Any older men here dating younger women?

[Canadian Catnip]

Hi guys.

I'm 44, a bit overweight, balding and I don't consider myself the most attractive man out there. But I seem to be getting lots of attention from younger women in the 22 to 25 range lately.

Any men out there in my situation? Having young girls always showing a lot of interest, smiling, saying hi and asking your name, wanting to sit at the same table, etc.

I am confused by the whole thing. I think they are just being nice to an older gentleman or something like that. But something inside makes me wonder if I could get with and of these HB's.

Have any of you older guys had any success with the younger girls? Stories please, please give ages as well and how you knew she was into you.

 

[MacAvoy]

Its likely your confidence and the aura in the way you carry yourself.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I do them (mid to upper 20's) but I won't date them; drama and a half...

 

[jophil28]

Hi guys.

Have any of you older guys had any success with the younger girls? Stories please, please give ages as well and how you knew she was into you.

I am almost 52 and I have a 20 year old college girl for a regular dance partner who gets all jealous and a bit clingy, a 32 year old Ukranian hottie who keeps saying "I could take you out ?" and a 47 year old admin assistant who wants to have sex under one of those cameras on a flyover out on the freeway.
Yep - this is my adolescence revisited. I suggest that you quit analysing the details and take the spoils as they present themselves.
It is a friggin' buffet out there.

 

[MotownMack]

Big time, my friend.

Older guys have a distinct advantage when it comes to dating. Being young-in most cases-not having money, not having refined social skills, being immature- is really overrated in the dating world.

At the moment, one of my plates is 24 and another is 19. 24 year old is cute, 19 is not as cute, but who the hell cares right now-I don't, it's just something else to do.

Jophil said is best- it's a buffet. You got all kinds of options that you don't even know about on the table right now.

 

[Juando]

That would be me.

My LTR that ended about a year ago encompassed a big age gap,
and since then all the ladies in my world, almost all, have been in their 20s.

I'm starting to get that if there is an issue, it need not be with me: it's up to me who I'm going after and if I'm ok with it, that's all that matters.

Are there women who are not available for an older man? Yes, but so what-
there's a ton who are ok with it.

I'm in a self-imposed diet with women now, taking a break, lying low, but in the last 36 hours three new women have appeared on my radar screen, all above 30, one probably in her forties, all hot. Sigh.

Despite sounding ****y, this realization that it's up to me about who and what I want is relatively new, and it flies in the face of the bulk and weight of the attitudes and baiases that are out there- you really will be out there on your own save some noticeable exceptions.

On the plus side, it's an incredible opportunity to get in touch with what you want and to reach inside yourself to find the courage and creativity to manifest it.

 

[jophil28]

I'm in a self-imposed diet with women now, taking a break, lying low, but in the last 36 hours three new women have appeared on my radar screen, all above 30, one probably in her forties, all hot. Sigh.

THis is a sad, sad situation for you Juando. You're on an elimination diet and those cookies just keep comimg at ya.
However, help is on its way - I'm coming over to keep those babes warm until you are back on solids.
Where are you ? I can be at your door in 30 hours ! Ha !

The brotherhood is a wonderful thing isn't it ?

 

[synergy1]

I'd like to think my recent successes with women have been because my game has stepped up ( I look 5 years younger than I am), but the age thing seems to be true. Reading threads like are inspiring knowing that between age and game, things only get better

cheers

 

[grinder]

Age is irrelevant. Stop thinking about it.

The same DJ rules apply, they are universal.

Don’t look for IOI’s. Always assume she is into you, assume all is well.

Always escalate, meet resistance, pull back, re-escalate. Repeat.

I will disagree on maturity level of younger women. It seems, either they got it or they don’t regardless of age. If they aint got it they won’t get it. If they got it, they usually got it young.

One of the reasons’s I seldom post now is my main plate is 20 and we have been together over a year now. She is not my only plate so I have little free time to post anymore.

Stop thinking, start doing.

 

[DJCT]

I will disagree on maturity level of younger women. It seems, either they got it or they don’t regardless of age. If they aint got it they won’t get it. If they got it, they usually got it young.

WELL SAID. Agree totally.

 

[KarmaSutra]

Think of younger women as Chinese take out. 30 minutes after you're done eating you want something else.

The MTV mentality of young women (19-26) is that of instant gratification. They want attention and affirmation so badly they'll kick thier own Fathers in thier sac for it.

Appease her with your mental aptitude and experience. If she's sound, keep her around. If not, go eat some new poon tang.

 

[Mr. Me]

I'm 44, a bit overweight, balding and I don't consider myself the most attractive man out there. But I seem to be getting lots of attention from younger women in the 22 to 25 range lately.

