andy_4029 said:
Well like I said this happens repeatedly with a lot of the girls I talk to.
I'll give you some examples though. I met a girl through my social circle one weekend and didnt do anything other then # close, texted her a bit the next day and planned to hangout the next weekend. Then she texts me on monday, we text a bit more then i end the convo. I text her on friday and she says "no way! ur actually talking to me now"
this one's easy. she was interested, you demonstrated you were a high value male who was busy and didnt have time to text her every day of the week. she was testing to see if you were gonna stick with that unapologetic story, which i hope you did. the proper response would have been something like "well i'm a busy guy baby. you're lucky i got around to you THIS early
" joke around with her.
andy_4029 said:
Another girl from my school gets my numbers from a friend and texts me to come hangout with her and her friends at lunch. I tell her im busy the next day, so she keeps asking me again for the next couple of days.
She then starts talking to me on facebook on sunday and says that if i dont go the next day she wont talk to me again.
I then finally go on monday, tuesday, and again on wednesday. Lots of ioi's, plenty of kino, it was really obvious she was really into me. She also invites me to her friends party on saturday. On wednesday I try to kiss close her after we were saying goodbye and hugged but i kept her into my arms longer then usual in the middle of the hallway after school when it was packed (i know dumb idea should have isolated) and she pulls back slightly and says "here?!" is pretty embarrased, and says we'll do it on saturday (talking about about the party) Later in the evening she texts me saying she was sorry about that. I reply and say "dont worry about it" she then says "so whats up" but I didnt really feel like talking to her so much since I already talked to her at school that day so i dont teply to her text.
Then i dont go to hangout with her on thursday or friday, but i text her on saturday since she was supposed to tell me the address of a party her friend was throwing. She is acting really cold, and doesnt even reply to my second text.
this one is a little trickier. you were doing good, but a first time kiss close shouldnt be at school, although i have to commend your ballsiness. haha i would never have been able to try that. but it may also have come across as socially awkward, which would have a negative impact on her interest level.
also, as much as i love to text, there's a certain inability to tell exactly what people are communicating since it is just text. you cant hear vocal tones, you can't see body language, etc. it's possible that she was just busy, or its possible her il has dropped. for the specific situation, i would just go to the party and see what you could make of it.
to answer your original question, this doesnt really seem to be about the insecurity of the girls, its just more like your understanding of the game just isnt quite there yet. ha. but you're definitely on the right track