Are Internet relationships as valid as real life relations?

[crackers444]

I'm wondering what your views are on internet relationships and the validity of them in comparison to real life relationships? I find I connect so much better with people,namely girls. One girl in particular, whom you could say is my internet girlfriend. We seem to connect well, we have been chatting for several months now and have similar interests, come from same type of city and share same birthday,however she hasn't been online as much recentley as when we initially started chatting at first(she has been busy). She has mentioned that she would like to meet me sometime, she lives in another province quite a distance from me, so it would be awhile if she were to meet me. We do have webcams and mic, so that helps a lot when we converse and makes the distance shrink you might say. I plan to get her phone number and we can chat that way. I would like to hear your advice or experiences with internet relationships, it would be appreciated!

 

[aliasguy]

So you have never met in person? Have you at LEAST spoken to her on the phone?

This seems SO weird to me, but I'm old, and the internet stuff seems so new/weird to me.

Good luck, man.

 

[spax]

You have been chatting for months now and you're not tearing up that pvssy yet?

Fail.

 

[ducaro]

Haven't met her as yet!!

That's like owning a mango tree and waiting for the mangoes to go ripe, while the naughty boys flick the unripe mangoes from your tree and pickle them!

 

[KontrollerX]

They're valid if you live within a reasonable distance of the person and get to meet them shortly thereafter to get to know eachother in person and hopefully fvck eachother's brains out.

My buddy met his current girlfriend on Myspace and she lives about an hour or an hour and a half away from him.

Thats not too bad a distance I'd say and they are together all the time.

If however you can't meet this chick for years you might as well turn it into friendship if you value her in your life in any capacity as eventually she is going to yearn for the physical touch of a man, in fact you both will yearn for the physical touch and intimacy of the opposite sex as that is only natural and you cannot get this from eachother being thousands of miles apart.

This will only lead to heartache and pain for one of you as one of you will eventually meet someone in your area and get too "busy" to talk to the other person as frequently until one day you finally get the inevitable breakup letter explaining how wonderful you are but since you both can never be together its best you just be friends or go your seperate ways.

So yeah dude you should just think about ending the relationship aspect of this with her now rather than waste your life away loving the invisible friend who will eventually go fvck some guy she can actually touch and break your heart in so doing.

If you can find a way to be together very soon though great and I hope it works out for you but yeah unless you two can be together soon and stay in the same living area as eachother it just won't work out.

One of you will betray the other and by you saying she seems "busy" lately I think I know who the traitor is going to be.

 

[PrinceBeavis]

Sure the internet thing works great. I have friends all over the world, and we get together on occasion and have a great time, some of my friends have hooked up, and it works out ok...though the long distance thing makes them completely insane from not being able to see each other very often.

As long as everyone is representing what/who they really are, there's no reason why it can't be a possibility....it's a little weird at first when you meet in person. You get to really know someone on-line, then face to face, you kind of have to start over new, but then you usually end up progressing much faster than if you just met without the internet thing.

 

[The Forms]

You've been chatting for months and don't even have her number?

This just seems like a lot more hassle than it's worth is all. There have got to be girls in your town who you could date. I understand that meeting girls online is easier because you don't have the fear of rejection, and you converse more slowly so you can better plan out what to say. But really, if you're going to do the net thing, why don't you just try to meet girls online who live in your hometown?

Seems like a lot more hassle. I'd keep flirting with this girl (because, why not?) but I'd put more effort into meeting girls I could more realistically MEET.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Internet relationship: You may feel like you connect and share love over the internet. But, it's all a false feeling you create in your mind.

Real Life Relationship: You get all the emotions, feelings, and sex that is real.

What are you really geting out of a relationship over the internet? A companion, Someone to talk to, cyber sex... If that is what you want over a real relationship then, cool. Which path will you take?

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

You don't have a relationship, you have a Buffer against rejection.

Start here: Buffers

 

[PrinceBeavis]

I'll remind my TWO buddies that online is "fake" and a "buffer" when I attend both of their weddings next year....oh, and I'll remind the hottie that approached me on my last travel that came from hanging out online.
You guys are SO non-Don-Juan.

 

[DJDamage]

I'm wondering what your views are on internet relationships and the validity of them in comparison to real life relationships?

you are not much better off then this guy:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8cZSWb4nQVA

 

[bukowski_merit]

this past summer, when school wasn't in session and my towns population of sexy women drops from 5000 to 5 - i decided to try the online thing (myspace).

it was more or less a test to try it out... so i learned a lot about the online world of dating at that point...

i'm also very good at the email game (specifically at work)...

so listen to me when i say: if she's not responding as much to you anymore, and seems to be too busy - it's because you're unable to increase her interest in you any further. if you want to meet her - you need to do it now. and if she has a basket of excuses - that's a sign right there that should tell you what the score is (nothing to nothing because he game isn't even being played).

but yeah, i guess a real relationship could happen from a long-distance online relationship. but i personally don't get the same rush from the online thing, as i do in going out and talking a girl out her panties in one night... no comparison...

so it wouldn't be a valid o me... but i'm not you, am i?

 

[Phyzzle]

And how exactly do you know that "she" isn't a cross-dressing 50 year old man?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Real life vs. the Internet...

http://gprime.net/video.php/reallifevsinternet

A classic...

 

[j0n024]

I dont see online as anything more then an excuse to not go out and DJ....I actually made a Fishy account but the only reason I made it is to see what my looks rated lol(yes I know it's superfical but ehh I was a 7 then went down to a 4 lol) I actually got some girls around my town to meet with me, I already got their number ohh and I got a girl to have phone sex with me...but do I think any of it is real..NO until you hug them then anything they say you should just throw out the window.

 

[The Deacon]

Agh, I hate internet relationships because it's just another type of long-distance relationship without the meeting. I'm with j0n on this one.

 

[meitenesrigas]

Do what pleases you. If having a relationship with a photo of your favorite Smurf gets you through the day then by all means do it! If you are not hurting a soul and you are making it through the day you shouldn't sweat it. The idea is to be content with what you have. If your little Internet friend makes you feel good I think you are a lucky man.

Social Networking sites seems to be cool all over the planet. The Anglophile world has MySpace, the French have theirs, and the Turkish guys have Russian language sites :crackup: . I really doubt if most of these people (save for the Turkish guys) ever meet most of the people they chat with on these sites.

 

[VashStampede]

IMO, internet relationships = bad idea.

 

[Mr. Wolf]

IMO, internet relationships = waste of life.

And if he's smart he'd tell the girl he wants her to come over to his city and meet in real life.. Tell her, I WANT! Satisfy my desire to meet me, so I can find out more about you.