Gentlemen,
It's been a long time since I've been on this forum. Thought that I would check in and see how everyone has been.
Back when I was here in the past, I was dealing with many of the same issues that everyone is. I had financial issues, relational issues, and beyond. I worked diligently on working through them and have seen some pretty big results.
If it helps, I would like to share some of them with you. This is in order to help give hope to some who feel a bit hopeless especially about relationships.
NOTE: Everything I'm about to write about is 100% truth, even though it includes my perspective of events. There is no bull**** here.
Since I was last here, this is what has happened:
Some selected moments since March of 2014
-- Having a two month period with at least one threesome each weekend (always with two girls, thank you very much).
-- Multiple occasions with four women and myself.
-- Having girls bring other girls in for a threesome (or group), only to have the new girl start recruiting others to join in with us at another time.
-- Dating a highly desirable dancer/performer and having her introduce me to her other incredible dancer friends, telling them that they should date me, too. They all did...and then introduced me to their friends.
-- Seducing and ****ing a hot massage therapist on the massage table during the first appointment.
-- Having two 21 year old girls bring wine and food to my house to convince me to let them suck my **** together. (I had to feign a bit of a fight with this one.)
-- A sweet one: I got three New Year's kisses from three of my girls who were with me when the clock chimed. Guess what we did next?
The Setup
2013, I developed a pretty big crush on a girl that I work with. It turned out that she was quite socially awkward, so I got very much into my head about her feelings towards me, spending hours on forums "studying", asking advice..basically all the **** we normally do on sites like this.
Finally, one evening (I work nights, and she worked into the evening) - I just said "Well, **** it. I'll just let it go. This is going nowhere." (Saying "**** it" is a common theme in this story, so pay attention to it.)
About a half hour after that decision, she caught up to me and asked to hang out after her shift. Long story short, we ended up being romantically involved and dating for awhile.
It ended awkwardly and with a 3 minute conversation. Nothing was wrong, it just ended. Abruptly. This happened in November of 2013 and then we didn't speak until a few months ago.
After that "breakup", if you could call it that, I was very depressed. For months, my heart ached and my mind was always racing around the situation. Working alone at night, I had nothing but quiet and solitude to let things process. It hurt terribly.
Then, I had another "**** it" moment. Anger triggered this one. I thought "You know, women seem to be wanting me to be something in particular, without any real regard for who I am or what I need. Why can't I just go after them for what I want? **** it. I'm going for it."
With this new attitude of being completely unattached to the outcome and going after what I want, I started finding women really responding. One girl turned into two girls, which eventually turned into eight girls that I was seeing on a regular basis (every other week or so).
At this point, I started giving the speech "I am living in a lifestyle called 'polyamory'. I have open communication and am directly honest with everyone, but I date multiple women. I sleep with multiple women. I just want you to know, so everything is clear from the start," early on in the dating process, many times during our first conversation.
Did it deter women? Not once. Not A SINGLE TIME. In fact, they seemed much more receptive to me.
On top of that, at the behest of one of the girls, I began studying some of the skillset in of a Dominant in the **** lifestyle. (Light (fake) choking, hair pulling, spanking, light flogging, rope bondage, and the like.) It wasn't so much for me, but for the reactions it elicits in my partners. You would not BELIEVE the difference this makes. (I'll write another post on this if there ends up being any interest.)
If you want to be the guy that girls are fantasizing about and wanting to experiment with, look into incorporating both **** elements and an "open" style relationship into your romantic relationships. It's incredible.
If you want to experience what I'm talking about, just be having a conversation with a girl and then drop in something like (with easy confidence, like you are talking about the weather) "I usually catch some flak because of how I view relationships. I live this thing called "polyamory", where I date multiple women at the same time. Everything is open and honest. Communication is HUGE. And then I'm also what is called a "Dominant", so that complicates things even further.."
Watch their response. If you didn't make it awkward with your delivery (or by being nervous), you will many times start seeing them qualify themselves to you as being cool enough to be polyamorous. You will many times have them bring up how they have always wanted to try **** (or that they have already).
At that point, lean back, look them in the eye and say "Well, that makes sense. You have a lot of traits of a submissive. I noticed that since we've started talking.." At this point, be prepared to actually talk about it..but, in case you haven't noticed, you are now discussing her being a submissive and you are a Dominant. You have transitioned from normal conversation into an in depth, interesting, and non-forced conversation about kink and sex.
It's a beautiful transition. The woman, I think, must see me as some sort of exciting and taboo personality at this point.. But she is always interested in talking more. I've actually had girls apologize to me for having a boyfriend (seriously apologize) and then, without me asking them, ask their boyfriend for permission to play with me. (Which I don't do. I don't get involved in the cheating game.)
