Any recovery from this? Whats my next move?

[Leaf]

I've been volunteering at a local charity this year. As it was quite a female oriented environment, I maintained the utmost respect and boundaries. The woman were all over me. Thing is my time here has come to a close now that I have moved on professionally.

So it is the end of the season for the charity and the staff hold a informal casual event. One of the girls I had an interest in but never made a move comes up to me, takes my phone and puts her number in it. She then proceeds to throw herself at me all night. I had to duck to another event that night so left her to her disappointment. We began messaging and she wanted me to come back out later/ take her home. I was sceptical when she called late night and missed it. She became quite emotional about me leaving her stranded high and dry.

So I asked her out but I have been flaked now. Twice. First time she told me she seriously was interested but was busy. Second time she said a family event came up. So I left the ball in her court and she changed the conversation. Some light hearted flirting and I stopped replying.

So she's just messaged me that I've left her high and dry again not replying. So SS, what is my next move? I'm now older and wise enough to recognise that actions speak louder than words. I will be seeing her most likely in a couple weeks time due to another function. NC until then? What would you have done in my situation?

 

[Infern0]

So she wanted a lift from you, got mad because you couldn't do this unearned favour, then flaked on you twice and is now getting mad because you aren't being her text buddy?

Is there any recovery from what?

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Cheerfully remind her that you've asked her out twice and she's been busy; and, if she wants to meet then she should let you know when she's free. She's just playing you around because you're not all over her like every other chump would be.

 

[dude99]

I've been volunteering at a local charity this year. As it was quite a female oriented environment, I maintained the utmost respect and boundaries. The woman were all over me. Thing is my time here has come to a close now that I have moved on professionally.

So it is the end of the season for the charity and the staff hold a informal casual event. One of the girls I had an interest in but never made a move comes up to me, takes my phone and puts her number in it. She then proceeds to throw herself at me all night. I had to duck to another event that night so left her to her disappointment. We began messaging and she wanted me to come back out later/ take her home. I was sceptical when she called late night and missed it. She became quite emotional about me leaving her stranded high and dry.

So I asked her out but I have been flaked now. Twice. First time she told me she seriously was interested but was busy. Second time she said a family event came up. So I left the ball in her court and she changed the conversation. Some light hearted flirting and I stopped replying.

So she's just messaged me that I've left her high and dry again not replying. So SS, what is my next move? I'm now older and wise enough to recognise that actions speak louder than words. I will be seeing her most likely in a couple weeks time due to another function. NC until then? What would you have done in my situation?

Flaked twice . She blew it. This is a no brainer. Next.

Stop rewarding flaky women with your attention

 

[Poon King]

MEN: Anytime a relationship is NOT on your terms and you are not making the rules.. the woman has low interest.

Simple as that. Stop wasting your time on women that show little interest and little respect. Wish-washy behavior means manipulation. Until you're pounding a woman into your mattress nothing they do or say should be taken too seriously. Remember.. YOUR TERMS or nothing. Follow that rule and no woman will ever frustrate you. Plus, you will get a lot more respect from women in general since 99% of men are pandering, ass kissing faggots.

 

[RangerMIke]

She likes you but this women is too much work. Move on.

Word of advice never worry about ticking off women... it is better that she is mad at you than if she doesn't care and is 'nice' to you.

 

[BetterCallSaul]

Poon King is right, but one thing I want to know is why didn't you strike when the time was right? You said she was all over you the night you were leaving...hell you even said she (and others) have been flirting with you during your tenure there. Why not discretely engage them slowly over the course of weeks or months and enjoy the interaction? During this last night party bash you had, you should have taken her out back and banged her near the trash cans because based on what you describe that's what she wanted. You can't always easily recreate that environment or atmosphere by going out on a first date after something like that happened.

 

[BetterCallSaul]

... pandering, ass kissing faggots.

I am now shamelessly stealing this one for use in future conversations I have. In exchange I'll give you my current favorite: limp-wristed metrosexuals.

 

[guru1000]

Remember.. YOUR TERMS or nothing.

It is that simple. Most betas operate from a scarcity mindset, and so NEXTing a girl, and thus eliminating all options, is like telling an AFC to jump off a building without a parachute. The AFC is just not going to do it. Hence, the scarcity dilemma.

Solution: Invite abundance into your life--even if by temporarily injecting girls 1-2 pts lower into your harem--is KEY to eliminating scarcity and shamelessly pulling the NEXT trigger upon ANY minor transgression.

Last night, I was out on a first date in an outdoor cafe. She looked at my watch after looking at hers, and then asked me what kind of car I drove. Although a seemly innocuous question, I didn't like the materialistic tone in which it was asked, especially given the three "money hungry" questions prior to. So I got up, said nothing, and left her there. Then she sent me a shvtload of texts calling me an azzhole, dvck, yada, yada. I had to block her. LOL!