Any of you guys , lied about your age on dating profile?

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I put myself down on my Bumble profile 5 years younger than I actually I am, so that I don't keep matching with these washed up old ladies.

However now i'm beginning to think it's a bum move & it's wrong, but Bumble doesn't allow you to change DOB once the profile has been created.

01. Either I keep the current profile with the incorrect age.

02. Delete the whole damn profile and start all over again.

Not sure what to do.. Obviously if I meet a girl off that app, I would have to tell her my actual age.
 

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The age thing is the reason why I don't do online dating.

If you wanted to get serious with a woman after you lied to her, then you have to explain why you lied. Not a good start to the relationship.

My advice is to delete bumble and meet people in person, which is what I do.
 

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How you usually find your women? Do they find you or do you find them? Because if you change your age up, younger women won't be looking for you anymore. Plus you might not be able to contact younger women because of age restriction, if any. I have no clue how bumble works.
 

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The age thing is the reason why I don't do online dating.

If you wanted to get serious with a woman after you lied to her, then you have to explain why you lied. Not a good start to the relationship.

My advice is to delete bumble and meet people in person, which is what I do.
Yeh I actually agree with this. I'm going to delete the profile and make a new one.

Thanks
 

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I don't use the apps anymore but I remember a few years ago I made a profile and said I was 28 instead of 30 to try and get younger chicks

I met one girl for a date she was like 27 and she literally went nuts when I said I was actually 30

Although it was an over reaction

I wouldn't do it again
 

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I don't use the apps anymore but I remember a few years ago I made a profile and said I was 28 instead of 30 to try and get younger chicks

I met one girl for a date she was like 27 and she literally went nuts when I said I was actually 30

Although it was an over reaction

I wouldn't do it again
Yeh Facts.. I kinda made the profile, once it was completed, it dawned on me, it's not a good move.

These apps don't let you change the DOB once profile is done.

I'm going to delete the entire profile, and very likely just leave apps well alone.

Vast majority of the females on apps, are ran through, unstable or single moms.
 

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I put myself down on my Bumble profile 5 years younger than I actually I am, so that I don't keep matching with these washed up old ladies.

However now i'm beginning to think it's a bum move & it's wrong
This is a common tactic used by older men. When a lot of older men (usually 35+ or 40+) put their real ages on the dating apps, they see that their quality of matches is lower. It's more difficult to get big age gaps from swipe apps. Women have extreme abundance of options online. They are going to select for someone close to their own age in most cases over someone 10+ years older.

Additionally, it's more difficult to stand out as a man 10+ years older to younger women on an app. Pictures alone don't often sell the idea of an older man. When a woman is sitting behind an electronic screen evaluating her options, pictures of some older man aren't often going to be enough of an incentive to swipe right and then participate in some sort of interaction.

The age thing is the reason why I don't do online dating.

If you wanted to get serious with a woman after you lied to her, then you have to explain why you lied. Not a good start to the relationship.
When a guy lies about his age, it's going to be very difficult to keep up that lie.

It's possible in the short term but highly unlikely in the longer term.

Even in the short term, a man is going to have to be very careful about telling stories and his age in them. He'd have to be careful in not revealing school graduation dates, where he was during certain historical events that might come up in conversation (9/11/2001, The Great Recession, etc), or any other thing that might reveal his age. That's not easy to do.

When a woman finds out about an age lie, she's likely to exit the interaction.

It's better not to lie about age and find options that are interested in the man at his real age.
 

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This is a common tactic used by older men. When a lot of older men (usually 35+ or 40+) put their real ages on the dating apps, they see that their quality of matches is lower. It's more difficult to get big age gaps from swipe apps. Women have extreme abundance of options online. They are going to select for someone close to their own age in most cases over someone 10+ years older.

Additionally, it's more difficult to stand out as a man 10+ years older to younger women on an app. Pictures alone don't often sell the idea of an older man. When a woman is sitting behind an electronic screen evaluating her options, pictures of some older man aren't often going to be enough of an incentive to swipe right and then participate in some sort of interaction.



When a guy lies about his age, it's going to be very difficult to keep up that lie.

It's possible in the short term but highly unlikely in the longer term.

Even in the short term, a man is going to have to be very careful about telling stories and his age in them. He'd have to be careful in not revealing school graduation dates, where he was during certain historical events that might come up in conversation (9/11/2001, The Great Recession, etc), or any other thing that might reveal his age. That's not easy to do.

When a woman finds out about an age lie, she's likely to exit the interaction.

It's better not to lie about age and find options that are interested in the man at his real age.
Yeh I totally get this. It makes sense & if you do meet a girl off the app, it's going to hamper the relationship with the lie.
 

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i never have but i am tempted to try just to see if it results in matching with more (or less) women in the 18-21 range. would be some good data to have. also consider most apps set default age preferences close to your own age, and many women might not even know you can change this.
 

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Age gap works in real life but not online. It can sometimes work if the girl sees you on a yacht and showing wealth. Otherwise, most women will try to go for the ideal person around their age. Online destroys all natural romance. Don't use it.
 

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Age gap works in real life but not online. It can sometimes work if the girl sees you on a yacht and showing wealth. Otherwise, most women will try to go for the ideal person around their age. Online destroys all natural romance. Don't use it.
This was perfectly said.

As a younger woman goes through all of her right swipes, she might see a guy on a yacht or showing wealth. You'd have to lead with that to maybe have a chance.

When women set their age preference parameters for who they see in their Tinder/Hinge/Bumble card stack, they will typically set more narrow parameters. When they right swipe, they'll be right swiping on guys close to their own age.

A 25 year old woman might not see a 42 year old man on a yacht in her card stack. If she's not paying for premium, she's not seeing her right swipes specifically. When she swipes in the card stack, nearly everyone is a match or becomes a match soon.

Women have great abundance online and tend to go for that ideal person near their own age.

The typical 30s-50s male is a pussie beggar who settles for someone near his own age. Also, a lot of 30s-50s men are expecting to date someone near their own age. Putting their real ages on apps might not bother them too much.

35+ guys looking to date 10+ years younger are better off in real life methods. Even a guy looking for 5-9 years younger is also better off in real life. The best a mid-tier male can do online is someone near their own age. For many men, that's a disappointment.
 

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Lie as much as you can get away with UNTIL you have sex with her OR get her pregnant, THEN you can decide to the tell truth or not.

But until no sex, it’s ON.
 

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These apps don't let you change the DOB once profile is done.

I'm going to delete the entire profile, and very likely just leave apps well alone.

Vast majority of the females on apps, are ran through, unstable or single moms.
The remaining demographic of swipe app users

seems to be women who have standards / expectations way beyond what their SMV can actually achieve

And then a huge swathe of modern men who are either struggling to get regular sex or can't meet enough women IRL

Its a bizarre mix
 
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