Any W-Eurpean people around here ?

[Charisma]

Hey, this is adressed to the western-european people. For the simple reason that it's a regional 'issue' (at least that's the impression I get from reading all the posts from the US people on this board, tapping 10 asses at the same time)

I would like to hear input from men and women..

In my country it seems 'not-done' to be dating multiple girls at the same time. As soon as you ask a chiq out on a date, the girl you asked out that says yes is bound to become your girlfriend. This is a serious burden. Let me try to explain this.

You ask out a girl, you go on a date. the girl expects that you are all hers, so that she doesn't have to share you with anyone. If you kiss the chiq on the first date for example, and you then date another girl afterwards. If the first girl finds out, protect your nust cause she might just cut em off in a rage If I tell them at the start that I'm dating more then just her, I get a nice LJBF.

This kinda sucks. Untill recently I dated three girls at the same time for one month(so that's about 2 dates per girl), no sex involved with any of them. One found out, told the others, so I had to start all over again. I told the next girl I went on a date with that I don't want a steady girlfriend, she was ok with that, everything went ok, but as soon as she got the idea that I meant I wanted to date other people, I got all LJBF'ed.

Wtf do you guys do about that ? To tell you the truth I'm kinda like them I think, if I was dating a chiq that was dating other dudes at the same time I wouldn't really be interested in anything.

But how could I explain this in a nice non-mood breaking way ? I hope somebody has experience in this, cause as fun as it starts, it ends in an absolute **** storm.

 

[DonCruez]

Western Europe, check. BTW, where are u from?

problem with dating multiple girls: nope.

Only thing is: never use the word "date" or the equivalent in your language . Use "get together" or something like that.

BTW, never tell the girls you're dating others UNLESS she specifically asks it.

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

I'm from northern europe though.... Scandinavia....

I know a girl from Spain, she had no issues with multipledating, she had sex and dated with like 15 boys there last year...

In scandinavia it's not an issue either really.... Sex/dating doesn't tie you up except if you talk about it or it starts getting serious...

 

[madgame]

I think it depends on the girl and not too much on the country. Im from germany and here we got girls who want a b/f and others who wanna have fun. Its simple as that. What country are u from anyways?

 

[Charisma]

Originally posted by DonCruez
Western Europe, check. BTW, where are u from?

problem with dating multiple girls: nope.

Only thing is: never use the word "date" or the equivalent in your language . Use "get together" or something like that.

BTW, never tell the girls you're dating others UNLESS she specifically asks it.

Wooh bro that's funky, same country as you dude. Thought I was the only one

Seriously dude, have they ever found out about you 'getting togheter' with more then one chiq ? If you happen to be dutch, how would you call it ? I'm always saying stuff like 'uitgaan' and that generla stuff, I mean if a stranger asks a chiq to go out they get the message

And IF she asks what do you say and how do you make them accept it ?

 

[Janez]

Its very common in slovenia to date multiple girls. They date multiple guys. You just don't talk about it on date. That's it.

 

[Austin Allegro]

I don't know if I would class the UK as western Europe (I'm assuming you mean the continent) but it is much the same here.

You have to be careful how you phrase it and show that you are not exclusively with another woman.

I've never known a woman yet to be put off by the idea that I might be seeing other women, but until you are exclusive with a woman, I would:

a. Not mention anything about other women unless asked. After all, you want her to feel special.

b. If asked directly just be vague - that you have other female friends that you see, and they are not serious - you don't know where things are going with them etc. I have done this and I am pretty sure it INCREASED the IL rather than decreased it.

Remember: women are odd. If you are single they will think nobody wants you - a woman would rather 'share the King than own the Knave'.

 

[The_King]

I think it all depends on the girl. The party girl, yeah, she does not mind that I "date" more than one girl, however, the so-called nice girls do. The nice-girls probably have insecurity therefore are worried that they will be replaced. Where as, the party girls understand, and are usually in demand anyway. I find its only after, I have dated them for awhile that they can get annoyed with multiple dating, as they are obvioulsy enjoying your company and then feel the need to be exclusive else risk losing a good thing.

I myself, carry on the multiple dating and when they try and land the moral stuff on me, I just tell them

"There are plenty of crazy women in this world and I am just trying to find a good one"

Its honest, plus you can make "fun" of it later, if she does something stupid by remarking that she is one of those "crazy ones".

The main draw-back is when they start going on about how many STD's etc, that you may have, they have a right to be worried about it, as I would be.

BTW, I am from the UK

 

[Charisma]

That's a good way of explaining it to them.

Thanks for the input people.