower than they'd be in say getting with the first chick that says yes to a relationship with you.

 

[Mistic]

I think alot of guys get into LTR's for AFC reasons. Primarily to grasp at some assurance that they will have exclusive pvssy rights.

 

[lookyoung]

If you look at things from a DJ principle than in my opinion there are very few girls that are LTR material. I would say less than 10% of the girls I have dated I could actually make my GF. However I think a DJ should not turn his back on a girl he really clicks with. I think that a guy who has the right girl behind him is a happier guy than a guy who is single. Very few men meet that girl, But for the ones that do I would say its a good thing.

Every man should be open to falling in love and giving his love. But it has to be with a girl who has a high interest level in you and you must have a high IL in her. If not your wasting your time.

 

[Sir I]

as DJ it shouldn't matter LTR or not, mostly since your living for yourself and carry on with your own goals. the Problem with a LTR is simple you are making the LTR your goal so there by moving your attention towards the woman making her more important than other goals.

I've been in LTR 4 times since I've been 18. I've been dumped the first 2 times the last two times I've ended the relationship. indeed it was really nice at times and it gives a different kind of feeling I guess your missing at this moment.

it all comes down towards being ready to drop the DJ arts into seducing and using or benefitting from them towards hanging on to a single woman. it might be hard since you'll now be more emotionally effected with the woman on the other hand it could make it easier cause you know the signs.

as a HB of mine once said, "I just go into a relationship and see how it goes I can allways chose to go for myself."

 

[Snow Plowman]

Coming from a guy who would never get married, a relationship is actually worth it.

All a relationship is, is a shared experience and shared reality of two people. The energy build up process is even more intense.

It's only recently that I realized how fun a relationship can be.

The thing that makes relationships seem bad is because AFCs go in for needy reasons. Do you honestly think if your a cool guy who knows how to excite women, that she'll leave you for some AFC?

There is a chick with a BF who wants me to fuk her silly. This chick is into me a whole lot but I try not to move it forward.

While learning this I had a chick who was a MLTR. For two years we were together. One of the best relationships
- She wanted to take me to two cruises
- She wanted to take me to puerto rico
- She wanted to share an apt together
- She always was showing her sexual side
- We always have a great vibe
- Insane shared experiences...been to a amusement park, club, many food places.

Relationships are fun but if your an AFC it might not be worth it. I think I've had some of the best relationships even though people around me have had more relationships than me.

 

[DonGorgon]

Relationships are obsolete in 2008... there is too much competition among males and females now that women are in the work force with us. The male female dynamic has been retarded and its realy every man for himself now. Men and women often see each other as an another opportunity to get sex and or money, then a liability in other areas.

 

[canadianmetalhead]

Relationships are obsolete in 2008... there is too much competition among males and females now that women are in the work force with us. The male female dynamic has been retarded and its realy every man for himself now. Men and women often see each other as an another opportunity to get sex and or money, then a liability in other areas.

im not trying to attack you here but that is a lame excuse. you cant just generalize like that. sure there are attention wh0res who just seek social proof and money, but not all women are like that, just the ones you meet at clubs in their early 20s. I think alot of people on this forum have just been hurt before and are afraid of getting hurt again. this may or may not be your circumstance but having a meaningful relationship with a woman is an incredible thing, beats a one night stand no matter what in my opinion

 

[SickAgain]

Relationships are obsolete in 2008... there is too much competition among males and females now that women are in the work force with us. The male female dynamic has been retarded and its realy every man for himself now. Men and women often see each other as an another opportunity to get sex and or money, then a liability in other areas.

I gotta go with c.metalhead on this one. If relationships were obsolete everyone would be single, which obviously isn't the case. Nevertheless my view on relationships: your best friend whom you get to fvck. Therein lies the issue of trust.

 

[Technical1]

good answers, interesting read. I especially liked Interceptor and Snow Plowman's thoughts.

Whatever the consensus is, I'm staying out of relationships for at least a while into the future....how else can you perfect your 'Game'?

 

[vagrant]

If you look at things from a DJ principle than in my opinion there are very few girls that are LTR material. I would say less than 10% of the girls I have dated I could actually make my GF. However I think a DJ should not turn his back on a girl he really clicks with. I think that a guy who has the right girl behind him is a happier guy than a guy who is single. Very few men meet that girl, But for the ones that do I would say its a good thing.

Every man should be open to falling in love and giving his love. But it has to be with a girl who has a high interest level in you and you must have a high IL in her. If not your wasting your time.

Wow. Just wow. He knows what he's talking about. I'm actually lucky to be in a relationship I'm in right now. Fellas. Keep looking for that girl who you just click with, who has high interest in you, and that you have high interest with. There's nothing else better than that!~

 

[JackPrescott]

I think alot of guys get into LTR's for AFC reasons. Primarily to grasp at some assurance that they will have exclusive pvssy rights.

Idiotic. Relationships with a great partner, are what it's all about. COMPATIBILITY, the ability to enjoy each other's company regardless of where you are, and complete and unadulterated support for each other. If you are in a successful relationship, and lets say you are a MASSIVE NFL fan. On Sundays, this woman helps regulate a big party at the Apartment you share, she makes Hot Wings for everyone, sets out the cold cuts, and when the game starts, is wearing a jersey of your favorite team. She pops open a beer for you, and one for herself, and kisses you when your team makes a touchdown.

She KNOWS that you enjoy the NFL and even if she isnt a fan, she indulges with you, and spoils you on that day.


Vice Versa. Lets say she loves to watch movies at the Cineplex. You two make every Saturday night "movie night" , dinner before the show, and the movie itself, ice cream for dessert, and coffee afterwards. You sit through chick flicks with her, because you simply enjoy being around her. If you are in love with her, she will be slapping your hands away (not too hard though) when you cop a feel, the entire boring movie.

WHO THE FUKK wants to stay on the Gotdammned Dating Scene forever? Sarging, and ****y funny, and mindgames, and cold approaches, for good? Wow, eventually, you want to settle with a woman, who you love and trust, and are deeply emotionally attached to and sexually attracted to.

Or, you can sit home and jack off to the Playboy Channel like yourself, on another unsuccessful hunt.

 

[DonGorgon]

..but not all women are like that,

When did I say all of anything was anything?

 

[DonGorgon]

I gotta go with c.metalhead on this one. If relationships were obsolete everyone would be single, which obviously isn't the case. Nevertheless my view on relationships: your best friend whom you get to fvck. Therein lies the issue of trust.

A sad reality is that Most people, single or not single, tend to still live and act as though they are single.. hence the 80% divorce rate and 99% infidelity rates - hence te hOP's statement below.

...I try to date a chick she will tell me after the fact, that she's either married, getting married, or has a boyfriend. Dont get me wrong these aren't all women that rejected me, I've slept with most of them and my friends fvck buddies have told me that they have a boyfriend waiting for them somewhere. I wont even get into the rising divorce rates where half your **** ends up gone.

That's just my opinion.

Are relationships worth it?

 

[tick37]

most people here might tell you otherwise, but being in love with someone is actually an incredible thing, and not something to be afraid of or avoid. just make sure its not with some psycho

The "in love" feeling will only last at most about 3 years. After that, it's a different love that holds it together, and it becomes a whole lot of work. So, make sure she's one you can trust and has mutual respect for you. Watch for flags, and always be willing to walk away. That willingness to walk away helps keep her in line.

 

[DonGorgon]

The "in love" feeling will only last at most about 3 years. After that, it's a different love that holds it together, and it becomes a whole lot of work.

An combine that work wit going to work and paying bills etc and you have minimal patience and a 90% failure rate...