Anyone else not into picking up women at the gym?

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I keep reading stories about guys trying to meet women at the gym all the time, but I cannot and will not do that.

My frame of mind is not going there to meet women.
Going to the gym and working out means I'm in battle mode.
All my thoughts and energy goes into pushing myself and my body further, getting to that next level.
I'm prepared for war. That's the mentality I have going to the gym.

I'll never understand why guys use the gym as the sole purpose of meeting women.
It's too much of a distraction in my opinion.
 
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I went out with my trainer at few times, She was ridiculously hot and a Yoga teacher.

Nothing came of it but I couldn’t believe she gave me the time day, this chick had 6’4 Aloha Dogs wanting her,
 

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I keep reading stories about guys trying to meet women at the gym all the time, but I cannot and will not do that.

My frame of mind is not going there to meet women.
Going to the gym and working out means I'm in battle mode.
All my thoughts and energy goes into pushing myself and my body further, getting to that next level.
I'm prepared for war. That's the mentality I have going to the gym.

I'll never understand why guys use the gym as the sole purpose of meeting women.
It's too much of a distraction in my opinion.
It should never be a sole reason to go gym. But if you see an attractive girl and she is giving eye contact, you should build interaction and connection over a period of time, not just go for number straightaway unless she shows huge interest
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Nice excuses to be a loser.

I'm in a relationship but still talk to random (men and women) in the gym. Hell, my latest deadlift PR was because this chick that became my gym buddy coerced me.
 

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C'mon man, gym is one of the best places to meet a girl, especially if you're late 30s, 40s and are looking for a 20 something. You get to see her up close, in good light, with little to no make up and have plenty of time to first evaluate her and secondly see if she gives any IOIs. Who do you think you're kidding with that 'I'm prepared for war' nonsense? ;) You're a 42yrs old dude, not 28yrs old Jay Cutler training for Mr. Olympia hoping to get the title from Ronnie Coleman.
 

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this chick had 6’4 Aloha Dogs wanting her,
I know you meant Alpha Dogs and not Aloha Dogs. O and P are next to each other on a keyboard.

An Aloha Dog could be a Hawaiian Alpha Male.

I'll never understand why guys use the gym as the sole purpose of meeting women.
It's too much of a distraction in my opinion.
The general gym floor is not a great place for meeting women.

The free weights and barbells section of nearly every gym is a sausage fest. The few women that go into the weights/barbells section of a gym are wearing earbuds and actively discouraging approaches.

The best workaround for the earbuds problem is going to fitness classes at your gym. A lot of gyms offer group classes and there are fitness brands based entirely around group class formats.

It is mainstream normie advice to both do fitness classes and co-ed sports leagues to avoid the bars and swipe apps.

Fewer men go to fitness class than one might think given how the ratios are in those classes. When I have gone to fitness classes, they've been strength, interval training/bootcamp, or kickboxing/boxing type classes. I do genuinely like these format of classes and perceive a benefit beside pickup. I don't perceive a benefit in bar attendance besides pickup.

Most of the classes I have done have been some sort of high intensity interval training (HIIT) type variant. Example of this include cardio boxing/kickboxing, barbell weightlifting class, kettlebell class, and standard HIIT/bootcamp classes.

It doesn't matter which type of class you go to, all of them will have more females than males, so find a format that you like. A lot of men try to go to yoga class because yoga has gotten the most hype for pickup, but it's not necessary to pick yoga unless you genuinely enjoy yoga.

I have gotten dates from fitness classes over the years. All the classes I've gone to have had the commonality of being challenging from a pickup perspective. I've gone to classes at multiple places over the years. None of the places I went were overly social in my opinion, which somewhat defeats the purposes of the good ratios.

It is a little easier to approach in a fitness class than on the street due to the earbud factor. A lot of women simply aren't sociable in the moments before/after fitness class and give off body language that discourages approaches.

Classes are better than the general gym floor but they aren't game on easy mode either.
 

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C'mon man, gym is one of the best places to meet a girl, especially if you're late 30s, 40s and are looking for a 20 something. You get to see her up close, in good light, with little to no make up and have plenty of time to first evaluate her and secondly see if she gives any IOIs. Who do you think you're kidding with that 'I'm prepared for war' nonsense? ;) You're a 42yrs old dude, not 28yrs old Jay Cutler training for Mr. Olympia hoping to get the title from Ronnie Coleman.
What do I care about random women at the gym? Unless she ambushes me in the elevator with "Take out your **** or I will cut you now," I don't really care what she or anyone else is doing at that gym. That's why I lift at home. Unless I'm gonna get approached by women somewhere, it's not worth my effort.
 

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I go to the gym for me and my progression towards a goal. It wouldn't hurt my feelings one bit if the gym was segregated by sex.

Unless she is my trainer, and helping me with form, execution or spotting me, meeting a woman at the gym will not get me closer to what I'm spending my money to be a member there. I can meet women at the beach, pool bar, or on the street and it is not going to interrupt my workout. That time is for ME...
 

You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.

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You have better luck at a 24 youfit or local YMCA then you're CrossFit or pilates or even local yoga gym
 

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For a lot of guys gym is the only social interaction they get all day besides work/family. That's why they talk about hitting on girls at the gym.
 

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I keep reading stories about guys trying to meet women at the gym all the time, but I cannot and will not do that.

My frame of mind is not going there to meet women.
Going to the gym and working out means I'm in battle mode.
All my thoughts and energy goes into pushing myself and my body further, getting to that next level.
I'm prepared for war. That's the mentality I have going to the gym.

I'll never understand why guys use the gym as the sole purpose of meeting women.
It's too much of a distraction in my opinion.
good for you?

serious you don't need to "want" to pick woman in certain places, sometimes opportunity arise and you just take the bite, make friends and pick woman in any places depending of my mood
 

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Recently this bird has been checking me out in the gym. We've been going there at the same times forever, but I've noticed her looking recently. To be fair, I tend to make a beeline for where I know she is as well. I need to initiate conversation next week.
Otherwise I'm not interested in chatting to birds at the gym. I'm there to exercise and so are they. It's the same in any other environment, unless they're specifically showing interest, neither am I. It's actually pretty annoying the number of young lads there especially, treating the place like a youth club.
 

If you want to talk, talk to your friends. If you want a girl to like you, listen to her, ask questions, and act like you are on the edge of your seat.

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Eu continuo lendo histórias sobre caras tentando conhecer mulheres na academia o tempo todo, mas não posso e não vou fazer isso.

Meu estado de espírito não é ir lá para conhecer mulheres.
Ir à academia e malhar significa que estou no modo de batalha.
Todos os meus pensamentos e energia vão para empurrar a mim e ao meu corpo ainda mais, chegando ao próximo nível.
Estou preparado para a guerra. Essa é a mentalidade que tenho indo para a academia.

Eu nunca vou entender porque os caras usam a academia como único propósito de conhecer mulheres.
É muita distração na minha opinião.
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o i like meeting people at the gym, it helps me to train social skills, so i meet married, single, old, fat woman
 

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For a lot of guys gym is the only social interaction they get all day besides work/family. That's why they talk about hitting on girls at the gym.
It also may be the only environment where they actually see women that they'd be interested in. I see tons of attractive women at my gym literally every single time I go. It's a way more popular trend of young women today to go to the gym, I remember back in 2010(ish) when I was around 20 you barely ever saw young women at the gym. The problem is it's not an environment that is conducive to encouraging interactions like this and if not done properly can really create some issues, more so if both parties are regulars. I've approached women at the gym like half a dozen times in my life and none of the interactions led to anything, with most of them actually creating a ton of unnecessary drama.
 
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