Approaching in Convenience and Grocery Store Aisles

[Frank2500]

I would like to get some tips if possible, from someone who's experienced with approaching women in grocery/convenience store aisles. I would like to know some possible techniques and intro conversations that I could use. It seems to me that hitting on a woman on the street is even easier than trying to talk to her at a grocery or convenience store aisle. Usually, I would just walk right up to a woman I found attractive at a grocery store aisle, smile, say hi and introduce myself and shake their hand and then make my move. I stopped doing that recently because based on experience, most of the women I have approached under those circumstances have seemed to be so terrified and shocked when I walked right up to them like that. I could see it from the look in their eyes and I felt bad because I feared that perhaps they may have been thinking I was some kind of stalker or something.


A while ago, I walked up to a woman at a bookstore like that...she was standing at a magazine stand, and I literally saw her tremble slightly when I walked up to her. It wasn't until she saw me smiling at her that she seemed to become more comfortable. Is there anything that I can do differently in those environments that might be helpful? Thanks.

 

[Trail Mix-A-Lot]

Scoopin up chips and hot wings...

Hi Frank,

I actually like approaching in grocery stores... To me, it's a lot less pressure then say a bar or coffee shop. Anyway, you have to pick the right grocery store for starters. I've noticed that the HB's tend to flock to places like Trader Joes or Whole Foods. I usually open with ones like... "Hey save some of those for me!" or "Have you ever tried this stuff?" or maybe... "Do you know how to cook this stuff?" my favorite is probably one like... "Hey, you know that stuff will kill ya!"

Let me know.

T.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...A while ago, I walked up to a woman at a bookstore like that...she was standing at a magazine stand, and I literally saw her tremble slightly when I walked up to her. It wasn't until she saw me smiling at her that she seemed to become more comfortable. Is there anything that I can do differently in those environments that might be helpful? Thanks.

What about your approach do you think made her tremble?

 

[joekerr31]

i find grocery stores are difficult myself. reason being is that its one of those social situations where people purposely DONT make eye contact. people are so fixated on whatever they are looking at on the shelf or making sure not to hit something with their cart. and since they are moving you basically have to stop them to talk to them.

so to approach you have to basically take them by surprise - hence the reaction you are getting.

don't know what advice i can give you. i think the best advice is to be extroverted. some people just walk through life talking to whoever is around them at any given time. they don't even think about it.

sometimes i can be like. but most of the time my natural personality doesn't lend itself well to cold approaches or grocery store pick ups.

to be honest, the only time i'd even try a cold approach in a grocery store would be if i caught her checking me out. without catching her looking at me, i'd be to self conscious about getting a bad reaction.

 

[joekerr31]

What about your approach do you think made her tremble?

he had a cucumber sticking out of his zipper at the time.

 

[Victory Unlimited]

Yo FRANK2500,

Here's my recent take on this subject in case you may not have seen it:

Yo Troops,


ACTUALLY, I would say that the vast majority of the women I meet are from COLD APPROACHES / DIRECT GAME.

And 8 out of the last 10 women that I have successfully approached this past year have ALL been either IN the grocery store, OR leaving OUT of the grocery store.

I know it always sounds like a cliche, but believe it or not, it's really NOT that unusual or difficult when you're comfortable with approaching them there-----AND you have that "take no prisoners" mindset when you're doing it.

In fact, there are times when I go out to certain venues (see----GROCERY STORES, MALLS, SPORTING EVENTS, FESTIVALS, etc.), when the ONLY reason I am there IS to meet women.

Think of it like a MILITARY OPERATION:

What you're doing while you're walking around the store is REALLY "recon". And the basket that you're pushing or carrying is REALLY your cover, or your CAMOFLAUGE. Even as you talk on your cellphone while you peruse items on the same aisle as "your target", what you're really doing is leading "your enemy" into having a false sense of security. Many have NO idea that you've been checking them out THOROUGHLY until you smile and make eye contact. And "when" and "if" they RETURN your smile and/or make eye contact, THAT'S when you know it's time to "pull the trigger".

THIS type of manuever works for me MORE than you could imagine. I suggest that those who HAVEN'T seriously considered targeting women in venues like these, please consider it. The WORST thing that will happen is that you leave the store WITHOUT having picked up THAT particular babe as "an item".

