Anyone else feel that certain advice given by PUAs is incongruent with your personality?

[jhonny9546]

I want to learn about escalation, logistics and other "phases" in dating but I don't see "interactions" as a series of phases. My focus is on myself, and I believe in direct communication: if I'm interested, I'll express it, and if she's interested, she'll respond. (and You are aware of IOI's).

I believe there’s only one phase: determining interest.
Once interest is established, I evaluate if she fits what I seek for a LTR.

Then, I prefer spontaneity over a rigid schedule; this allows for genuine connection.
And, by focusing on becoming a man of great value, i'll make myself into a "specific type of man" and a "specific kind of women" will naturally be drawn to me.

So if you're a healthy man using PUA methods, hores'll be drawn to you.
If you're a healthy man acting as a man, healthy women'll be drawn to you.

What I'm learning down the journey, is that it’s better to have one or two meaningful connections on 1000 women that you've met, rather than 10/20 hot and cold superficial ones.
And if you have the superficial ones, don't trash em, try to "use" them to tryout "boundaries", "respect", get "social proofed and preselected", and other useful stuff you might need in a healthy relationship.

In a relationship scenario, Quality over Quantity leads to wellbeing.

In essence, less is better.

But YMMV

 

[Solomon]

At what point did you find consistent success with approaching? I plan on approaching 2000 by the end of the year in my big city. I've only approached about maybe 200 and I see the same patterns over and over, and have been able to make adjustments that make a big difference

Took me a 1000 approaches to start becoming more comfortable. Remember it's a crap shoot and most likely you will get rejected. 99% of my approaches where during the night. If I could go back I would have done more day game

 

[SW15]

At what point did you find consistent success with approaching? I plan on approaching 2000 by the end of the year in my big city. I've only approached about maybe 200 and I see the same patterns over and over, and have been able to make adjustments that make a big difference

That's a very high number of approaches. It would be better to focus on compatibility and find a girlfriend within a lower quantity of approaches so that you won't need to approach anymore.

However, it's possible you might be a Thrill of the Hunt guy whereas I am more of a Pleasure of Sex guy.

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