Brighty said:What are your guys' experiences with jelqing or using kegals? Any preference? Also, where are some good reliable guides for doing either?
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Brighty said:What are your guys' experiences with jelqing or using kegals? Any preference? Also, where are some good reliable guides for doing either?
Following_of_Me said:Just do it more often. At first, several minutes is a long time. In time, several minutes is a quickie. It's just the natural progression of things, and I wouldn't worry about it too much.
Yeah I get what you're saying, it's very discouraging. I actually found early on it was difficult for me to *** when getting head. But turns out, I really just don't like head. It feels great, but it causes me to like the girl a lot less. And with that particular girl, I'd have trouble getting off during sex, which I relate to the fact that I really wasn't very into her. She was attractive, but I had no feelings for her, and I feel like it made a difference.Brighty said:Yeah its just so discouraging though. We fvcked twice last night and I think I'm lasting shorter or something. I think I'm really psyching myself out or something. In addition, I noticed that I can't seem to *** when I'm on my back and she's sucking me off and when I'm in the "sitting down position" and she's sucking me off I *** a lot quicker. Maybe is this psychological? I don't know.
Is there a threshold or something so I might be able to tell if I actually have a problem or not? We just fvcked not even 20 minutes ago and again I didn't last very long at all, and that was probably the 7th or 8th time we've fvcked. Should I try using a condom? She's on birth control so I usually don't wear a hat and it feels so great, how much longer can you last using a condom?
Well, I ended up following the kegals guide that was posted a few posts up and did one session of kegals exercises and we ended up fvcking again a few hours ago and I ended up lasting like 10-15 minutes or so. Maybe it was because we changed positions (instead of missionary on the bed, she was laying on the bed and I was standing and fvcking her while holding up her legs), maybe it was because I already blew my load earlier that day when we fvcked, and maybe it was the kegals. But either way, that definately helped out my confidence and proved to myself that I could pleasure a woman. Hell, she kept on saying how good it was after we fvcked and she was all giggly and mushy around me afterward.Following_of_Me said:Yeah I get what you're saying, it's very discouraging. I actually found early on it was difficult for me to *** when getting head. But turns out, I really just don't like head. It feels great, but it causes me to like the girl a lot less. And with that particular girl, I'd have trouble getting off during sex, which I relate to the fact that I really wasn't very into her. She was attractive, but I had no feelings for her, and I feel like it made a difference.
And yeah, a condom reduces sensitivity, and may help you out. And it's always a good thing to wear anyway, birth control or otherwise, it's better to be safe.
Lastly, I wouldn't recommend masturbating before sex. The only reason I say this is because with your situation, I feel like if you do that, yes it will make it more difficult to ***, but it may be difficult to hold an erection where you are already stressing out about things. I'd recommend instead, just try to not stress so much about it. Relax, every guy has trouble early on, nobody is born a sex god.
I believe you actually have to clinch during sex to stop the ejaculation.TizZle said:anyone know how kegels are suppose to help? is it because you can clinch harder or something that is passive(i.e. not having to clinch the muscle to stop orgasm)?
I think anti-depressants are supposed to weaken sex drives. That's reason enough not to use it unless you actually suffer from depression. TI think taking viagra and highly caffeinated drugs is a bad idea. That doesn't seem like a long term solution worth trying.I heard that prozac also helps for lasting longer, I could easily get some, would this be a good idea? I also heard viagra and red bull make you a sex machine for like 48 hours. Anyone have any more info like this?
Yep.. not recommending you take drugs that are not prescribed, buy Tramidol, Ultram, any minor pain bills that deadened nerves works. You can also get numbing cream at your local sex store, never used it myself, but I've heard this works too.vicodin