Any recovering "romantics" here?

[GuitarPlayer]

Other than myself, I mean? And don't tell me that every AFC is a romantic. Sure, they may have romanticized ideals of what a man/woman relationship should be, but that doesn't make them romantics. I've been one since as far back as I can remember, even in the 1st grade or beyond. For the longest time (many years), I would develop "feelings" for whatever girl was nice enough to be sweet to me and I would instantly fall in love with her and fantasize about her. Naturally, this chased them away in droves. I allowed my heart to get broken and my feelings to get hurt more times than I can count in a day. I would get wistful when I heard a certain song, saw a certain picture, etc... I treated women like goddesses that were waaayyy above me and that I could never deserve.

For some unexplained reason, I started to read pickup/get laid/alpha male literature earlier this year. Talk about an eye-opener. From David DeAngelo to Carlos Xuma to Ross Jeffries, I read them all. What was amazing is that this literature explained so much that I had struggled for years to understand.

Me in my Twenties: "Why doesn't she like me? I've shown her how good I could be for her. Why does she go for that ill-mannered pr*ck instead?"

Anyway, you get the idea. And don't get me wrong; I'm still a "nice guy," per se, but the wimp and the pushover has been given a decent burial once and for all.

Anyone else a recovering romantic?

 

[Docs]

Aye Mate!! I Arrrr one to!

 

[MightyMate]

No.

 

[englishman]

I must admit, Ive had my moments to!

 

[Keeper]

I used to be like this in Primary and early high school.

 

[guided_missile]

yes. subconsciously i knew i was wrong (everybody knows girls sleep with jerks), but i just didn't believe it was real till i found "pick up literature". finally, someone wrote it all down in a way that made sense. i used to think girls would grow out of the "bad boy" phase, and then i'd be all set. glad i stopped waiting for that to happen while i'm still 22!

a few things should have tipped me off. for example, i have a feminist female roommate, who is very argumentative. one night when drunk she commented on how she'd silence her political opinions for a boyfriend/husband "if she really loved him". this sorta blew me away; NOT the kinda thing i expected to hear from her. at first it depressed me. i always thought she'd want to end up with a fellow "feminist" male, a nice guy like myself. but now i that i have a better understanding of women i see the reason she's so argumentative to begin with. she subconsiously WANTS guys to stand up to her anti-male opinions and to not let her have the last word. it's all one big **** test. i'd never put up with her crap in a relationship (though i give her tons of **** as a roommate), but to see the reasoning behind it was enlightening.

the trick is to realize that chicks run on emotion 1st, logic 2nd. jerks stimulate emotion, nice guys logic. so they lose.

 

[White_Rabbit]

I duno I guess I'm a hopeless romantic... I just work it into my game... I dont go around being a complete pushover I'm romantic... and a prick teehee. I mean I'll make a connection... sure get them wet but 2 days later when I call I dont start spouting how much I love them or something lol... I'm like hey... come over.... I think alot of romantics have the problem of overdoing it... I give them the feeling of intamacy and then take it away.... seems to work out pretty good. Hope this helps a little and if you feel yourself letting your emotions run your life you should seriously take up meditation or self hypnosis and try to work on your self control a little.

 

[\O/]

As long as you stay away from the wussy AFC-behaviour and show that you are the man and all that you're good. I'm also a romantic and I think that's a great thing to be. Doing romantic stuff and recognizing the little things will get the girls head over heels. Just don't be needy and don't do it to get her approval. Do it because you want to connect and bond with her on a deep deep level. In order for me to fall in love with a girl I have to know who she really is, and I need to see her from a voulnerable side.. I need to connect with her on a deep level, or I cannot fall in love.. Having a romantic moment with a woman you love is one of the best moments in this world..It's priceless. Has been a while....

 

[Egoist]

nothing wrong with romance if you are not an AFC and have other things in your life.

 

[Dante1a]

I'm personally wondering if there isn't too much emphasis put on "not being a romantic" here and in other sites.

Romantiscism is great if way overdone. haha...If it permeates all areas of life, not just love.

Look at a film like Legends Of The Fall...Brad Pitts character was still a romantic...just not a pu****. In fact, women really respond to this type of guy. At least I think so.

 

[MetalFortress]

I'm a romantic, and I do not see it as a problem to "recover" from. The whole key is simply not to be a pvssy about it. Being a pvssy, ironically, entirely kills the romance for HER. Be a MAN and be romantic.

 

[GuitarPlayer]

You guys have written some great insights here.

Thanks.

 

[guided_missile]

i think guitar player is more refering to a "hopeless romantic" rather than a "romantic". the former is more synonymous with a "nice guy".

romance gets women hot so it can't be all bad. you just have to be wise about using it. it's very easy to fall into the "nice guy" trap.

 

[GuitarPlayer]

Originally posted by guided_missile
i think guitar player is more refering to a "hopeless romantic" rather than a "romantic". the former is more synonymous with a "nice guy".

romance gets women hot so it can't be all bad. you just have to be wise about using it. it's very easy to fall into the "nice guy" trap.

Yeah, something like that. I guess it's a mixture of having romantic notions, yet wondering why women refuse to respond to them. It's a double whammy, I suppose. The old "unrequited love" thing.