Anyone have experience with online dating?

[meerk]

Giving it a try right now.

My question is what's the best thing to do on the first date? I've heard it both ways.

coffee date
-A simple coffee date is the lowest risk, considering you are meeting eachother for the first time. Low cost and easy to bail for either side if things don't go well. But they are well, boring especially if you don't have alot of common interests to talk about in the beginning.

action date
- well there's action, opportunities for kino etc and more fun, but requires more investment/commitment that might be hard for either side when you are meeting for the first time.

Anyone with alot of experience doing online dating? What's the best in your experience?

 

[georgie24]

Your going to have to eventually see her, talk to her and be intimate

why not just troll the streets for dates?

when people ask you how you guys met it will get so awkward for the both of you unless you lie about it

 

[meerk]

Your going to have to eventually see her, talk to her and be intimate

why not just troll the streets for dates?

when people ask you how you guys met it will get so awkward for the both of you unless you lie about it

I moved to a new place and social circle is rather limited.

Online gives me extra options, I'm not there to chat or cyber, goal is to meet up asap. It just gives me another venue to find people.

 

[mayfair]

Ive never met alot of women off the internet but the ones i have the mid week coffee house date just to break the ice seemed to work well, relaxed atmosphere, chat away and hopefully chemistry

Never tried the action 1st date....yet

What i will say is the net (from mine and close friends experience) seems to be a great way to meet woman for a quick lay but there be alot of crazy *****es on some of these sites, tread carefully if your looking for a wife

 

[damnsam]

Women are at the advantage with online dating. I was curious to know what it might be like to be an attractive woman online and made a nice profile using my female friend's picture (with approval) and she is about a solid 8. I made the profile on a Friday afternoon checked back on Sunday evening and over the weekend had 40+ messages in my inbox and numerous views and winks.

I was quite overwhelmed by the # of messages and some were short and dull (delete) while others I can tell the guy took time and initiative. As the week went on I soon had over 100+ messages and by this time just trying to read the messages became a chore and a burden. I never responded to any messages as that would be wrong and just deleted the account.

The insight I gained was you're just 1 out of 100's of messages. If you attempt to contact an attractive woman online you better have a damn good profile, have some great photos and write a great first message. Even then she may or may not contact you, it also takes some work to maintain the interest and to meet in person as most girls are hesitant about the whole online dating. I will also say even the less attractive women online are not serious to try to date and meet someone as they are simply trying to get attention they normally don't get in real life. Only online beggars can be choosers. Others are also very picky and not realistic hoping that they will find the perfect guy or their "soulmate" online. And finally most girls will not write the first message even IF they are interested in you. If you see that they viewed your profile and you are also interested then shoot them a quick message.

If you have a great profile and write a striking message and even meet n greet, congrats! Something low key without a lot of investment. Coffee shop or maybe at the mall. Paying for coffee or a drink shows a nice gesture for her time and if there is no initial connection you can simply find a good stopping point and thank her for her time. If you are interested and felt some connection STILL find a good stopping point and thank her for her time BUT before you part ways set up the next date.

 

[nismo-4]

Women are at the advantage with online dating. I was curious to know what it might be like to be an attractive woman online and made a nice profile using my female friend's picture (with approval) and she is about a solid 8. I made the profile on a Friday afternoon checked back on Sunday evening and over the weekend had 40+ messages in my inbox and numerous views and winks.

Women are at the advantage with dating PERIOD! They decide whether or not to let you in, and for what reason.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

I actually have a guide to online dating I'm writing now. I met the girl I'm dating now via online, and SHE hit ME up first.

The secret really is in the profile. Like Damnsam said, girls get 100s of messages, and will NOT read through all of them. However, they WILL check out your profile if you send them a message and they see that you have a nice-looking picture (specifically, a head shot of you looking well-groomed).

When they get to your profile, make sure everything they read on it is POSITIVE. No "woe is me" stories about how all girls treat you like crap, or how you hope you can find that special someone that likes you for you. You need to sound FUN, UPBEAT, and slightly mysterious. No long paragraphs, the less you say the better.

As for dates, I have found the most successful one to be a bookstore with a coffee shop (like Barnes and Noble). It's almost like having two dates in one: you meet at the coffee shop part for snacks and a drink; then, you walk around looking at different books. It feels like 2 dates, which is good 'cause most girls are more comfortable giving it up to you once they've been on 2 or 3 dates with you, meaning you have a better shot at getting laid either that same night or the next night - and yes, I've done this quite a few times, so I KNOW it works

 

[Iceberg]

Giving it a try right now.

My question is what's the best thing to do on the first date? I've heard it both ways.

coffee date
-A simple coffee date is the lowest risk, considering you are meeting eachother for the first time. Low cost and easy to bail for either side if things don't go well. But they are well, boring especially if you don't have alot of common interests to talk about in the beginning.

action date
- well there's action, opportunities for kino etc and more fun, but requires more investment/commitment that might be hard for either side when you are meeting for the first time.

Anyone with alot of experience doing online dating? What's the best in your experience?

Coffee date, or better yet a few drinks at a bar. Coffee date feels too "nice guy in the romantic comedy" for me.

I wouldn't worry about the conversation....either you two can sit down and chat like two grownups, or you're both awkward dorks. I've never been at a lack of conversation topics on first dates. You'll be fine in that regard.

And I agree with what you said about the action date....it's way too much investment for a girl you've just met and don't really care about. Keep it simple and carefree.

Your going to have to eventually see her, talk to her and be intimate

why not just troll the streets for dates?

when people ask you how you guys met it will get so awkward for the both of you unless you lie about it

It's 2012. No one cares about that sh!t anymore. Besides, if you like a girl, are you gonna let the opinion of some haters stop you from having her?

 

[Harry Wilmington]

@Iceberg Very true. The last 6 or 7 girls I dated were from online. I just tell people I was too busy to go out and find someone, so I went online, and they usually understand. And if not, I'm more than happy to remind them that they're still single and I'm not #winning

 

[Somedude_UK_31]

Your going to have to eventually see her, talk to her and be intimate

why not just troll the streets for dates?

when people ask you how you guys met it will get so awkward for the both of you unless you lie about it

I agree with you. In fact I'm very built and steroids free (so not fvcked up face..etc) and met over 60 girls online, shagged ALL but a single one. No matter what I always felt it wasn't an accomplishment and something was missing.
That's why I'm here, because I want to grow balls to approach in real life, just like a real man.

I could setup a profile tonight and have at least 4 dates a week if I wanted to, but never gonna go back to that. Girls online fit one of the two categories:
1)Troubled enough with major issues that not enough guys go after them in public
2)Attention who*es
NOTHING ELSE.

 

[doctorj]

Girls online fit one of the two categories:
1)Troubled enough with major issues that not enough guys go after them in public
2)Attention who*es
NOTHING ELSE.

^ word. It's just not worth the trouble, better to find girls offline

 

[incognito42]

Find naughty ninjas thread on online dating/Pof. There's one somewhere on the first few pages here

 

[IronDJ]

Women are at the advantage with dating PERIOD! They decide whether or not to let you in, and for what reason.

Exactly! I've never really had an issue getting dates online, but I do agree that there are a lot of crazy ones out there.

As for a first date. Drinks every time if I can get away with it. It allows both of us to loosen up and allow a little more Kino than is usually expected/allowed on a first date.