Anybody else would completely give up if not for family pressure???

[bigdave17]

My family constantly asks me why I'm not married with kids yet

I think that's the only reason i continue to torture myself attempting dating. The rest of my life is pretty much perfect and i would be happy staying out of dating if not for people constantly pressuring me.

I feel horrible disappointing my parents/family members in Armenia so i keep bashing my brains against the wall. I wish i could just live a celibate monk lifestyle and not be judged for it. Why are people judged as being a huge failure if they don't get married and have kids? my family is especially horrible with it. They ask me constantly - the ones overseas are especially bad.

 

[zekko]

Wtf? So now the only reason you want to date is because of family pressure?
I'm beginning to come around to those guys who think you are in the closet, but in denial.

 

[bigdave17]

Wtf? So now the only reason you want to date is because of family pressure?
I'm beginning to come around to those guys who think you are in the closet, but in denial.

I love women and sex but all it has resulted in is torture for me

I would be okay living a celibate lifestyle and just focus on working out, making money, my friends and family forever if not for the constant pressure on me to find somebody.

 

[spinich]

Seriously? How old are you? When were you castrated? Because that reasoning is not what a MAN would subscribe too....if he had his crap together in anyway. You are beyond redemption I am afraid. Sorry for you.

 

[Von]

Wtf? So now the only reason you want to date is because of family pressure?
I'm beginning to come around to those guys who think you are in the closet, but in denial.

He wants a hottie so they can stop complaining and that would divert them from his homosexuality.

Mid-eastern family are a pain for these things.

BigDave parents probably get calls from "back home" to marry a daughter of a cousin or some girl from back home.

BigDave, the chinese invented an app "rent a boyfriend" exactly for that reason (girls being pressured to be married + kids by 25). Try it.

Or accept the arranged marriage, your future wife will probably be happy to live the "américain way" and "cover you"

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

You sound like the herbavore men over here in Japan.

They can't get laid to save their lives so they pretend they don't want to.

I recommend MGTOW or INCEL for you, Dave.

There's a reason misery loves company.

Blame whoever you want. But if your ideal woman showed up at your house and begged for a relationship, you wouldn't turn her away.

You want something that you can't get. There is only a few responses

Do the necessary work required to get what you want (hall of fame sosuave posters) (which you seem absolutely incapable of doing)

Pretend it's not your fault you can't get what you want. (banned angry sosuave posters)

Or try to convince yourself that you really don't want it after all. (MGTOW INCEL )

These options and ONLY these options have been the scourge of men since the dawn of time.

Your case is no different than the billions of other betas living, dead or yet to exist.

 

[Mazer]

Your problem is you care too much of what others think. Work on your IDGAF attitude.

 

[Fzatf]

"Dating is torture and you could be happy without women." You're treading even further into incel territory. Of course your family is disappointed in you. They know you can date but you get in your own way. You do realize they would be less worried about you if you dated one of those 32 year olds, or heaven forbid, a white woman?

You call the women interested in you not good enough, but currently that's your league. These will be the women you can attract until you are willing to put in the effort to find better. You've started with OLD but already you sound like you're giving up on it because you're not matching with enough girls you're attracted to. Are you also cold approaching? All you mention is that it's too hard.

You've got to get over your own fear and put in the time. If not, date the easy pickings and stop turning your nose at potentially quality women.

 

[Spaz]

Guys, Dave has little social understanding, even with all these replies that's considered hostile, he can't even recognise that emotion.

He'll need steps to follow for every single social interaction which is impossible for anyone here given the unpredictability of said interaction.

So its all then a never ending circle of torment for him.

His only viable solution is getting a woman that displays a total lack of empathy. A woman that mirrors him socially. Not many of those around but there are.

 

[bigdave17]

Guys, Dave has little social understanding, even with all these replies that's considered hostile, he can't even recognise that emotion.

He'll need steps to follow for every single social interaction which is impossible for anyone here given the unpredictability of said interaction.

So its all then a never ending circle of torment for him.

