Anyone else kinda lost purpose after college?

[Huffman]

Back when I was in Uni, I always had this sense of working towards a great goal, that my life was going somewhere. Ever since then, that's kinda disappeared. All I had wanted at some point, I've achieved. Except for some lofty goals, like waking up next to someone I truly love, and then spend all day doing something that truly fulfills me. But that's nothing specific which I can work towards.

I realize all the options in the world are open to me, I have neither debt nor obligations. But really, I can't think of anything worthwile to do!?

I'm kinda sorry for this whiny post. Am I having the mid-life crisis before 30 But I guess this is quite common, so some of you have surely gone through it. How did you spend your time, and what made you change your mind?

 

[dustmuffin]

Go and get a hobby you can be passionate about.

 

[oOh Nasty]

Go out and witness the world more and find something that stirs up your manly emotions. And then, use those emotions to create goals that seem nearly impossible but probably would be possible if you perfected yourself in more ways than you are already.

 

[BetterCallSaul]

I hated college. Of course I went to a private school (big mistake) thinking that by going to said highly rated private school I'll be so much further ahead in my career than others who were going to public universities (big mistake). Did I mention that said private school used to be strictly all male, and had only just started letting women go to school there? (another big mistake)

So not only were there not enough women around, I ended up not really liking my choice of study and while the people I got to know on a regular basis were decent enough, I never connected with them enough like I did my friends in high school. I ended up dropping out my sophomore year because I wasn't doing well anyway. Years later I did end up finishing my degree but even then I didn't like going to school. I was in the top 10% in my high school and graduated from college summa *** laude....I still dont like school. The thought of even going to grad school for a masters in something just utterly disgusts me. I hate writing long papers and researching bull$hit stats for some project.

I think overall a lot of the world leans too much toward book learning and driving unnecessarily to higher levels of education for simple jobs. In another 20-30 years I guess someone will need a PhD to get a secretarial job. It's total bull$hit.

 

[Alvafe]

I hated college. Of course I went to a private school (big mistake) thinking that by going to said highly rated private school I'll be so much further ahead in my career than others who were going to public universities (big mistake). Did I mention that said private school used to be strictly all male, and had only just started letting women go to school there? (another big mistake)

So not only were there not enough women around, I ended up not really liking my choice of study and while the people I got to know on a regular basis were decent enough, I never connected with them enough like I did my friends in high school. I ended up dropping out my sophomore year because I wasn't doing well anyway. Years later I did end up finishing my degree but even then I didn't like going to school. I was in the top 10% in my high school and graduated from college summa *** laude....I still dont like school. The thought of even going to grad school for a masters in something just utterly disgusts me. I hate writing long papers and researching bull$hit stats for some project.

I think overall a lot of the world leans too much toward book learning and driving unnecessarily to higher levels of education for simple jobs. In another 20-30 years I guess someone will need a PhD to get a secretarial job. It's total bull$hit.

here is the thing, its not really aducation, is just a way to prove you had it, just think, how many you do know it was just average and then still find good jobs? or even really bad ones? college school, its all about you ahving something to prove you did it, a lot of people will just care about what you can show on your resume, and not always need to be the truth, getting a PhD fora secetarial job I don't think will be a thing, but you can bet your little sorry ass then if anyone with that much try to compete for it, will fail. understand, when you hire someone you want someone who will stay on your job and solve your problem, not someone who is really good, will solve your problems then in 3 - 6 months quit because he find a better paying job

I knos the feeling of hating school, why? too random, it was never about what was the class it was about how teh professor/teacher really feel about, most are too lazy to even explain anything right, some are too retard you even damn ask how the **** he even can teach, in my case, what I saw was most are just doing it for some extra income didn't care about it at all, and are even less likely to put effort. so in the end coleege only teachs you to, learn alone, reading and trying to apply it be try and error., and that is what you really need to do, if you want to start a bussiness, you need to take the risk and that don't matter how much school time you have, you can also remember most well paid people are the ones who dropped college and started they own company.

if you want just to find a good job and live well then you need to enter and do what others ask, if you want to say fuk it all you will need to find something you can work on

 

[BlueAlpha1]

Back when I was in Uni, I always had this sense of working towards a great goal, that my life was going somewhere. Ever since then, that's kinda disappeared. All I had wanted at some point, I've achieved. Except for some lofty goals, like waking up next to someone I truly love, and then spend all day doing something that truly fulfills me. But that's nothing specific which I can work towards.

I realize all the options in the world are open to me, I have neither debt nor obligations. But really, I can't think of anything worthwile to do!?

I'm kinda sorry for this whiny post. Am I having the mid-life crisis before 30 But I guess this is quite common, so some of you have surely gone through it. How did you spend your time, and what made you change your mind?

Yes, I'm 27 and going through this right now. You're not alone. Only I have both debt and extra cash, which allows me to explain away my lack of motivation.

