Are girls impressed by intelligent guys?

[davelmn2003]

With all the talk on this site about biological determinants of sexual selection, I wonder why many of you think that girls today would prefer the "hunter-gatherer" type to the "brainy" type, which in today's world is the type that really makes her more materially secured. Muscular guys are more fit to doing low-paying, manual labor than not. Of course, I'm assuming (unfairly) that muscular guys are of lesser intelligence, but let's take these two ideal types as our starting point and consider the matter more carefully: why aren't girls as impressed with intelligent guys as with well-built guys (or so it seems to me).

 

[DIESEL]

because most girls are fukkin' stupid. No joke.

My main problem with ladies has always been that I get bored with them on an intellectual level. Outside of what is going on in their lame little lives, and the universe encompassed by People and US magazine.... They can't talk about anything else.

I'm sure there are smart girls out there but here is the catch they are either a) fat and ugly or b) if they're hot, they're MARRIED!!

D

p.s. yes girls are impressed by smart guys, IF YOU DON'T LOOK LIKE OR COME OFF AS A FRIGGIN' NERD/DORK/SPAZ...etc.

 

[Quick]

Because even though both strength and intelligence will both get you ahead, the recognition of strength is a primal/instinctual thing, while the recognition of intelligence is only cerebral. Plus you can't see intelligence at first sight or by using your senses.

Plus, only a girl who's intelligent herself will recognize your true intelligence. Others will recognize that you're smart, but to someone in 3rd grade, there's no difference between a high schooler and someone with a doctorate.

Basically, the more intelligent girls will value you more, because only they will recognize your true potential. They're also the ones that won't bore you, so it's a match.

 

[spanky]

Physical attraction is a very arachaic form of attraction. It has been around before we had much intelligence and the ability to express it. Generally, it will always be at the very top or near the very top of every one's list when considering a person of the opposite sex for any sort of romantic relationship.

Now, I don't know how you arrived at the assumption that women are not attracted to intelligent men. Many women are and will continue to be but just don't expect to score a 140 on the Stanford-Binet and expect chics to be knocking down your door. Other rules of attraction still apply such as taking care of your physical and emotional self.

 

[spanky]

Originally posted by spanky
Physical attraction is a very arachaic form of attraction. It has been around before we had much intelligence and the ability to express. Generally, it will always be at the very top or near the very top of every one's list when considering a person of the opposite sex for any sort of romantic relationship.

Now, I don't know how you arrived at the assumption that women are not attracted to intelligent men. Many women are and will continue to be but just don't expect to score a 140 on the Stanford-Binet and expect chics to be knocking down your door. Other rules of attraction still apply such as taking care of your physical and emotional self.

Damn, Quick must have wrote his response while I wrote mine.

 

[HeyPretty]

If he looks like Brad Pitt, but has the brains of Anna Nicole, I'll pass thanks.

I am absolutly lustful for men with big brains. Nothing turns me on more than intelligence.

Besides, what the hell are you gonna do when you're exausted from shagging all night, and can't sleep? Talk about make-up tips?

Nuh uh.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by davelmn2003
...I'm assuming (unfairly) that muscular guys are of lesser intelligence, but let's take these two ideal types as our starting point and consider the matter more carefully: why aren't girls as impressed with intelligent guys as with well-built guys (or so it seems to me).

So are you saying that intelligent guys can not be well-built too???!!!

Why not be both intelligent and fit? Am I over simplifying this? Isn't there a happy medium between a nuclear physicist and a Mr. Olympian?

 

[ShortTimer]

Originally posted by HeyPretty
I am absolutly lustful for men with big brains. Nothing turns me on more than intelligence.

So I guess you must have posters of Bill Gates and Stephen Hawking on your ceiling right?

 

[Quick]

Originally posted by ShortTimer
So I guess you must have posters of Bill Gates and Stephen Hawking on your ceiling right?

Good point shorttimer. Brains cannot be your number one turn-on. A guy with a perfect body and little else can make you hot, at least initially. But a guy with brains and little else will never turn you on.

 

[HeyPretty]

Actually, I have Mr. T on my bedroom door, because "The A-Team Wants Me".

And I have pictures of girls in bondage gear eatting popsicles around my room.

And about 250 books. On anything under the sun. But I do have a photo of Einstein on my closet door. And he's sticking out his tongue. I get the quivers whenever I see it.

And I can't say for the rest of girls, but I'm honestly not attracted to the pretty boys. It's just not a turn-on for me. I can appreciate the beauty of the muscle, as a good physical specimen, but I really find no arousal there. I truly find intelligence a wide-on. *shrug*

 

[00Kevin]

Originally posted by HeyPretty
If he looks like Brad Pitt, but has the brains of Anna Nicole, I'll pass thanks.

I am absolutly lustful for men with big brains. Nothing turns me on more than intelligence.

Besides, what the hell are you gonna do when you're exausted from shagging all night, and can't sleep? Talk about make-up tips?

Nuh uh.

you just roll over and sleep

 

[Matt Rogers]

I think it is what you do with your intelligence that counts. If you are smart, but spend your time doing nuclear physics and cannot continue a conversation about anything outside your narrow field of expertise, that will not help you a lot with women.

