Self vs No Self
There is No 'Self', there's only likes, propensities, attractions, things we enjoy. Follow me down this rabbit hole...as I posted on this before.
When we come into this world, we follow our fancies. We do our likes. At some point, we "think" we must "know thyself". There's a glaring difference between "knowing thyself" and "knowing thy tendencies." We are all prone to certain behaviors, but these behaviors are NOT who we are; they are merely just actions, programmed by our environment, impressed upon our ego, which may interpret them positively or negatively.
To assume a SELF exists, assume you have full knowledge of the world to say "This Is Who I am!" Is that realistic though? A self would be fixed, never dying, never changing, never growing. Solid. Is anything in this world this way?
Stodgy corporations shed its skin and its dead divisions. Golfers upgrade their swings and overhaul their games. Football players undergo grueling new workouts to break records. The plates of the earth shift. The universe is growing and expanding at an increasing pace. Inflation moves upward as the government prints money. Rivers flow. CHANGE is the constant. GROWTH is the yardstick by which life exists.
You will notice that the people who fight out most, who lash out most, who take greatest offense, feel there is a world or a self to defend. I won't take the EGO trip and say that it MUST be the EGO defending a world that keeps it safe and comfy, though it is, but those that cling to such things must defend every bit as if all life would buy that.
And yes, some here will say "we must have principles, beliefs, values." I agree, but can you force or impress these upon people? Is it a value of your's to FORCE your views on others? If you have a value and someone crosses you on that value, you can stay tight lipped, and realize that they obviously don't have the same value, and move on and forgive. Or try to educate and debate and teach them.
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The search for a self does not exist, never exists. It's a search for the Fountain of Youth, of which only wisdom or knowledge can fix.
Take a look at the world, a GOOD look at the world...you'll notice people are CONSTANTLY looking got something, as if TODAY isn't good enough. But if TODAY isn't good enough, then isn't today, just tomorrow's YESTERDAY??? Isn't it a cycle??? A crazy one.
Guys come here to get better at women. Go to work to make money, to get SOMETHING, emotionally. There's a 'leaning' into life. Yes, aggressive action is the pursuit of man. It is what balance masculine versus feminine tendencies. It's our strength. It's our attraction. But even a hunter knows that if a deer gets way, another will come along. He does not become the prey by failing on the principles that give him advantage over HIS prey. There's a point where aggressive actions becomes passive submission, and that's a point where I think many guys who seek women so intently end up. They want women so bad, all other aspects of their life fail. It's as if they're given 20 value points, and instead of being acutely effective in a few, or having varied interests, they bet them all on WOMEN. In reality, men can persue those loves and passions they have in life, and GAIN all the skills they NEED to attract women.
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You can attempt to act alpha, like you don't care, don the attitude, OR actually go out and join activities, follow your heart and gut and desires, and DO you, not just ACT. Acting is only pretending, it's not doing. Doing is being. Only by doing can you be. You can't be a golfer by owning golf clubs, or going to the golf range. You can only be a golfer, by doing golf.
You can't be a seducer unless you're SEDUCING, as in the act. Only the action of doing gives you the title of being.
The point at which someone can be dubbed a don juan if that is a title you aspire to, or any type of player, or mack, or whatever your individual title is, is when you have results, verfiable by OUTSIDE sources AND you can teach it. But seduction isn't just what you say, it's your total game. Your total life. YOUR life seduces, because WITH IT, you gain an indominable edge. You can speak the best words, but if you lead a shady life, carry an air of awkwardness, and so forth, your life will rat you out.
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No self exists, because we were never BORN a just a self. I watched as my Grandmother passed away this week. I missed her last breaths by mere minutes. But, I'd last seen her 1 week ago, and was able to draw comparisons from then to now, with remarkable differences. Now, I'd never seen a person go from FULL of life, to LIFELESS. Sure, I've been to funerals, but the body is dressed up. Fake. The spirit is gone much time ago.
When there's life, no matter how incapable the BODY is of movement, of action, THE EYES say ALL we need to know. They're so immediately close to the mind, that it shows all. I remember looking into her eyes as she was on a ventilator, feed bags, cathoder, and any other tool used to sustain life in a body. Despite all these machines, the life of her body was fading, by the life of her soul was present still. And in her eyes, she could acknowledge everything I said.
After she had passed, you could see her body became cement, the cells losing their motion, their life, their constant growth, the source of the wellspring. There was no pain, she just left her earthly vehicle. I could not SEE with my eyes what she would say, but in my MIND I'd spent enough time to know what she WOULD say. The body though lifeless, was now void of a soul. You can tell it wasn't as simple as someone unplugging a tv set and the energy just stopped and went internal. It wasn't an unplugging of the mind from the source, but a release. A peaceful sleep, into a beautiful dream.
To say a self exists is to discredit the power and potential of the spirit, of a unversal mind. Of beings and things beyond us. No, a search for the self is boring, because it ASSUMES a certain template is laid for your life you must FIND through trial and error, giving you no joy to take pleasure in the fruits of life. Searching for a self means, if you CHOSE something different, that wasn't your CALLING or your SELF, you'd fix it. OR, would it mean that no SELF exists???
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As an aside, of all the people I know who are happy, they are the ones making measurable progress in life, doing what it is they enjoy, with forward thinking toward the future. A cousin of mine started out as a Civil Engineer at UMO, interning at various companies. He worked part-time in the summers at a pizza joint, until he began helping his friend at a concrete form company he'd started. Just recently he became a co-partner, completly out of left field. He originally never did construction, then began slow for extra money and to help a friend. THEN, his friend offered him a parternship, NOW, at 22, he's a co partner and changed his major to Construction Management, when he originally was civil engineer. That's not a big gap, but who would have predicted Concrete Co-Partner? If he had limited himself to a journey, rather than trying and doing life, he never would have found this new endeavor with the sweetest work season, May15 to the fall, upon which he returns to School full-time.
A-Unit
