This is my biggest SP..well actually it is way too big to be a just a point. More like the only thing that holds me back in life and with women. Nothing really worked for me yet…I am still avoiding cold approaching women. I have read few good articles about it on sosuave and an e-book called “The dynamic approach” by Gunwitch. I have even addressed this with my therapist a year ago. Still..I just can’t do it. I have the same reaction of horror deep inside of me when I even think about a cold approach.
“Just do it” doesn’t work…analyzing it doesn’t work…
I went tru the bootcamp and I got all the HI's and smiles and small talks very easily...but the actual cold approach part didn't work.
I want to describe the way I react when I see a girl I want to approach…maybe it sounds familiar to somebody. Basically. I feel like running away and avoiding the whole situation. I feel immediately out of my comfort zone. I can realize that and still continue approach…but in the last second I always decide not to this one time.
This is almost identical to how I feel in class…I am afraid to ask questions or speak out loud.
Yet…I don’t have a problem to go up to a girl in the club and ask her if she wants to fukk! When I know I am really not try to get anywhere with her…I don’t feel as nervous.
I have also went to a different city far from where I live and attempted to do some approaches. I was thinking that even if I made a complete fool out of myself, no one know me here anyway. I was not able to do any approaches.Same problem…in the last moment I decide not to. I really need help with this.
“Just do it” doesn’t work…analyzing it doesn’t work…
I went tru the bootcamp and I got all the HI's and smiles and small talks very easily...but the actual cold approach part didn't work.
I want to describe the way I react when I see a girl I want to approach…maybe it sounds familiar to somebody. Basically. I feel like running away and avoiding the whole situation. I feel immediately out of my comfort zone. I can realize that and still continue approach…but in the last second I always decide not to this one time.
This is almost identical to how I feel in class…I am afraid to ask questions or speak out loud.
Yet…I don’t have a problem to go up to a girl in the club and ask her if she wants to fukk! When I know I am really not try to get anywhere with her…I don’t feel as nervous.
I have also went to a different city far from where I live and attempted to do some approaches. I was thinking that even if I made a complete fool out of myself, no one know me here anyway. I was not able to do any approaches.Same problem…in the last moment I decide not to. I really need help with this.