Apparently I'm too nice?

[perseverance]

A girl I speak too said that she was initially attracted to me, she had I was gorgeous, had a great personality, but then dropped the bomb, "you're far too nice for me to date you". I didn't care really, I'm not interested in her, but I was interesting in knowing what made me too nice?

She says, you're nice, and I consider nice boring, so I said "elaborate?" and she said, "I like a bad boy", and she does, in fact she also likes being the other woman and will often get with guys who have girlfriends. That's just not how I roll. She said, a guy that treats women less than nicely is always what a woman wants.

Now, I don't cheat, nor do I sleep with anything that has a pulse. Yet she paints me out to be a nice guy when in reality I am anything but nice in the way she meant it. I don't declare my undying love for a woman, I don't shower a woman with gifts or suffer from oneitis, I never make a woman a priority in my life and I have absored the book of pook. Yet I search for good quality women and she isn't one of those. Ironically, she tends to always cry when she gets with a bad boy, "he won't leave his gf for me" etc, that kinda stuff.

I believe in treating people with basic respect and I believe in staying faithful in a relationship, so I fail to understand how that makes me nice? I don't pander to women or put them on a pedestal, so I just accepted that she is mentally ill and left her to her own devices.

But does she have a point? Am I too nice? Do you need to have 100 notches to my bed post, a criminal record for woman beating and a reputation as a major player to increase my pool of women? Or is it that low quality women demand this type of man?

Any insight is welcome, because I fail to see any sense in what this woman said.

 

[Yachtie]

I think it's all relative and varies by the girl. Maybe this is obvious, and it's probably been answered here. Sounds like someone not to worry about though.

If you were natural (yourself) around her, do you really care what she thinks? You probably did the right thing.

 

[perseverance]

I think it's all relative and varies by the girl. Maybe this is obvious, and it's probably been answered here. Sounds like someone not to worry about though.

If you were natural (yourself) around her, do you really care what she thinks? You probably did the right thing.

I just didn't understand it mate.

She says she likes a bad boy, she gets with a bad boy, and then she is in pieces over him when he screws her around. It's like she is some sort of sadist who has an addiction! Yet if you go onto her facebook she joins groups like "I like a man who will treat me like a princess". I'm starting to find that women are just contradictory and I should just dismiss whatever they as pure lies and utter garbage.

I do find being called nice a tad insulting, though I don't react to it, I do find it grates on me, it's inaccurate description of who I am. I hate stereotypes, you know?

 

[PapiChulo]

I think you are lacking something in the "sexual" department..... the naughtiness. Other than this, she does not really know what she wants and or is plain stupid. Stupidity and immaturity are the answers to many topics associated with women exhibiting such behavior.

 

[perseverance]

I think you are lacking something in the "sexual" department..... the naughtiness. Other than this, she does not really know what she wants and or is plain stupid. Stupidity and immaturity are the answers to many topics associated with women exhibiting such behavior.

I lacked it with her because she is disgusting!

I have no problems exhibiting sexual intentions with women I am attracted too.

Though you could be on to a point, I could work on it.

 

[Yachtie]

How old is this girl? She sounds immature.

Personally, I have to try not to be too nice to girls, so while I wouldn't take it as an offense, it would bug me if I wanted to be with her. Doesn't sound like you want to be with her again, so why let it bug you?

There's a post or two on here I read before (because I'm searching for answers to my own problems) that say you should read what a girl does and not what she says.

She'll probably touch the stove a few more times before she learns that it's hot.

Are you more worried about the stereotype or the possibility of hooking up with her again?

I don't think you've defined yourself as too nice, but wtf is too nice anyway? "too" has to have a baseline.

 

[Yachtie]

You don't even care to be with her?!

This is a simple fix, I think. You're worrying too much about this.

It's only worth worrying about when it's a girl you want to be with. Not this one.

 

[perseverance]

How old is this girl? She sounds immature.

Personally, I have to try not to be too nice to girls, so while I wouldn't take it as an offense, it would bug me if I wanted to be with her. Doesn't sound like you want to be with her again, so why let it bug you?

There's a post or two on here I read before (because I'm searching for answers to my own problems) that say you should read what a girl does and not what she says.

She'll probably touch the stove a few more times before she learns that it's hot.

Are you more worried about the stereotype or the possibility of hooking up with her again?

I don't think you've defined yourself as too nice, but wtf is too nice anyway? "too" has to have a baseline.

She's 20.

I have no intention of hooking up with her.

I made no signal of interest in her.

I am more worried that if one girl has called me "too nice" that I could be doing something wrong, while I don't want a reputation as a player, I don't want a reputation of being "nice, sweet"!

As I say I display manners, I offer people basic respect and I am easy to get on with. But I don't take **** from people and I will stand my ground and dig my heels in when required! You won't see me all starry-eyed over a woman or buying her gifts etc.

