Anything i say annoys gf

[NeedToImprove]

it seems everything i say or do gets her pissed of idk why and she gets mad.i dont know what im doing wrong and i know im not doing anything.

strange thing is this started when she started to phone me more times a day than usual. I started to notice that theres like nothing to talk about and i get effin pissed off cuz we used to talk alot and i had alot to say but now i dont. We used to talk a lot on the phone, she was always happy to hear me and see me.

everything seems like uhhhhh what are u doing? and stuff like that and it annoys me and i know it annoys her and when i pick up a subject she turns me down and says oh okay or oh cool? like wtf/: i feel that i'm walking on a mine field where the mines are the subjects i pick up to talk to her. We started arguing a lot for no good reason. i noticed the lack of subject / talking for a couple of days now, maybe a week or two. I don't really know if it's me that lost the capacity of comunicating or if it was her. If i dont know how to talk to her how come i did for the past year and a half.

i tried to make her talk to me, explain me what's wrong, but she says she's just tired and needs vacation, she needs peace in her heart and stuff like that, a time off from her work, but i feel there's more to it.

she was very harsh to a coworker today also, i heard it on the phone while talking to her, and when i told her there was no need to act like that, that there was no obvious reason, she flamed me as well.

later tonight we were texting, i was offering her my support, telling her she could count on me and she sent a text message saying she had to go to bed early like i annoyed her for unknown reasons and disconnected her cell phone so i couldnt send more text messages.

what should i do from now on? next her, avoid her for two or three weeks...

 

[ItsAllAboutMe]

I can't tell you what to do but I understand where your coming from, the point where there isn't too much too talk about on the phone but when you don't talk on the phone they think you don't care and dont want to talk and than when you do talk there is **** all to talk about, so arguments just come from nothing.

Your decision what you do but try to cut the conversations a little bit shorter each time and it might help eventually, long converstations usually means some kind of trashy dispute.

I would even say soomething to her like, I don't want to interfere with your life and if you need time alone i totally understand. They might come back with something like is that how much you love me or something and then you say no but I want you to do what is right for you, and then usually they might say your right for them or what ever or something. Basically you can get her to speak more and explain more, let her express more by offering yourself out of the relationship/situation which the girl won't really let happen if they like you

 

[shizz702]

Look you need to learn when to walk away and let a chick be. When they get like that (and it could be for various reasons, on the rag, mad at you, mad at themself, who knows) leave them alone! The more you pull the more they will push.

Leave her alone and let her cool off, if she wants your support she will come to you for it. If she doesn't she will work it out on her own and wants to do it that way. The worst thing you can do is keep poking the issue and talking to her and offering emotional support and all that silliness, leave her be and let her come back to you when she is ready.

 

[Aaron B]

perhaps she has some anger issues

how is the sex?

 

[Atom Smasher]

You need to make yourself scarce, i.e. make yourself a rare, valuable commodity again. It sounds like you two are way too "familiar" with each other and her ugly side is coming out because she herself is aware that she is starting to take you for granted and that frustrates a woman.

Don't try to make her talk to you and explain anything. You need to take the reins in the relationship and set the frame and the parameters. From the way you are describing her it does seem to me that she is being subtly (or maybe not-so-subtly) disrespectful to you in her responses to you.

Get yourself busy with other things in life and noticably spend less time talking with her. Don't let her know that anything is wrong at all. You are simply boosting your value (supply and demand).

This is the only thing that is going to stop the current hemmorage and stabilize things. It could take a turn for the worse, in which case this would be inevitable anyway, so it's best to know now. But chances are that she will start to feel insecure and your value will skyrocket in her eyes.

Will not your value also skyrocket in your own eyes? Methinks so.

 

[NeedToImprove]

i think she wants to say it's over but she cant and i really dont want to go on like this, not having subjects to talk about and her being aggressive with me for no good reason? something must have happened

 

[Aaron B]

How Is The Sex?????

 

[handle]

sounds like your girlfriend is annoying

 

[NeedToImprove]

@Aaron B Sex is ok i think, she doesn't complain nor me, i think it's a communication problem (or a absence of it ) that's is evolving into a lack of respect one. If she has problems in her life i think she should talk about them or at least not treat me as the main cause of those problems.