Hey, I wanna hear about what you're doing exactly that's making them want to hang with you. Are you like the life of the party, big laughs, eat drink be merry for tomorrow we die "let's do shots!" type of guy? Or do you pull up in your jag and wear a rolex and flash a big bankroll of bills? What? And the girls, are they hot or just it's that they're 22 to 25 and average? Your readers wanna know!

 

[mrRuckus]

Not that i'm an "older guy" but I'm seeing a 24 yo that went out with a 34 and 32 yo before me and she says she didn't think she'd ever date anyone in their 20s again due to immaturity. How i knew? "i like you." "i love being around you" "i love waking up next to you" "am i your girlfriend?".. just a few subtle hints heh...

Yay mr ruckus is mature

Also have a 22 year old friend who is obsessed with a 36 year old guy and has been for years even as he is deployed and redeployed to Iraq and basically treats her second class when he is around. Same friend also goes to the gym and comes back and talks about the "hot old dude" in his 50s that goes there. She doesn't seem to mind older men.

I don't really see the immaturity thing in younger women either. They either are or aren't. I know plenty of older ones that are far worse than some 21-25 year olds i know. But really i only date fairly intelligent women that i can talk nerdy to without them spacing out. A number seem to be able to look past the bullsh1t of society to a degree.

 

[Latinoman]

Its likely your confidence and the aura in the way you carry yourself.

Based on the original post...I can tell you he lacks confidence.

 

[Latinoman]

Hi guys.

I'm 44, a bit overweight, balding and I don't consider myself the most attractive man out there. But I seem to be getting lots of attention from younger women in the 22 to 25 range lately.

Okay...44 is a young age. If you are in the 35-42 age group...you are in your prime group as a man. So, you are not that far from that.

Balding? That is not the same as being bald. Maybe you are losing some hair...but in your eyes it is "balding".

And the "bit overweight" thing could be that you don't have a six pack...or you are maybe 10-15 lbs above your best weight class...and in your eyes, you are "bit overweight".

Sure..."balding" and "bit overweight" might be the correct technical terms...but that does not make you BALD or OBESE.

I think your insecurity is hyperbolizing your negatives.

 

[MacAvoy]

Based on the original post...I can tell you he lacks confidence.

I don't doubt you. However others may not see him that way. Now let me clarify, because I know your going to say its will be obvious if he lacks confidence in his looks and how he thinks women view him and I agree with that.

My point is though, he's likely displaying confidence & an aura in other areas that they are picking up on. Given his age, he's likely got more money, maturity etc... than the average 22-25 yr old, so he comes across more confident than the typical AFC 22-25 yr old, see what I'm getting at?

If you disagree, then how would you explain these 22-25 yr olds throwing themselves at this old man who lacks confidence.

 

[Latinoman]

I don't doubt you. However others may not see him that way. Now let me clarify, because I know your going to say its will be obvious if he lacks confidence in his looks and how he thinks women view him and I agree with that.

My point is though, he's likely displaying confidence & an aura in other areas that they are picking up on. Given his age, he's likely got more money, maturity etc... than the average 22-25 yr old, so he comes across more confident than the typical AFC 22-25 yr old, see what I'm getting at?

If you disagree, then how would you explain these 22-25 yr olds throwing themselves at this old man who lacks confidence.

I actually agree with you. He has something that attracts them.

However, I can guarrantee that once they approach him and LISTEN to him talk...that the original attraction might disapear.

I mean...how many of those women has he laid? None, would be my guess. Why? Because once they talk with him...they sense his insecurity.

 

[lookyoung]

I am dating a girl that is close to 11 years younger than me. I tend to prefer woman who are under the age of 26. Woman get older faster than men so I would prefer to settle down with a woman that is younger. I am 31 and for the most part I am not attracted to the woman my age. Woman tend to start losing there looks in there late twenties. Men are like wine... They get better looking in there 30's than even there 20's.

I also feel that us Men should not put alot of weight on maturity. To me a woman is a woman, whether they are 41 or 21. Both are emotional at times, both will give you drama. So when a girl reaches a certain age say 26 that is more than mature for a man who is even 60.

Woman look for maturity not Men. Us men we should want a girl with femine traits. I think most woman are not that mature to begin with. And if a girl is mature than that will not do anything for me. I am always going to be the leader in the relationship anyway.

The drawback of dating a girl 25 and under is they still want to have fun. That could mean wanting to go to the club with there girlfriends. I would say that would be one of my turnoffs for younger woman. However these 28 year olds know there biological clock is ticking. They have been fvcked over by plenty of men at that time. Have had there heart broken. So in reality they may be mature but not in the right way.

So all around I love younger woman. Looks are big with me and younger woman as far as looks go are always better than older woman. Look at porn stars, actresses, playboy models. Younger woman are the prize in our society whether us men admit it or not.