So, I'm trying to pin point where the hell she got that idea from?

 

[perseverance]

You don't even care to be with her?!

This is a simple fix, I think. You're worrying too much about this.

It's only worth worrying about when it's a girl you want to be with. Not this one.

The problem is I'll be worrying about coming across as too nice when I do meet a girl I'm interested in.

I was seeing a girl for a bit and the sexual chemistry between was full on, had great sex with her, I didn't see her complaining about me being too nice.

So, it's sort of thrown me off balance mate.

 

[Yachtie]

You're not too nice. She's one girl who said it once. She might've even said to get a rise out of you. If anything, you're just too nice for her, in which case it doesnt matter.

 

[perseverance]

You're not too nice. She's one girl who said it once. She might've even said to get a rise out of you. If anything, you're just too nice for her, in which case it doesnt matter.

Yeah point taken, I don't know why I took it too much to heart? I guess it just caught me off guard, I guess this is my achilles heel.

 

[PapiChulo]

She simply might be into somebody really rough, e.i. thug/drug dealer, with tattoos, shaved head, scars, etc.
In this case, you would have to make up with your attitude, e.i. acting like a complete as*hole.

20 is pretty young - she goes for whatever makes her panties wet.

There is nothing really to worry about here for you. I would start gaming other "normal" chix in the mean time, but if you really wanna be an ******* - get her to your place and simply scr*w her - that's pretty much the best thing she can do for you.

 

[seagull]

Or maybe she is "pre-rejecting" you because she already knows you're not into her.

 

[TomSwift]

I have no intention of hooking up with her.

I made no signal of interest in her.

Like seagull said. She's trying to get you to act by calling you nice. I wouldn't worry about it.

 

[1337]

She's sounds pretty stupid, ignore what she said.

 

[f283000]

But does she have a point? Am I too nice? Do you need to have 100 notches to my bed post, a criminal record for woman beating and a reputation as a major player to increase my pool of women? Or is it that low quality women demand this type of man?

Usually it's low quality just in mentality but not in looks. Bad boys get the hottest women in the under 30 crowd.

After those women get to their 30's they know their fertility clock is ticking so they stop riding bad boys and instead find an afc nice guy to settle down with, have kids, get married and make his life miserable like most women from western countries do to men.

If any woman tells you that you're a nice guy and she prefers bad boy's she is a perfect example of the women I mentioned. She will ride bad boys all throughout her 20's till she finds a chump to get married to once she "gets tired of getting hurt by bad boys" which is woma-nese for "time to find myself a nice guy to take care of me."

Any woman like that you need to stay away from. They are sluts that hop on bad boy to bad boy til its time to find a chump.

However, a lot of women do marry bad boys (the dumb ones) in the hope of "changing him" and reforming him, but most (the smart ones) just have their fun with them till their 30's. The dumb ones usually end up on Plenty of fish and other dating sites as the single moma's or divorcees looking for a chump to take care of them after their bad boy left them.

 

[zekko]

she said, "I like a bad boy"

Anytime you hear a girl say she likes bad boys, you can pretty much rest assured that she is a head case. I would run as far in the opposite direction as you can.

 

[Uberguy]

she said, "I like a bad boy", and she does, in fact she also likes being the other woman and will often get with guys who have girlfriends.

That comment right there should have told you that she's not worth listening to. This slut is trash.

You don't need to worry about what this ***** thinks. But you might want to consider why you care about what she thinks. Guys that are too nice often want everybody to like them, and that's a huge mistake, as they give away their personal power to people that don't deserve to influence them.

 

[Falcon25]

She told you what was wrong with you. But, like most men, you don't listen. Ignore everything she said, except this word "BORING". I even highlighted it for you. Nothing, turns a woman off faster than a boring man. Ignore the nice part she talked about. That's her way of saying "My mother was abused, I want to be abused as well". But, that word boring is huge.

 

[perseverance]

She told you what was wrong with you. But, like most men, you don't listen. Ignore everything she said, except this word "BORING". I even highlighted it for you. Nothing, turns a woman off faster than a boring man. Ignore the nice part she talked about. That's her way of saying "My mother was abused, I want to be abused as well". But, that word boring is huge.

One girl calls me boring, who cares?

She's fat, she's ugly and I don't know why I took what she said literally, I was just interested in knowing why there are women who like ars*holes? You can a be strong, confident, great catch without being a jerk.

As for me being boring? Apart from her, no one has ever said I am boring and if me not treating a woman like total sh*t makes me boring, then I can live with that.

Frankly, I'm 22 years old, I've had my fun, I've slept with a few women, I've learnt many lessons, now I am looking for a quality woman! If that makes me boring to a majority of women, so be it! I'm after quality, not quantity.