englishcrap
Senior Don Juan
Remember women are emotional roller coasters so anything that can get her emotions going is good.
This is very true. They seem to crave it. It's probably why they have so much drama in their lives.Originally posted by englishcrap
Remember women are emotional roller coasters so anything that can get her emotions going is good.
You keep riding 60 miles and you will go impotent. It can and has happened but I'm sure you already know this.Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
I wish that more women that I go out with would be more inclined to join me on 60 mile bike rides...
Well, I'm not rushing to have any children but I do use special seats to alleviate undue pressure in that special place.Originally posted by tx_interface
You keep riding 60 miles and you will go impotent. It can and has happened but I'm sure you already know this.
Good points there. Bowling allows you to check the girl's body for a longer time than normally, indeed. Kino is easy. Her misses that bring her defenses down, that's also true. Good stuff.Originally posted by swampwiz
I've taken about 20 different women on 1st (or near 1st) dates bowling. It's available *anywhere*, and in perfect air-conditioned climate. The rhythm of bowling is such that you get to do some action, but you can take a break at any time and do convo. You can do a little kino showing her how to bowl. And at the end of an hour, you can hang around at a table having a few drinks.
You can spend a lot of time carefully checking her figure as she walks over and back from the lane. And when she throws the dead balls (i.e., when she doesn't release the ball properly and it drops down from a high altitude - *crunch*) or a gutter ball, she usually thinks it's funny, and at least feels that she is not perfect (thereby knocking her guard down a bit.) And if you get lucky and hit a few strikes, you look someone who knows how what to do.
It is recommended that you be a fairly decent bowler, of course. You don't want to look like a fool.
I'm just an @sshole. I'm sitting down with a woman on a coffee date and I will tell her to stand up so I could take a good look at her. Why hide my interest? Hell, I've checked the snugness of their jeans. I tell them that I wanted to make sure that they were as fit as they looked and wasn't stuffing themselves into a pair of jeans 2 sizes too small. I don't do this with every woman I'm out with but I do let them know that I enjoy looking at them.Originally posted by flyinshark
Good points there. Bowling allows you to check the girl's body for a longer time than normally, indeed. Kino is easy. Her misses that bring her defenses down, that's also true. Good stuff.
You know that this works with some women quite good: they see you are confident! But some women would not get it..lets assume your confidence is not the biggest turn on for her. How would you feel if she ask you to stand up demonstrate her you biggest muscles since she wants to date not slender guys...?Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
I'm sitting down with a woman on a coffee date and I will tell her to stand up so I could take a good look at her. Why hide my interest?
That's a good point and I don't do it with all women. However, with women that are confident and work out regularly, I never have a problem doing this. I usually give them a neg-hit by telling them that they make the outfit that they are wearing look good. It comes off as me voicing my appreciation for their hard work.Originally posted by al77
You know that this works with some women quite good: they see you are confident! But some women would not get it..lets assume your confidence is not the biggest turn on for her. How would you feel if she ask you to stand up demonstrate her you biggest muscles since she wants to date not slender guys...?
It is not about hiding your interest, it is about not putting her into position she doesnt want to be in. Besides - you will have opportunities to see her body anyway. Why to make her feel uncomfortable?
..and DrDope:Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
You need to learn and understanded the importance of rapport. Without it you will have a hard time not only with your appoaches and #closes, but also with setting up activities.
Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Yes, probably with confident women it will be a good move. Maybe they even want it: what they are working out for?Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
That's a good point and I don't do it with all women. However, with women that are confident and work out regularly, I never have a problem doing this. I usually give them a neg-hit by telling them that they make the outfit that they are wearing look good. It comes off as me voicing my appreciation for their hard work.
Your example of them not wanting to date slender guys would never come up on the date, here's why. I already know that she likes slender guys! This was part of my qualifying her before we meet. I don't leave this type of thing to chance. Why waste either of our times by not having the basic character traits that either one of us are looking for?
THAT is NOT qualifying. YOU are supposed to qualify HER! It's like buying a car; would you buy any car just because a salesman says that you should? What if it doesn't fit your needs? Would you still buy it?Originally posted by al77
...I am really interested in how you actually do qualifing (email): it seems you are really-really good at it.
How do you figire out what guys she likes?
What do you ask her in general? Do you have like a set of questions you usually ask her?
I've taken girls climbing before...they seem to enjoy it. And I've even had women SUGGEST stuff like go-karting to me.Originally posted by Triple X
OK so I'm still a fairly new poster here and with this and my last post (whining about cold approaches).. it could be easily perceived that I have a strong disliking for the ideas on this site.
Not at all! I love most of the stuff on here, but lately all I seem to be talking about is the things I have a problem with. But just to clarify, I love this site really. Anyway.. onwards...
What I'm talking about here is the concept of 'Action Dates'. We've all heard the schpiel about 'do action dates, not boring stuff... blah blah... you'll be the one in control... blah blah... man's stuff... etc".
But does anyone else have a problem with the idea? I mean it sounds great in theory, taking a girl out on an exciting action-packed date full of adventures, thrills (!) etc..
But when it comes down to it?? How do you go about it?
For example let's suppose you have managed to get this hottie's #. So you call her up (couple of days later of course), and the conversation goes like this.
"Hey! What's up! ... blah blah.... so I was thinking, lets go GO-KARTING tomorrow!!"
Now as far as I can see most women are gonna be like... W...T...F... er, yeah, maybe I'll get back to you on that one!! (or not). You with me??
I can see the thinking behind the action dates... but some of the suggestions have ranged from bowling and go-karting, to parachute jumping, and even ROCK-CLIMBING!!! I mean for the love of Christ, please!?!
Me personally I like going to the cinema, to bars and restaurants etc.. it might be corny and old-fashioned but f*** it, its what I like to do with a woman!!
I fail to see how any new girl you just met is gonna want to do any of this stuff. But I mean dammit, even POOK emphasized the importance of action dates. So they've gotta be a good thing, right?!
I'm not here just to b*tch and moan.. I just need a bit more clarification on how to go about action dates. And which ones are best to choose. Comments are welcome.