Fantasy:
Leave the scene. Don't "get back on the scene".
Change your motivations to be more self-derived, and your happiness to be less woman derived. Sounds flowery and obscure, but think about who you are, where you are going, what makes you happy, and remove "who you will be with" from that outlook.
Once you fully and completely "don't care about women", then you will see that it is not the women who should be chased, it is you.
You are tired of the matrix. Unplug bro and embrace a whole new world of freedoms.
De-prioritize "women/dating" to low, low, low on the list. Need an example?
A couple of weekends ago I got a call... Thursday it was. I had taken Friday off and was waiting for my ride Thursday night. I was going hunting and trapping that weekend, alone.
*ring, ring*
V: "Hey!"
HB: "Hey baby, what's up?"
V: "Waiting for my ride, what's going on?"
HB: "I wanted to see if you wanted to get together tonight."
V: "Dang, I'd really enjoy that, but I'm leaving here in a few minutes to go trapping this weekend."
HB: "Fine." *gets pizzy, wants to cut call short*
V: "Don't get pizzy, I'd like to hang out. But, like I said, I'm leaving."
HB: "Whatever. Fine." *still irritated*
V: "Psshf. Don't be like that, silly. I'll talk to you later, I gotta go."
*Byes*
You can't call me and demand or expect my time. Me first. You call late, oops, sorry. It turns out that she was leaving for a trip... I had totally forgotten (read: I didn't care enough to remember). I kept it positive and friendly, but cut her off/declined. What happens when she gets back? She calls me all happy-style and sets up plans. Cool. Did I "handle it right"? ...Don't care. Nothing was in concrete, but a little booty wasn't worth cancelling or changing my plans for.
Hunting and trapping that weekend was going to 1. make me happier than puzzy that night 2. maybe put a few bills in my pocket 3. provide more useful experience 4. potentially afford some free food (more bills in the pocket) 5. The woods and dead animals weren't going to give me shi+ tests, complain, bore me with stories, or plague me with silly questions. 6. I would have just that much more "man magic" for her to swallow when I got back (see also: Testosterone, testosterone level increase, no masturbation).
See what's going on here? It's not that I "hate women". :nono: - love 'em.
Instead, I've began weighing values on a scale. Woman have about as much weight as any other hobby of mine, and a little less than the hobbies that actually have any financial/food benefit.*****
Now, pardon the mysogenistic punchline here, but consider that any time devoted to your hobbies (depending on what they are) is time devoted to YOU and will likely pay off now or later. Then consider that time devoted to a woman, or a pursuit of women, is time devoted to what? What is the payoff? She fux your best friend and leaves? She gives you VD because the was fuxing 3 or 4 other guys? You've got no guarantee of any payoff, so what it boils down to is this:
A bird in hand (you, your hobbies, your goals) is worth more than 5,000 in the bush (women you could screw, or be with).
I get the impression that you are stuggling with motivation. Don't motivate yourself to date or pick up women. Instead, motivate yourself to pursue bettering yourself and your future above all else.
Meanwhile, put this chick on FB status and get your own place.
***** I've been with probably over 200 women (stopped counting, not bragging, just giving reference), and I must say that I really hate the fact that I've burned half of my life so far with women as #1 priority. What do I have to show for it? *knock on wood* No kids, no diseases, no wife. What I've gotten from this site was not "how to pick up chicks", that's never been a big problem. What I've gotten from this site is "how to be a better man". I wasted a lot of time. Yes, wasted. My goals and life mission was previously to bang women, find a wife, party, rah-rah-rah. I neglected MYSELF. And what has happened as a result? My market value (so far as Cosmo and others would tell you) has taken a net loss over time. I don't have any debt (which is good and bad), don't own a home... I don't have anything to show for all this time dedicated to women. THIS is what I want to get stuck in your head: change your attitude and change your priorities to make YOU number one.
