Any other DJs out there get an epiphany after banging a hottie?

[Insouciant]

I know these days we preach about inner game, and try to avoid chalking anything to external validation as much as possible.

But... has anyone here's reference point about themselves shifted after banging & dating a complete smokeshow?

Even after everything has run its cycle between you and the girl, and you two no longer maintain contact.

I feel like that's happening for me, and I'm not entirely sure if this is just vapor, or if I really do see myself in a new light. It's as if because of this one bang (hottie from work), I suddenly realize that I pull more weight in the dating market. I feel a hell of a lot more confident about myself -- and it's showing in my interactions with all the other females I interact with.

What gives, gents? Anyone have a similar experience to share. I thought it was more of a long term process through different reference points from reality, and not from one data point.

 

[In2theGame]

"I feel like that's happening for me, and I'm not entirely sure if this is just vapor, or if I really do see myself in a new light. It's as if because of this one bang (hottie from work), I suddenly realize that I pull more weight in the dating market. I feel a hell of a lot more confident about myself -- and it's showing in my interactions with all the other females I interact with."

This is how true confidence is raised. Many threads/posts that talk about "hey just be confident" is total hogwash IMO. When you bang a hot girl, you feel better about yourself because many guys dont get to experience that, unfortunately. Why do good looking guys "naturally" get many girls? because they know they can land the HB 8,9,10. It's an aura you begin to vibe out to other girls that, "I can land a HB so i can probably land you in bed too".

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Insoucient,
Yes but it is a good feeling...Both Men and Women get an ego buzz that lasts about six weeks,when they have an extraordinarily good catch...It can happen at any stage of your Dating career...Even to Septuagenarians LOL...I had a lovely 39 year Old Asian Girl,a couple of months ago......The problem is that after a couple of meals of Steak and Eggs,it's hard to go back to Bread and Cheese!.....Maybe ignorance is Bliss?

 

[zekko]

I think that's called an orgasm.

 

[Insouciant]

Haha. Thanks for responding back to the thread guys.

Question for you all: is there a permanence to this? Barring any traumatic experiences which results in my backsliding in all aspects of my life, will this be considered my new plateau in the long run?

I don't have an absurd lay count (the tally is 10 so far). So I'm relatively inexperienced compared to a lot of the vets out there.

Just an interesting space to be in. I dig it.

 

[Knight's Cross]

What I noticed in the aftermath of a new conquest is:
a) I'm more in zone, I act differently
b) Women pick up on this, and respond by attempting to get my attention
c) I play with them, which spins their hamster
d) If I'm not spinning plates and getting any it's like a dry pump. You have to prime it to get it going. The energy it takes me to re-ignite the pilot light is far greater than to keep it going.

The times that I've waived off women for awhile have always cost me significant spin up time to restart the process. Once in the groove it's easier to maintain. It almost runs itself. I'm not bragging, but I noticed when my plate count gets too high it is as if more begets more attention. That's a good thing if you are trading up from a 6 to a 7 to a 8 to a 9...

KC

 

[RangerMIke]

Haha. Thanks for responding back to the thread guys.

Question for you all: is there a permanence to this? Barring any traumatic experiences which results in my backsliding in all aspects of my life, will this be considered my new plateau in the long run?

I don't have an absurd lay count (the tally is 10 so far). So I'm relatively inexperienced compared to a lot of the vets out there.

Just an interesting space to be in. I dig it.

The more you date and hook-up with women the better you get. This gives you REAL confidence, that never goes away. It's like getting back on a bike. After my marrage tubed, I jumped right back in, it was like I was never away from the game.

You really can't fake confidence, because women know... they always know. You can teach men how to act confident, and you can even teach men how to respond to tests of confidence, but the only way to actually get the confidence you need to succeed with any available woman you want is experience. Practice makes perfect.

I think all of us have that "Oh well!!, now I get it moment!", for me it was in college with a drop dead hottie that I still freaking think about. Big moment for you congrats!

 

[Kailex]

Your bar raises because all of a sudden, you believe you can bag that "higher level" woman. Imagine you sitting there hitting nothing but 7's, but just one time, an 8 takes you into her bed. You no longer see the 8's as unattainable. Your confidence level rises. You get better, more confidence. So on and so forth.

It's like with anything else, sometimes all it takes is just one time to get it, even if it's a fluke, what matters is what YOU believe you are capable of doing.