 

[GoodOne123]

In general, going to college is not worth it unless the degree is needed or highly beneficial in that field, e.g. engineering, medicine, law. And of course if you want to be an academic or researcher, a phd or masters is a must.

For the average guy who just wants a job and is not interested in the things above, college will just waste your time, youth, and money.

The truth is, if you truly had a real goal before you stepped in college, then that goal should still be there after you finished college. The fact you have no direction now, proves you never had a well defined path or goal to begin with.

Before I went to college, I decided I wanted to be my own man someday. No job, just my own business and ideas. And that goal is still there today, because I defined it and really wanted it. To this day I'm still working on it, gathering knowledge from other business people, reaserching on my own, and working in certain sectors in my field so I can be ready to achieve that goal someday.

I know how you feel, I've been there. But sometimes we just have to pick a path we like, and just commit and see where it goes. Who knows, we might change paths down the line. What's important is that you pick something and go all out. Make sure it is something you like, yet will give you a return in investment as well. Sitting and worrying about what to do will get you nowhere. You need to take action right now, and what happens after that will determine what step you need to take next.

 

[BetterCallSaul]

here is the thing, its not really aducation, is just a way to prove you had it, just think, how many you do know it was just average and then still find good jobs? or even really bad ones? college school, its all about you ahving something to prove you did it, a lot of people will just care about what you can show on your resume, and not always need to be the truth, getting a PhD fora secetarial job I don't think will be a thing, but you can bet your little sorry ass then if anyone with that much try to compete for it, will fail. understand, when you hire someone you want someone who will stay on your job and solve your problem, not someone who is really good, will solve your problems then in 3 - 6 months quit because he find a better paying job

This is where we're going to have to agree to disagree.

I know that college is also a method to prove you can finish something you started. Is that the only way one can prove they can accomplish something? Of course not. I can prove this by demonstrating my years of experience in a certain field and talking about what I've done. In fact don't take my word for it and have others verify these things. Oh wait! In fact, that is done today. It's when a prospective employer checks your references.

PhD for a secretarial job? Is it farfetched? Really? I'm not one of the oldest guys here however I do remember reading job descriptions for secretarial jobs when I was much younger. They basically said you needed to be a self-starter, have good interpersonal skills and preferably good at typing/keyboarding. It didn't require a bachelor's degree which many of these same positions today are now asking for, plus 2-3 years experience. Back then it was understood that most secretarial jobs were entry level positions.

I think too many employers today use a college degree as too great of a qualifier. In other words they use that as the bar to measure if some candidate is worthy of the job and if they have this degree, they let that do all the work of determining if they're a good fit. The employer COULD do additional leg work to find out if their office skills are up to par, but they don't. So no, I don't think it's out of the realm of possibility that in another 10+ years we'll start seeing graduate degrees required for more and more lower level positions.

 

[Alvafe]

This is where we're going to have to agree to disagree.

I know that college is also a method to prove you can finish something you started. Is that the only way one can prove they can accomplish something? Of course not. I can prove this by demonstrating my years of experience in a certain field and talking about what I've done. In fact don't take my word for it and have others verify these things. Oh wait! In fact, that is done today. It's when a prospective employer checks your references.

PhD for a secretarial job? Is it farfetched? Really? I'm not one of the oldest guys here however I do remember reading job descriptions for secretarial jobs when I was much younger. They basically said you needed to be a self-starter, have good interpersonal skills and preferably good at typing/keyboarding. It didn't require a bachelor's degree which many of these same positions today are now asking for, plus 2-3 years experience. Back then it was understood that most secretarial jobs were entry level positions.

I think too many employers today use a college degree as too great of a qualifier. In other words they use that as the bar to measure if some candidate is worthy of the job and if they have this degree, they let that do all the work of determining if they're a good fit. The employer COULD do additional leg work to find out if their office skills are up to par, but they don't. So no, I don't think it's out of the realm of possibility that in another 10+ years we'll start seeing graduate degrees required for more and more lower level positions.

having some people asking too much for some places are not new, I had job offer who asked me to know java, PHP, . net, C++, having all certification of it all, have ended college on computer science and all that crap, and he was not willing to pay more then bare minimum, said he need it as fast as possible, after 6 months the job offer was still up looking someone to apply. also is kinda hard you have experience when you are young, you are starting.

but yes I agree some people ask too much sometimes

 

[LiveFreeX]

It's like buying a shiny Mac when the workmanlike PC will do just fine.

Surely you jest sir. The Crapintosh is good for nothing except writing novels in Starbucks. The PC is the man's machine, parts are interchangeable, PC mechanics can rev the engine, it can be built with a little knowledge and a bunch of scrap. PC is the man's machine... Macin**** is the little woman's play time pretend computer so she can type out her article on social justice for the huffington post.