As you guys know, I've been out of the game a bit so rusty skills need some help from you wise lot haha. By no means do I lack confidence. I'm doing alright for the party night out hook ups; it's just everything else I am not sure with. I just do not know how to go abouts this situation. Were it a new HB with high interested, I'd be all good to go.
Previous history;
So this HB use to occasionally message me, hung out at university a few times, but I never thought much of it. I would never double text so conversations either died or she'd double text. We'd bump into each other previously and her friends always had a knack of disappearing when she and I got to talking etc. If I recall, she had mention an ex, becoming single a while back then too but I took that as a red flag, rebound and didn't pursue or care.
Fast forward a few months, of current;
At a party one night, we got cosy and had I not gone and chased some other HB that caught my eye, I would have probably gone home with her. Needless to say she messaged where I'd gone that night then I got her number. And from then it was a good couple weeks of her double texting me, using other social media platforms to keep in touch when I stopped replying and basically blowing up my phone. I still maintained my composure. While I sometimes take a few hours to reply, when I do, she'll promptly reply. Word got out to friends and from the outside they all think she is really interested in me. They rate her as a HB9 but it does not phase me so I think that is why she's so intrigued; I need more than a pretty face to get my IL up. She started taking an active interest in my hobbies; joined the gym 'spontaneously' the day after we were chatting about my lifting, making peace with one of my friends she did not like etc.
Then came the conundrum. As I've learnt from you lot; strike while the irons hot. She asked me out to the beach one day but I turned her down as I had plans with friends already. Counter offered with us going out friday night but she never replied as we were IM'ing and I sent that message as she replied back trying to convince me to go to the beach. Thinking she was inviting me to join her with her friends, turns out she didn't go as it was just going to be a her and I thing.
Come friday morning and as usual I receive the morning text from her. Finishing late she messaged to find me and we met up but we ended up hanging out with her friends for the night. She'd ask me what I was doing for the night and I suggested we do something but she simply smiled and not really reply and we continue'd on with the night (the university was having a carnival fair on). She then asked if my weekend was free but having been turned down prior, I didn't ask her out again. So we spent the night chilling, sitting down, chatting with her friends as she sat next to me like a girlfriend; staring at my lips so evidently whenever we were chatting between us. She'd only mention her ex once (red flag?) in light of the conversation regarding uni work before topics changed and never again.
I'll be honest I was bummed as I thought we had planned to go out that night but had settled for hanging out at a fair. Got home to a random message from her that I did not reply to and again a message this morning. I don't plan on being an orbiter. If she is not interested, then I will walk. Upon thinking over I don't think I asked her out properly or clearly as I've never been the one to be asked out and then counter offer. On the alternative, I was teasing her to show me around her town a few days ago (she lives a bit away from me) but she changed the topic then and continued the conversation (so another red flag?).
What do you guys think? Honestly I know for a dude to over think this much especially when you have not even had your first date is a waste of valuable time but this is a new experience for me so insight into how I should go abouts things currently and in the future would be much appreciated!
Thanks guys.
Previous history;
So this HB use to occasionally message me, hung out at university a few times, but I never thought much of it. I would never double text so conversations either died or she'd double text. We'd bump into each other previously and her friends always had a knack of disappearing when she and I got to talking etc. If I recall, she had mention an ex, becoming single a while back then too but I took that as a red flag, rebound and didn't pursue or care.
Fast forward a few months, of current;
At a party one night, we got cosy and had I not gone and chased some other HB that caught my eye, I would have probably gone home with her. Needless to say she messaged where I'd gone that night then I got her number. And from then it was a good couple weeks of her double texting me, using other social media platforms to keep in touch when I stopped replying and basically blowing up my phone. I still maintained my composure. While I sometimes take a few hours to reply, when I do, she'll promptly reply. Word got out to friends and from the outside they all think she is really interested in me. They rate her as a HB9 but it does not phase me so I think that is why she's so intrigued; I need more than a pretty face to get my IL up. She started taking an active interest in my hobbies; joined the gym 'spontaneously' the day after we were chatting about my lifting, making peace with one of my friends she did not like etc.
Then came the conundrum. As I've learnt from you lot; strike while the irons hot. She asked me out to the beach one day but I turned her down as I had plans with friends already. Counter offered with us going out friday night but she never replied as we were IM'ing and I sent that message as she replied back trying to convince me to go to the beach. Thinking she was inviting me to join her with her friends, turns out she didn't go as it was just going to be a her and I thing.
Come friday morning and as usual I receive the morning text from her. Finishing late she messaged to find me and we met up but we ended up hanging out with her friends for the night. She'd ask me what I was doing for the night and I suggested we do something but she simply smiled and not really reply and we continue'd on with the night (the university was having a carnival fair on). She then asked if my weekend was free but having been turned down prior, I didn't ask her out again. So we spent the night chilling, sitting down, chatting with her friends as she sat next to me like a girlfriend; staring at my lips so evidently whenever we were chatting between us. She'd only mention her ex once (red flag?) in light of the conversation regarding uni work before topics changed and never again.
I'll be honest I was bummed as I thought we had planned to go out that night but had settled for hanging out at a fair. Got home to a random message from her that I did not reply to and again a message this morning. I don't plan on being an orbiter. If she is not interested, then I will walk. Upon thinking over I don't think I asked her out properly or clearly as I've never been the one to be asked out and then counter offer. On the alternative, I was teasing her to show me around her town a few days ago (she lives a bit away from me) but she changed the topic then and continued the conversation (so another red flag?).
What do you guys think? Honestly I know for a dude to over think this much especially when you have not even had your first date is a waste of valuable time but this is a new experience for me so insight into how I should go abouts things currently and in the future would be much appreciated!
Thanks guys.