His only viable solution is getting a woman that displays a total lack of empathy. A woman that mirrors him socially. Not many of those around but there are.

huh? dude I make friends everywhere I go. My issue is that I want to meet someone soooo badly, that I come on too strong. I just have to make sure I dial it back and keep it simple and let it happen naturally instead of forcing it

The salon *****s who work for my friend last night, 2 or 3 of them were throwing themselves at me but none of them were anywhere near dating material. All of them were trainwrecks or chubby or fat or smokers or some other nonsense

 

[Spaz]

huh? dude I make friends everywhere I go. My issue is that I want to meet someone soooo badly, that I come on too strong. I just have to make sure I dial it back and keep it simple and let it happen naturally instead of forcing it

The salon *****s who work for my friend last night, 2 or 3 of them were throwing themselves at me but none of them were anywhere near dating material. All of them were trainwrecks or chubby or fat or smokers or some other nonsense

You have extremely low EQ.

Find a woman that displays extremely low EQ.

That's ur only viable option.

 

[Chi Town]

You have extremely low EQ.

Find a woman that displays extremely low EQ.

That's ur only viable option.

Stop sugar coating spaz, in other words
He's socially retarted.

 

[corrector]

My family constantly asks me why I'm not married with kids yet

I used to have this problem too until I got married, and then got divorced afterwards. The divorce shut everyone up. The marriage lasted for 2 months. Since this time, nobody asks or cares about this anymore and some family members became MGTOW and don't want to have anything to do with women after hearing how my marriage went south.

I think that's the only reason i continue to torture myself attempting dating. The rest of my life is pretty much perfect and i would be happy staying out of dating if not for people constantly pressuring me.

Since the divorce dating has been the last thing on my mind, and it also appears, everyone else also. It's like once you get married once that just clears the air, esp. if it's a big-scale wedding, and nobody cares after, they just want to know you got married once, and the person you got married to was real at least at the time of the wedding. (i.e. you didn't pay someone or sponsor someone from another country just to do that).

I feel horrible disappointing my parents/family members in Armenia so i keep bashing my brains against the wall. I wish i could just live a celibate monk lifestyle and not be judged for it. Why are people judged as being a huge failure if they don't get married and have kids? my family is especially horrible with it. They ask me constantly - the ones overseas are especially bad.

But would people judge you as a failure if a woman divorces you, puts you on spousal support/child support and takes your kids or would they keep quiet? When a woman behaves bad and wrecks the marriage, trust me, people get off your back. They just don't want you to get hurt once you get burned after you get married. Nothing keeps people quiet like the words, divorce, and it's the woman's fault of the divorce because she was a bad character. Can I advise you to make the same mistake I made, and settle with anyone that's at least half-presentable just to get married? If you are desperate to get them of your back then you have no choice but hope your marriage lasts longer than mine.

 

[Spaz]

Stop sugar coating spaz, in other words
He's socially retarted.

I have a soft spot for men who continously tries their best to better himself even when he fails constantly. Such men deserves respect and even assistance. In the long run they will be great.

However I will be ruthless with those cowardly men who continously blames others for their failures, parasitic attitudes deserves no respect from me - as you're witnessed.

Dave is somewhere in between those 2 lines. He's unique lol.

 

[zekko]

I love women and sex but all it has resulted in is torture for me

If you started thinking about women as people instead of thinking you need some sort of fitness goddess, you'd probably be happier.

 

[17 shots]

My momma knows I'm ratchet

 

[Mike32ct]

I have the opposite situation. My family has never cared if I date or not. It’s just never comes up.

It’s like they KNOW something I don’t lol. It’s the weirdest thing ever.

 

[redskinsfan92]

I think one can go MGTOW for a time, but that should only be temporary.

 

[redskinsfan92]

My family constantly asks me why I'm not married with kids yet

I think that's the only reason i continue to torture myself attempting dating. The rest of my life is pretty much perfect and i would be happy staying out of dating if not for people constantly pressuring me.

I feel horrible disappointing my parents/family members in Armenia so i keep bashing my brains against the wall. I wish i could just live a celibate monk lifestyle and not be judged for it. Why are people judged as being a huge failure if they don't get married and have kids? my family is especially horrible with it. They ask me constantly - the ones overseas are especially bad.

Nope! Don't care what anyone else thinks about my life choices. It's my life and it is up to me. I look to improve myself daily.

 

[The Diver]

I'm beginning to come around to those guys who think you are in the closet, but in denial.

Haha it reminds me the movie American Beauty, where the badass Ex marines soldier turns out to be a gay.