The mindset that you have AT THE TIME that these scenarios play out is EVERYTHING, though.

You see, sometimes if you go to the grocery store JUST thinking about "eating up", all you'll see is food.

BUT, if you go to the grocery store thinking about "picking up", you might just find that all you'll see IS women.


SHOP ON!

 

[SoCalMike]

shhh!!

man, don't let the secret out!! grocery stores are one of the best places for getting numbers IMO. if too many other dudes start workin them, they'll become like bars where the girls are all on guard from the expectation of being hit on.

one of the things i like to do is comment on those stupid gossip rags in line, make some joke about it... depending on the girls reaction (does she laugh or smile) i know if she's a "go" or not and proceed from there.

 

[Frank2500]

Re: Missed Another Possible Opportunity Today

To the poster who asked what it was about me that made the woman at the bookstore tremble, I'm not sure...perhaps it was the unexpectedness of it all and the fact that I walked straight up to her directly at the newsstand and shook her hand. Anyway, that has passed. The girl actually turned out to be crazy...acted as if we both had a connection but gave me the phone number of another whoman whose voice sounded nothing like hers and whose name was different.


But guys, I need your advice because I think I lost another opportunity at the same bookstore again today just a couple minutes ago. I had a tank top on today and this older white woman-I'm guessing she was in her mid thirties-and she's the kind of woman I normally go for too (her ass looked quite big in her dress pants) was at one of the CD stands listening to music with those huge headphones in bookstores and CD stores. I happened to be standing somehat away from her and she gave me two, brief looks as if to suggest that she had noticed something about my body and the tank top or something, which made me think about approaching her. But then, I didn't know what to do. I didn't want to read her the wrong way and alarm her by walking straight up to her and talking to her, especially with her head phones on. I just wasn't sure what I would say if I did so.


A couple minutes later, she walked right past me (we both walked past each other) and she sort of looked at me but I wasn't exactly sure what I could have done then. When I turned around and looked at her ass and noticed once again how big it was, I almost asked her to excuse me, but I unfortunately let her go. I hung around the bookstore looking at CDs but she ended up at a Psychology book section and sat there forever. I was hoping I would have a chance to make my move if she walked past me again on her way out of the bookstore. I also didn't feel comfortable trying to approach her in the psychology book section because it was a relatively quiet area, and there were about three other people sitting there right next to her. But she just never left that book section throughout my time there and so I missed another possible opportunity again. Does anyone have some suggestions for such circumstances? Another thing I sort of worry about is the endless number of surveillance cameras all over the place these days. I don't want some woman feeling uncomfortable because I hit on her ending up resorting to call security saying things such as "this guy is stalking me/following me around."

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

To the poster who asked what it was about me that made the woman at the bookstore tremble, I'm not sure...perhaps it was the unexpectedness of it all and the fact that I walked straight up to her directly at the newsstand and shook her hand. Anyway, that has passed. The girl actually turned out to be crazy...acted as if we both had a connection but gave me the phone number of another whoman whose voice sounded nothing like hers and whose name was different.

So you don't think you can learn anything from this experience? You're just going to move on to the next one without any adjustments? This is probably why you're having so much trouble, you're just spitting into the wind.

 

[cordoncordon]

Frank, I would be interested in seeing a pic of you. Could you post one? In many of your posts you comment on your body and how much it is attracting women since your began working out.

Lets see!!

 

[Bible_Belt]

Honestly, Frank, lots of white American women are scared by big black guys. Don't take it personally.

 

[MikeYikes122]

Honestly, Frank, lots of white American women are scared by big black guys. Don't take it personally.

How do you know he is black?

Also, I think his posts are hilarious. No offense or anything Frank, but the way you describe things always makes me laugh out loud. You seem to really be into big asses and a lot of times you go into great detail to point that out.

I guess you can't fault a man for knowing what he likes/wants.

 

[MikeYikes122]

I found this to be hilarious as well:

The girl actually turned out to be crazy...acted as if we both had a connection but gave me the phone number of another whoman whose voice sounded nothing like hers and whose name was different.

 

[Frank2500]

Re:

Hi Mike Yikes, yeah, I think you're a funny guy too. I'm glad folks seem to appreciate my unintentional comedy here. I must have an unknown skill in terms of comedic writing, since at least one or two other posters have said the same thing to me. And to the other person who commented, yes, I am black, though born and raised in an African country. For purposes of privacy, I don't feel comfortable posting my pictures on here. I'm sure folks can understand that. I just don't feel comfortable personally.


