Anyway to save this??

Crissco

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Havent posted in a while, been very busy lately. Going to make this as short as I can for you guys.

-Hooked up with an ex from 2 years ago again (We were on and off for 2 years)
-Broke up 3 times total
-Apparently I "Broke her heart" by breaking up with her
-Started hanging again about 2 months ago
-Got heavy quick, like it always did (Acted like we where in a relationship when hanging, kind of freaked me out a bit too)
-Hung out 1-3 times a week

Heres the kicker: She ended it with her a couple of days ago, why?
-She couldnt really give me a straight answer to everything..but:
-Doesnt want to be hurt again
-Seeing each other to much (Bull, we used to hang 6x a week a year ago)

I feel its over completely, since this was the fouth time getting back together. Also shes moving to her home state in May (3 hours away)

Anyway I can save this and keep it as a FWB situation for the next couple months, or just cut my loses here?
Only issue is, im starting to develop oneitis for this girl again, we did a lot together, I tried with this one, when together she was good to me..Miss her a bit.


How would you guys handle this one?
 

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Crissco said:
Anyway I can save this and keep it as a FWB situation for the next couple months, or just cut my loses here?
normally yes
Only issue is, im starting to develop oneitis for this girl again
this is why you cannot
, we did a lot together, I tried with this one, when together she was good to me..Miss her a bit.
so spin plates. oneitis avoided, "missing her" avoided, problem solved.
normally, if you play it cool, you could have a temporary FWB with her. temporary, because eventually she will want more anyway. but in this case YOU will want more. this would not be a problem, if she would feel the same, but i have a feeling this is a forced relationship that is destined to end.

your choice in the end.
 

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CrimsonPanther said:
normally, if you play it cool, you could have a temporary FWB with her. temporary, because eventually she will want more anyway. but in this case YOU will want more. this would not be a problem, if she would feel the same, but i have a feeling this is a forced relationship that is destined to end.

your choice in the end.
I had that feeling for a while also. Which is probally why I broke it off the first 3 times with her.
 

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What was that quote from RT about dealing with EX'es?

Picking through the garbage and your neighbors seeing it or something...
 

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You answered your own question:

Crissco said:
Anyway I can save this and keep it as a FWB situation for the next couple months, or just cut my loses here??
Crissco said:
Only issue is, im starting to develop oneitis for this girl again,
If you develop oneitis for her then you can't keep it FWB because you will be lying to yourself hoping this will turn into a relationship.

Cut your losses and move on.
 

It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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She only came back for validation. Open your eyes, you're being used!
 
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