(Cont'd below)
It's been a long time since I've been on this forum. Thought that I would check in and see how everyone has been.
Back when I was here in the past, I was dealing with many of the same issues that everyone is. I had financial issues, relational issues, and beyond. I worked diligently on working through them and have seen some pretty big results.
If it helps, I would like to share some of them with you. This is in order to help give hope to some who feel a bit hopeless especially about relationships.
NOTE: Everything I'm about to write about is 100% truth, even though it includes my perspective of events. There is no bull**** here.
Since I was last here, this is what has happened:
Some selected moments since March of 2014
-- Having a two month period with at least one threesome each weekend (always with two girls, thank you very much).
-- Multiple occasions with four women and myself.
-- Having girls bring other girls in for a threesome (or group), only to have the new girl start recruiting others to join in with us at another time.
-- Dating a highly desirable dancer/performer and having her introduce me to her other incredible dancer friends, telling them that they should date me, too. They all did...and then introduced me to their friends.
-- Seducing and ****ing a hot massage therapist on the massage table during the first appointment.
-- Having two 21 year old girls bring wine and food to my house to convince me to let them suck my **** together. (I had to feign a bit of a fight with this one.)
-- A sweet one: I got three New Year's kisses from three of my girls who were with me when the clock chimed. Guess what we did next?
The Setup
2013, I developed a pretty big crush on a girl that I work with. It turned out that she was quite socially awkward, so I got very much into my head about her feelings towards me, spending hours on forums "studying", asking advice..basically all the **** we normally do on sites like this.
Finally, one evening (I work nights, and she worked into the evening) - I just said "Well, **** it. I'll just let it go. This is going nowhere." (Saying "**** it" is a common theme in this story, so pay attention to it.)
About a half hour after that decision, she caught up to me and asked to hang out after her shift. Long story short, we ended up being romantically involved and dating for awhile.
It ended awkwardly and with a 3 minute conversation. Nothing was wrong, it just ended. Abruptly. This happened in November of 2013 and then we didn't speak until a few months ago.
After that "breakup", if you could call it that, I was very depressed. For months, my heart ached and my mind was always racing around the situation. Working alone at night, I had nothing but quiet and solitude to let things process. It hurt terribly.
Then, I had another "**** it" moment. Anger triggered this one. I thought "You know, women seem to be wanting me to be something in particular, without any real regard for who I am or what I need. Why can't I just go after them for what I want? **** it. I'm going for it."
With this new attitude of being completely unattached to the outcome and going after what I want, I started finding women really responding. One girl turned into two girls, which eventually turned into eight girls that I was seeing on a regular basis (every other week or so).
At this point, I started giving the speech "I am living in a lifestyle called 'polyamory'. I have open communication and am directly honest with everyone, but I date multiple women. I sleep with multiple women. I just want you to know, so everything is clear from the start," early on in the dating process, many times during our first conversation.
Did it deter women? Not once. Not A SINGLE TIME. In fact, they seemed much more receptive to me.
On top of that, at the behest of one of the girls, I began studying some of the skillset in of a Dominant in the **** lifestyle. (Light (fake) choking, hair pulling, spanking, light flogging, rope bondage, and the like.) It wasn't so much for me, but for the reactions it elicits in my partners. You would not BELIEVE the difference this makes. (I'll write another post on this if there ends up being any interest.)
If you want to be the guy that girls are fantasizing about and wanting to experiment with, look into incorporating both **** elements and an "open" style relationship into your romantic relationships. It's incredible.
If you want to experience what I'm talking about, just be having a conversation with a girl and then drop in something like (with easy confidence, like you are talking about the weather) "I usually catch some flak because of how I view relationships. I live this thing called "polyamory", where I date multiple women at the same time. Everything is open and honest. Communication is HUGE. And then I'm also what is called a "Dominant", so that complicates things even further.."
Watch their response. If you didn't make it awkward with your delivery (or by being nervous), you will many times start seeing them qualify themselves to you as being cool enough to be polyamorous. You will many times have them bring up how they have always wanted to try **** (or that they have already).
At that point, lean back, look them in the eye and say "Well, that makes sense. You have a lot of traits of a submissive. I noticed that since we've started talking.." At this point, be prepared to actually talk about it..but, in case you haven't noticed, you are now discussing her being a submissive and you are a Dominant. You have transitioned from normal conversation into an in depth, interesting, and non-forced conversation about kink and sex.
It's a beautiful transition. The woman, I think, must see me as some sort of exciting and taboo personality at this point.. But she is always interested in talking more. I've actually had girls apologize to me for having a boyfriend (seriously apologize) and then, without me asking them, ask their boyfriend for permission to play with me. (Which I don't do. I don't get involved in the cheating game.)
(Cont'd below)
