Apocalyptic **** Test or What?

[bat soup]

Hey guys, the boss took me and my coworkers out for lunch today. Our server was a 6.5 caked-in-makeup girl.
Things seemed fine up till the end when the boss was paying the e bill and we all thanked him in unison.

then the waitress says “That’s right, guys, thank your sugar daddy”

wtaf?

Maybe she was trying to be funny. Women sometimes do that and usually fail.

 

[SargeMaximus]

Couldn't agree with you more. Maybe that's the key.

Becoming an observer almost.

isn’t that what I did when I said “You know it!”
?

 

[mbc0029]

isn’t that what I did when I said “You know it!”
?

It's almost like you're watching sportsball, or a movie

It's weird

 

[Vero Della Rosa]

In order to play the game, you need to emotionally detach yourself from the outcome. So when you feel negative emotions coming up like 'this chick is dissing me' and you detach yourself from the emotion and see this psychologically messed up woman for who she really is, you can really respond in a detached way that will hurt her more than the anger she expects from you.

The problem is interpretation - we know that getting hurt is a sign that we aren't seeing things properly / are lacking growth.

Acting chill in order to hurt her is still a sign we aren't seeing things properly / are lacking growth.

We're seeing ourselves as too important / taking ourselves too seriously. We feel as if we lose an interaction it will cause some negative outcome, if we lose an interaction that will mean something about us, the girl will leave proud 'even though she's totally arrogant and women need to learn.' It's unhelpful

The assumptions many have make them unable to interpret what is significant in situations and what isn't

For this we need truth

Truth heals

 

[SargeMaximus]

It's almost like you're watching sportsball, or a movie

It's weird

I feel like that most of the time on my own but when I’m with normies I don’t wanna run game

 

[Vero Della Rosa]

Couldn't agree with you more. Maybe that's the key.

Becoming an observer almost.

That's closer but it's difficult for an observer to really be in the moment/be present .

 

[kavi]

She saw that you guys were a bunch of b1tches like little girls thanking the boss ur king and she was disgusted,

Im just being honest dont take it personally.

This is a funny story actually i dont get it why is this so serious. Wouldnt u think it 'beta' if you saw a bunch of boys/men acting like that.

I mean should we really be thanking our bosses for taking us out on lunch, it would be rude not to accept the invite and so you really have no choice not to be there so tbh I dont think thanks is justified there.

 

[mbc0029]

That's closer but it's difficult for an observer to really be in the moment/be present .

Do you pick your moments where you're an observer (on the sideline), and when you're in the game (active participant)?

Since becoming aware, I've spent majority of the time being an observer. It almost comes natural to me at this point. The observer part.

 

[SargeMaximus]

Do you pick your moments where you're an observer (on the sideline), and when you're in the game (active participant)?

Since becoming aware, I've spent majority of the time being an observer. It almost comes natural to me at this point. The observer part.

Im the same. (I know you not addressing me but this is so similar). Like with this thing in my op I just sort of “meh” my response and was more wondering if I should have done something special. Half the time I wonder if it’s my social inadequacies or if I truly dgaf

 

[mbc0029]

Im the same. (I know you not addressing me but this is so similar). Like with this thing in my op I just sort of “meh” my response and was more wondering if I should have done something special. Half the time I wonder if it’s my social inadequacies or if I truly dgaf

It's probably a mixture of "social inadequacies" and truly not giving a ****. Depending on who the girl is, or the situation, environment, etc.

I fall into analysis paralysis a lot, which could hurt when a good opportunity arises. Analysis is great for careers or when you're at home. But for active participation, you can become socially lazy. I have missed plenty of opportunities.

What I'm likely going to do going forward is prepare myself for active participation in my head before I go out anywhere. Even if it's to the grocery store or gas station. Just to get the "mental reps". Maybe focus on the process or steps involved, and not on the end result (or anticipated end result). Become outcome independent.

I have learned some things from observation. Confidence is a huge cheat code, and probably the biggest factor in getting laid or finding women. How you get to confidence (Options) is ultimately going to give you the best chance of success with women. It's also when you're least likely to care about rejection. Which is the root cause of not talking to a girl. I have buffers for sure.

I like this site, b/c I can take notes and analyze situations, and look at other people's experiences. But ultimately, it comes down to getting results. I always have that in the back of my mind.

 

[SargeMaximus]

It's probably a mixture of "social inadequacies" and truly not giving a ****. Depending on who the girl is, or the situation, environment, etc.

I fall into analysis paralysis a lot, which could hurt when a good opportunity arises. Analysis is great for careers or when you're at home. But for active participation, you can become socially lazy. I have missed plenty of opportunities.

What I'm likely going to do going forward is prepare myself for active participation in my head before I go out anywhere. Even if it's to the grocery store or gas station. Just to get the "mental reps". Maybe focus on the process or steps involved, and not on the end result (or anticipated end result). Become outcome independent.

I have learned some things from observation. Confidence is a huge cheat code, and probably the biggest factor in getting laid or finding women. How you get to confidence (Options) is ultimately going to give you the best chance of success with women. It's also when you're least likely to care about rejection. Which is the root cause of not talking to a girl. I have buffers for sure.

I like this site, b/c I can take notes and analyze situations, and look at other people's experiences. But ultimately, it comes down to getting results. I always have that in the back of my mind.

I’ve been laid with prolly about 40-50 individual girls and had sexual hundreds of times.

 

[mbc0029]

I’ve been laid with prolly about 40-50 individual girls and had sexual hundreds of times.

Do you get bored?

It's a silly question, but since my numbers are nowhere near that, I can't imagine solving that problem, and then asking myself "What now?"

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I'd just say something like..."Well, that's a great strategy to maximize your tips." and keep it moving.

No need to always win every battle. Some things simply aren't worth your energy or time.

Someone who is secure and confident in themself doesn't worry about silliness like this since it's beneath them to even respond in anything other than a off handed way, if even that.

 

[SargeMaximus]

I'd just say something like..."Well, that's a great strategy to maximize your tips." and keep it moving.

No need to always win every battle. Some things simply aren't worth your energy or time.

Someone who is secure and confident in themself doesn't worry about silliness like this since it's beneath them to even respond in anything other than a off handed way, if even that.

Yeah that’s my thinking too. I felt like maybe I was too chill. Sometimes I don’t know what needs to be addressed as disrespect and what to just let slide off your back. Thanks.

@mbc0029 kind of. I definitely don’t care if I get laid or not nowadays (Low T!!!! Maybe)but I do love sex and just the other day I was comparing some of the girls I been with and found that they each had something I enjoyed that the others didn’t. I guess that’s what they mean when they say every woman has her charms