Are holidays bad for meeting women?

[Mental]

I've met one woman during the holidays. (Yeah, five minutes after talking, she was leaving. Yeah, I got the deflecting girlfriend who needed to be taken home that instant. Sure. Right). My friend didn't help deflect the friend away, either.

Other than that, I've gone to a good number of parties, I've sort of known all the women either as "friends" or just as friends of friends; and they're all unavailable/ I'm not interested.

The groups I go to have all been canceled until at least late January.

All my parties, I end up knowing most of the people anyway. They're usually married, or not people I'd want to bother with because they're creepy and weird.

In the past 6 months, I've had two to possibly three women interested. And two of them being a little creepy. One a stalker, and one who tries to get too friendly. The other, I've only met once, and only talked two for 5 minutes.

Do you believe the holidays are a little trickier because of the parties/ canceled events/etc?

 

[Thugo]

The holidays are the best time to meet single women.. they are all desperate with holiday lonliness.. as long as you have a place to bring them back and screw them without parents around. I remember last christmas I was rolling.. I was spinning 3 plates and all was good.

 

[Cloudtopsun2100]

girls want a guy to be with them throughout that long cold dreary winter-

 

[Last Man Standing]

If women are hanging out at clubs during chrstmas then this tells that they are lonely and desperate and making themselves available to men!

 

[Nexxus]

holidays are the BOMB

 

[Ace_McGregor]

Yep! I met tons of girls the other night... all seemed EXTRA nice. Probably because the holidays are here and they are single and lonely. They know at their little family gatherings everyone is going to ask, "So are you dating anyone?"....ouch...that question hurts women alot more than it does men.

New Year's Eve is also a great day to pick up girl's...

 

[Hitman10000]

There is no such thing as one good time or one good place to meet women.

 

[Thomas94305]

Agree with the past posts on meeting over the holidays.. Women play passive about life in general, until there's a problem.. holidays alone... Then again, most guys play passive about life in general too..

Issue with the holidays is bridging past them. I'll meet up with gals, in December, get numbers, etc. Then, I have to leave town over Christmas, NY's. Come back after gone for 1.5 weeks, and so now time to see if they wanna go out. They are not in the same excited vibe as when you met. So, you don't have that momentum to get the dating going. Can try to keep "something" going by emailing/calling over holidays, but it comes off weak. If I manage a date or two with a gal before the holiday, it goes better. In any event, you can't date more than one New Years, and it's difficult to do much different Christmas.. and those are the TWO big days they want you around.. crap out on those, and she could feel odd towards you.

Ideas on how to bridge women's availability before the holidays to stuff after the holidays?? Or, should I be doing filtering somehow to see if she's just desperate for a Christmas date, but not looking for more.. then focus on the ones that are open to more than Holiday dates?

MENTAL.. given only a couple gals interested in you over months, that sounds like an "initiating with women" problem. Have you done the DJ bootcamp??

 

[mrRuckus]

Then, I have to leave town over Christmas, NY's. Come back after gone for 1.5 weeks, and so now time to see if they wanna go out. They are not in the same excited vibe as when you met. So, you don't have that momentum to get the dating going. Can try to keep "something" going by emailing/calling over holidays, but it comes off weak. If

Weak? Oh to hell it does.

I have one girl that I email daily back and forth LONG EMAILS (omgz too much attention!!1!) and she just called me out of the blue to wish me a merry christmas and she's a 9 and smart as a tack and funny as hell. She's also invited me out for drinks twice now (weeks apart) and both times I turned her down saying I was too busy but that I would later on. Today she left me a comment on myspace that says "Tidings of comfort and joy. Here's to wh0re wives and shooting me down every time I ask you to join me for a drink."

Then there's another girl that I just spent nearly every day the past week sleeping with (i'm currently visiting my family in my original hometown) and she totally wants to be my gf (she's an 8 and probably the nicest girl i ever met. she's an RN and wants to pay for almost everything and even spent like $200 to take me to an NHL game to make me feel better after I lost my wallet) even though I live 300 miles away and she gets hit on constantly in her own hometown and she wants to drive down "every other weekend" to see me. Though I do admit I told her I was thinking of moving back home, which I seriously am since I don't like where I live now and she's really hoping I do. I txt her that I miss her (oh nooos i broke another rule) and can't wait to feel her body again. I txt her through most of the night while she's at work. She tells me I make her melt. I don't think she thinks I'm needy or "weak" just for being "so sweet" to her. Of course bustin on her and making fun of her in between sweet comments doesn't hurt. Txt from her yesterday: "I miss your insults followed by compliments."

This site's rules are so ridiculous sometimes. Come off as a strong, confident, sweet, funny sexy dude and build an interest level and women will be interested for AT LEAST weeks. They're both telling me I make them feel so desired and special and that i'm "so different" than other guys. And the main thing I do to make them feel this way? I kiss them like I mean it and I tell them of my huge expectations of the women I'm with and this makes them feel incredibly special that out all the women I could have that I'm with them and they want to strive to not fall out of my favor.

You can be both the strong, confident, take no sh1t man and the sweet, caring 'needy' guy. It works. Two sexy, successful, sweet caring women chasing me. For weeks now. And really i'm not that cool. If the "excited vibe" is dead in a week she wasn't too excited to begin with.


oh, i never call either. I txt or email. I make it known openly that i hate the phone.

maybe i'm full of crap for most women. i don't know. but i go for high quality women that don't play any stupid sh1t. i'd rather use my hand than go for something of low quality just because she's hot and has a big t1ts.