Are guys like us meant to go through life with community and social groups?

[drakeisfire]

I look at the kind of guy who would come to a forum like this and I am left wondering about his path. In high school and college, he wasn't a Chad. The Chads all got laid in those years and then went right to marriage before 30, they had their fun.

Now think of the guy who was likely the kind that had to go out and learn how to cold approach and better his life. He probably missed out on high school and even college, not having fun till his 20s.

Now that guy will likely spend a lot more of his life not being tied down to a woman yet trying to get laid as much as possible. If this guy peaks in his 30s, he will be spending that time still trying to get laid a lot more, especially if he has options with younger women.

But it make me wonder if men who live that life are doomed to go through life without community.

In your 30s, everyone is married with a kid, almost everyone that is.

There is no crowd of people in their 30s who are fun, attractive and just looking to get down. Everyone is with a family and kids, what good is there to be hanging out with them?

 

[R.U.G.]

I'm a lone wolf by choice. Couldn't care less what others think about it. I do not know where you live, but in NYC and the surrounding cities in NJ and CT there are tens of thousands or women in their 30's - 40's more than willing to date and fvck. Marriage and family in your 30s? Most women by their mid 30's are through their first divorce with fun and prized from a divorce. They are single and ready to mingle. Where do you live? Fargo, ND?

 

[Spaz]

Men r biologically made to roam free from community and thrive, it's his default survival mode.

Men, if you haven't realise is the single greatest predator on this planet.

Everything a man does must be to profit himself.

To go against my own nature would make me extremely unhappy. I don't desire to merely adhere to society's expectations, I will bend it and mould it so that society adheres to mine. At the very least to the society within my sphere of influence.

 

[top gear]

My current best friend is 44 and she is sanguine as **** she tries to befriend everyone she meets and has three children and is married and that does not impede her from going to a bar thrice a month and dinning out once per week or bringing friends over whenever she can.

It is true some people seem to live 20 to 25 years and then give everything up because its easier for you no longer have your parents behind you nor school to meet people after spending countless hours with them but those who want a friend to go out will always find them.

But then again many people just join the church or were already there or join some group of afternoon tennis and that's enough for them joining some laid back club in which almost nobody is your friend though it gives you entitlement easiness, security and you can scratch a true friend from said places.

Also I fetch my siblings from school every day some of the guys are losers chasing girls, some have a girlfriend a few have had two or three and the rest are not even interested who says three years from your first ejaculation is the best stage of your life?

But then again if you did not have fun in your teens cause you needed teenage safety to have fun and you wren't able to get it and now you think yo've missed the train then is your bad there are mature people throwing parties and getting to restaurants late at nigth etc, maybe the minority but if having fun is your priority you don't think how hard it is to get at such young age rages as the ones you're reffering to.