I do agree with the other person who suggested that some white women may be scared of big black guys. I guess it depends on the woman, but it is an unfortunate negative stereotype that black men have to deal with...since we are often presented in the news as law breakers, angry and violent. That's why I feel really embarrassed each time some black men make foolish decisions, get in trouble with the law and get arrested...and then their pictures are highlighted in the evening and night newscasts over and over. That certainly doesn't help in terms of that negative stereotype. Plus, on the day when I noticed this most recent woman at the bookstore, I had on a white tank top with denim shorts and a baseball hat, so of course, many people who probably know nothing about me won't even imagine I have a Master's degree. They'll probably think I'm just a potential trouble maker. Going back to the topic of stereotypes, though...why do folk do such crazy things? For example, just yesterday, I had to stop and wash my hands real quick at a men's restroom at a train station and there was this black guy just standing there blocking the hand dryer so that no one could dry their hands after washing them...and it wasn't as if he was using it. He just stood there and never budged. He was wearing a raincoat and had some thick brown, short dreadlocks.Everyone who saw him standing there, myself included, turned right back. He just stood there and never left. That certainly doesn't help either.

Not to mention those clowns I had talked about in a separate post who seem to be lurking around in restrooms for whatever reason...and instead of keeping their eyes straight to the wall at urinals, look down at the other men urinating next to them, or the others who use the taps to wash their clothes and take showers, etc. Unbelievable. Just unbelievable.

 

[Frank2500]

Re: Big Booty Chicks

It's true, I can't help it. I just love women with extremely big butts...the kind where you can suspect it is big from the front, through looking at her hips. The unfortunate thing is that a lot of them seem to be full of themselves (at least most of the ones I have come in contact with) and have very bad attitudes...I've rarely ever come across one who is humble.

 

[edger]

they'll become like bars where the girls are all on guard from the expectation of being hit on.

Actually it appears to me that women in bars are less on guard than when in stores.

one of the things i like to do is comment on those stupid gossip rags in line, make some joke about it... depending on the girls reaction (does she laugh or smile) i know if she's a "go" or not and proceed from there.

Good approach.

 

[edger]

I usually open with ones like... "Hey save some of those for me!" or "Have you ever tried this stuff?" or maybe... "Do you know how to cook this stuff?" my favorite is probably one like... "Hey, you know that stuff will kill ya!"

These are definitely good openers. That's what I usually try to do. That's exactly how ya have to go about it though in stores.

 

[STR8UP]

I do agree with the other person who suggested that some white women may be scared of big black guys.

My ex told me that black guys scare her. I didn't ask her to elaborate, but I assume it's the stereotype. She's asian, btw.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Anxiety and attraction go hand-in-hand. It is not necessarily a bad thing that you scare them, Frank. A lot of them are probably turned on at the same time, so when you see them tremble, you should take it as a compliment. At least you're not a wuss!

 

[joekerr31]

white people are initimidated by big black people. that's just a fact. not all of them, but most of them.

despite our day and age, white people still look at big black people (not the average sized ones) as having the 'gorilla' gene. its totally not right and its totally racist, but they do look at such black people as being muscular, with a big d*ck, low intelligence and a propsensity for violence.

now that being said, as a result black men become kind of a fetish for the white woman. while she wants to marry and have kids with her country club lawyer husband, she wouldn't mind seeing what its like to get f*cked by a 'gorilla'.

i was hesitant to even write this post, as i know its going to be upsetting for some to read. but it is how a lot of people think.

just like people still think that chinese guys have small d*cks and can do your taxes with their eyes closed.

like it or not, there are still prejudices that exist between the races.

now on the positive side of things, while the prejudices still exist, people are much less likely to act on them. they are aware that their prejudices are wrong and incorrect, yet unfortunately they still have them. its kind of wierd.

oh and as for the poster who guessed that frank was black and then someone else said 'why do you think hes black?". any time someone starts talking about like big butts its a good bet they aren't white.

im white and i gotta say, i have zero interest / attraction to a big butt. i honestly don't understand the appeal.

i like a medium to small butt.