If on the other hand, you are able to make insightful comments, and witty remarks (there is a clear link between intelligence and wit), and are able to discuss more abstract topics such as philosophy, politics, psychology etc. then I should think that an intelligent women should find you irresistible.

Another point is that a lot of very intelligent people are shy and introverted, and from what I have seen that tends to put a lot of women off, at least the women of my age (18-25).

But I agree with Francisco: a good body is within the reach of most men (plus will do wonders for your confidence), and an intelligent jock would probably arouse a woman's curiosity deeply and attract her on a physical and intellectual level.

 

[HeyPretty]

I agree with Matt, you need to know how to apply your intelligence to a good conversation. If you can't talk to women, you'll never meet them.

And 00Kevin, I know you're very busy what with your oodles of adoring fans, but you've overlooked a tid-bit of my post, ahem.

shagging all night, and can't sleep?

It's ok, you're tired.

 

[00Kevin]

I think women just say they want a guy with intelligence. What they really want is a guy that is smart enough to protect her. He can be a total genius but if he doesn't know how to use his intelligence to be her provider she will just leave. Wisdom is a greater asset to a man then intelligence.

The only exception is a guy that has artistic talents. A musical guy can be semi-retarded and still attract a woman. I've met some dumb ass musicians and they have nothing but the hottest girl friends.

Now men on the other hand don't really require a woman with intelligence. We are mostly concerned with what she believes in, and if she believes in her man. I would much rather be with a woman that is practical. What good is a mind and a bunch of useless facts if she doesn't know who to use them? Intelligence is useless without wisdom. Your intelligence will tell you that the glass of water in your hand is poisioned, but your wisdom will tell you not to drink it.

 

[00Kevin]

Originally posted by HeyPretty
I agree with Matt, you need to know how to apply your intelligence to a good conversation. If you can't talk to women, you'll never meet them.

And 00Kevin, I know you're very busy what with your oodles of adoring fans, but you've overlooked a tid-bit of my post, ahem.



It's ok, you're tired.

oh yeah thanks..

 

[comote]

I think that the problem alot of intelligent guys have is that they stress how intelligent they are all the time. It comes off looking arrogant and like you are overcompensating. No one likes a know it all. I know alot of very smart people and almost always when meeting a new person they will pretty much give them a short resume. I have also known very intelligent guys who were also DJ's, the thing they have in common is while they don't hide there intelligence they don't flaunt it. They have other qualities that they flaunt like charisma and charm.
On the other hand what I don't get is windbags, these guys that think they are smart but in reality they are morons. I don't get why women go for these guys sometimes, some women seem to think he is so smart despite not having a good education. Whereas almost everybody else sees right through them.

 

[00Kevin]

Originally posted by comote
I think that the problem alot of intelligent guys have is that they stress how intelligent they are all the time. It comes off looking arrogant and like you are overcompensating. No one likes a know it all. I know alot of very smart people and almost always when meeting a new person they will pretty much give them a short resume. I have also known very intelligent guys who were also DJ's, the thing they have in common is while they don't hide there intelligence they don't flaunt it. They have other qualities that they flaunt like charisma and charm.
On the other hand what I don't get is windbags, these guys that think they are smart but in reality they are morons. I don't get why women go for these guys sometimes, some women seem to think he is so smart despite not having a good education. Whereas almost everybody else sees right through them.

When women say that a guy is smart what they mean is that he can tell the exact emotion a woman is experiencing at the time without her having to explain herself. He can tell that she is on the rag by reading the signs. A smart guy also knows exactly why she is acting a certain way and how to placate her.
Women confuse perception with intelligence

 

[squirrels]

Attraction is a primal, instinctual thing.

A woman may be attracted to a man who is both sexually attractive and rationally intelligent, but she will be attracted to a man who has the former before one who has the latter.

A rational man without instinct is like a house without a foundation. Reason and intelligence can do many things, but they can't change the way we were hardcoded from birth.

I don't understand it either...that's because it can't be understood. So don't try. Just go and have fun.

 

[Helter Skelter]

You would think intelligence would play a big role in attraction, but if a girl knows in the first 5 minutes (or whatever the number is) of first meeting you if she's ever gonna sleep with you.


How much intelligence can you put out in 5 minutes before your nexted?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by comote
I think that the problem alot of intelligent guys have is that they stress how intelligent they are all the time. It comes off looking arrogant and like you are overcompensating. No one likes a know it all.

Bingo!!! I have said it before, a true DJ lets his actions do the talking. PLUS DJs that bring out the best in others and not put them down are more popular. People tend to search you out at parties and events and women tend to gravitate to the crowd around you just out of their natural curiosity.

Another thing I have noticed that it is not necessarily what degrees you hold but the depth of knowledge that you have. For example, can you speak to valid points for both conservatives and liberals? How about sports other than football, baseball and hockey? Can you talk about the state of the economy without Bush bashing while keeping people interested AND wanting to interact with you? Are you able to appreciate a woman that is able to teach you something new?

In a nutshell, look at James Bond. Knowledgeable about many things but is always learning something new from Q. He is able to assimilate easily into any environment because of his knowledge. He may not know everything about his environment, but he knows enough to fake it to the nines.

A guy needs some form of intellect to pull that off.

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