Any way I can salvage this mess?

[justanotherguy]

So yesterday, my friend gave me his old (new) couch and my roommate agreed to be home that night to help me move the old one out to the curb. That said, she usually comes home at like 10-11pm. So when I came back from work (around 7), my upstairs neighbor, who's cute and who I flirt with and hang out with on once in a while, came knocking on my door dressed up, with a dinner that she just cooked and a bottle of wine and asked me if I wanted to have dinner with her in my backyard, which is directly connected to my bedroom. So, given that it's a free dinner and a cute girl that just came to my door, of course I said yes.

Now I haven't hooked up with her because my roommate is my close friend and she hates her by association (that girl happens to be roommates with the menace of the building). Since I value my roommate's friendship over hooking up with that girl, I've been pursuing other people. However, ironically that day my roommate told me (I now know that she wasn't serious) that she wants me to hook up with her because it'd be funny.

Soooooo... we're having dinner having a great time when suddenly (this is like 8:30) my roommate comes into the backyard and says, "you were home all this time?? I was waiting to move the couch." I said, "wanna move it now?" and she walks off in a huff and said something while glaring at my date and saying "f*ck that" to her. Needless to say, it completely killed the mood, and after about 20 minutes we decided that we should just call it a night. As soon as the girl who made me dinner walked out the door, my roommate started going off on me about how she doesn't want her in our house and blah blah blah... she was at a talking tone, and I just kinda went with it because I didn't know if that girl would be listening in the hallway.

The next day, today, I was chilling in the apartment and my roommate comes home. We initially ignore the fiasco from the night before and randomly she starts barks an order at me to cleanup my mess, to which I tell her to stop that attitude garbage now... which led to us getting in a yelling argument, mainly me telling her not think she can bark orders at me just because I let her get away with that crap from yesterday and her being on the defensive.

Needless to say, during that argument I said something like "goddamnit, I don't even really like her, I was doing that to go along with it because it was a free meal at my door, and that it'd be funny anyways if I hooked up with her because of what we talked about earlier, then you pull that garbage. And you'd better not start spreading some gossip sh*t, let alone think you're going to get away from this without apologizing."

After the yelling match, I head to the front door to take a walk and cool off, but when I open the door, lo and behold, that girl was right in the foyer, sees me and walks off pissed and hurt, giving me the cold shoulder.

So now, my good friend is pissed at me and the upstairs neighbor probably won't talk to me anymore. Is there any way to play my cards to salvage what's left from this mess quickly? I'm pretty sure my roommate and I will become cool again after some time, but not by this Saturday and we're throwing a barbecue then, and God, I don't want it to be awkward bad. That and I don't want to have all chances killed with my neighbor let alone be on BAD terms with her.

 

[hover411]

your roomy is a real piece of work. why should she care if you hooked up with someone else?

totally retarded.

 

[justanotherguy]

The thing is, this is the first time she did this. We usually cheer each other on about these things. This instance was retarded though, but hey, she's still my homie. I'm just trying to get out of this thing without enemies.

 

[backbreaker]

okay, you want to savlage the relationship with the girl you dont' want to pursue, whowas made mad by the girl you live with who is also your good frend who you also aren't fvcking.

dude you just need to pull your **** out and say "look..someone is svcking this motherfvcker..i don'te ven care who at this point. this is too much ass surounding me constantly"


you have to be honest wtih yourself. I think you might like your roomie. and if yu do hey that' scool.. but admit it or admit you don't. and take action either way

either can be salvaged but you have to determine what you want savalaged first.


but business as usual is a no go. either you re gong to screw your room mate, or you are going to screw the girl up stairs and the girl who is there is going to get pissy and someone isg oing to have to move.

 

[justanotherguy]

okay, you want to savlage the relationship with the girl you dont' want to pursue, whowas made mad by the girl you live with who is also your good frend who you also aren't fvcking.

dude you just need to pull your **** out and say "look..someone is svcking this motherfvcker..i don'te ven care who at this point. this is too much ass surounding me constantly"


you have to be honest wtih yourself. I think you might like your roomie. and if yu do hey that' scool.. but admit it or admit you don't. and take action either way

either can be salvaged but you have to determine what you want savalaged first.


but business as usual is a no go. either you re gong to screw your room mate, or you are going to screw the girl up stairs and the girl who is there is going to get pissy and someone isg oing to have to move.

Now, normally I would say that that's good advice if I had feelings like that for my roommate, but I'm don't. Honestly, if I was into my roommate, I would have said that at the start of this thread. I have no sexual feelings for her -- I just love her like she's my sister, which is why I value the friendship over any other girl I might bang.

That said, my roommate and I are now cool. The other night she thought I invited her to come to our place, not the other way around, so today, after our yelling bout, she realized that she was in the wrong and apologized so we made up. Which is great because now the barbecues going to go over smoothly.

However, you did make a good point, I'm going to have to choose one of them. Though I friended the upstairs neighbor on Facebook (don't remind me how fruity that is, it was the best idea I could come up with to smooth things over) and I'm pretty sure we're on good terms now, I choose my roommate over her and I'm not going to take it any further... unless she came up to my door wearing a thong and said, "F*ck me now with no strings attached!" and that probably won't happen. I had to take your advice and choose because even though it's cool now, this will happen again even worse if I continue to play with matches.

All's well that ends well. Lesson learned -- don't hook up with neighbors because it's so much easier for them to eavesdrop on you.

 

[justanotherguy]

What an effeminate b itch you are. God, how embarrassing. Look in your roomates purse and see if you can find where you lost your balls at. Either that or just turn gay.

Reminds me of a buddy of mine about 5 years ago who we had to stop at his apartment to get his jacket. He got out of my car and this big fat cow roomate of his stormed out the front door to meet him in the parking lot and right there in front of me wagged her finger as she belittled him for something. She then commanded him inside and he hung his head in shame and ran inside. LOL. F uck me.

I accomplished the goal that I wanted to achieve in the original post. If that makes me an effeminate b*tch, then so be it. This is where I live and the post wasn't directed towards getting any of these chicks to do me, it was to clean up the sh*t that landed in the place where I eat. Getting laid was never the issue here -- it's not like I'm starving and that saltine cracker was something I was drooling over.