For example look at this text message i got from her today in the morning when i asked her why she disconnected her phone yesterday. " iam @ the hospital for an appointment with the doctor. stop with your **** cuz im not in the mood please." and she hasn't said anything since.

she wasn't like this @ all some time ago.strange thing is she even bought me a sweater for xmas. if she didnt like me why would she even lose time buying me a gift oh btw i bought her a perfume (not one of those cheap ones).

 

[Atom Smasher]

You've got to take proactive action because you know deep down inside you're headed for Dump-land.

Don't be the one to be dumped. You've really got to bring this to a head and take action. Resolving this one way or the other, no matter what the outcome, will be far better than the torturous limbo you're in right now.

At this point you're wishing for something that simply isn't there. You think you can fix it, perhaps by having a "heart-to-heart" talk with her, but that is very unlikely. Her actions are speaking volumes to you.

You need to start speaking through your own actions, i.e. demonstrating that her disrespect is NOT OK with you. She is doing this because you are static, staying exactly the same. Bring this to a head and vanish, at least 80% vanish if not 100% and let the chips fall where they may.

Do not get dumped, bro. It takes too much out of a man. Take action. It is up to you to handle this or it is going to handle you, and very roughly.

 

[NeedToImprove]

@Atom Smasher so you think trying to talk to her isn't going to change anything and that she has made her mind about me?

Also you are of the opinion that she wants me to take action and by taking action i mean she wants me to judge her by her actions and words, understand the message and get lost cuz she is too coward to say it face to face like civilized people? am i right?

So avoiding her for an undetermined time is the key here? Waiting for her to miss me and show interest again? What if she doesn't?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LZk_HnE-cdU ----> LOL

 

[Iceberg]

@Atom Smasher so you think trying to talk to her isn't going to change anything and that she has made her mind about me?

Relationships are not perfect. They have ups and downs. But disrespect can never be tolerated. That's an issue that is rotten at the foundation. You can't come back from that.

Also you are of the opinion that she wants me to take action and by taking action i mean she wants me to judge her by her actions and words, understand the message and get lost cuz she is too coward to say it face to face like civilized people? am i right?

It doesn't matter what she wants. A better girlfriend would never treat you in such a way. Find a better quality woman instead of worrying about how to fix a low quality woman.

So avoiding her for an undetermined time is the key here? Waiting for her to miss me and show interest again? What if she doesn't?

That's a stupid question.

 

[NeedToImprove]

@Iceberg i dont think it is ice if you love a girl you will always be thinking what will happen if she doesnt come back. it's not easy to forget someone you still love even if she doesnt feel the same. it's back to 0 again.

you know mate i'm 36 years old and i'm tired of hitting the reset button everytime and start from scratch again and again. and the dating scene dunno @ my age i dont really want to go clubbing to find a girl, i just want a ****in stable LTR. i think the problem is me, maybe i don't do everything that needs to be done even though i try my best. guess my best isnt enough...

 

[5string]

i think she wants to say it's over but she cant and i really dont want to go on like this, not having subjects to talk about and her being aggressive with me for no good reason? something must have happened

This is what your gut just told you. Your gut is most always right.

Bail :woo:

 

[AAAgent]

this is getting pathetic.

Maybe the reason she has been treating you like a pathetic piece of crap is because that's what you're acting like. The relationship was already beyond repair when you tolerated disrespect from her. Now that she disrespects you, you think maybe its because you deserved it? or that you're not doing everything you should be. That's retarded. Please, take a few good steps back and read what you're saying.

Are you really that weak of a person that you lets a person disrespect you?

I understand you may feel old and out of sync with the dating game and maybe scared of having to go through the process again but hey man that's life. You don't want to be one of the guys that ends up saying no to everything because the wife won't like it. How is she supposed to look at you and respect you as a man, when you don't even respect yourself enough to stand-up for yourself.

It's time for you to leave and move onto greener pastures. Read the DJ Bible while your at it.

 

[Tiguere]

Yea man that last text message is pure disrespect.

Walk away while you still have dignity.