any ideas why she ignores me?

[Dave111]

Not really bothered because she is my ex, but just curious more than anything as to why she now totally ignores me whenever we bump into each other.

She dumped me and I refused to be friends as she had lied to me and I felt that there was no foundation for friendship. I cut off contact straight away, but I thought that when we bumped into each other that we could at least be grown up and civil and see how each of us are doing with our lives, I think its just plain bad manners that she completely blanked me when I walked into a shop in the local mall near where I live, I had no idea she was working there so I was quite surprised to see her, but she just turned and walked away from me, just wondering why she cant even say hello to me,

any takes on this?

 

[Saine]

C'mon Dave, common sense. You won't even be her friend, now you want her to greet you?

At the very least be her friend, then expect some greetings.

Now if I were you, just ignore her.

 

[Saine]

Originally posted by Dave111
Not really bothered because she is my ex, but just curious more than anything as to why she now totally ignores me whenever we bump into each other.

She dumped me and I refused to be friends as she had lied to me and I felt that there was no foundation for friendship. I cut off contact straight away, but I thought that when we bumped into each other that we could at least be grown up and civil and see how each of us are doing with our lives, I think its just plain bad manners that she completely blanked me when I walked into a shop in the local mall near where I live, I had no idea she was working there so I was quite surprised to see her, but she just turned and walked away from me, just wondering why she cant even say hello to me,

any takes on this?

 

[mrbreeze]

Sounds to me like she's trying to play you into having enough interest to be her friend.

Funny how that works.

 

[Dave111]

hmm..yeah

she seems to be really nervous and uneasy when I see her, just dunno why?, I get the impression she thinks I hate her or something,

She doesn't seem to be too pleased that Im over her now and that I'm getting on with my life. At the time of the breakup last year, she seemed to like the power rush that she got when she dumped me, and now that it has gone she cant stand to see me happy without her.

She expected me to fall straight back into the role of friend after we broke up, but I felt hurt and angry with her for not showing any respect for my feelings, she didn't seem to understand that I needed to be away from her (for a good long time) in order to get my **** together.

I think she's hurt that I rejected her friendship, but I think I did the right thing, because how can you be friends with someone who's broke your heart, lied to you and doesn't communicate very well their emotions to you, I think its a shame that things have come to where they are between me and her, but it was her conduct and decisions that brought the current situation about.

 

[DJ_Dork]

if you want to make her friend's with you. Say HI. I was in the same situation before too...

 

[xblitz44x]

I'm not sure why she's ignoring you. It might have something to do with THIS though:

"I refused to be friends as she had lied to me and I felt that there was no foundation for friendship. I cut off contact straight away"

I think YOU felt rejected, and expected HER to at least go out of her way to contact you when you ignored her. Plan didn't work right, now you're bothered by the fact that she won't even address you in public. If you want to have an mature, friendly relationship with her, then you have to be mature and friendly about it. Don't expect her to step up and act like an adult for your sake, while you're acting like a middle school student after he was dumped at home coming. Sorry to sound harsh, I just think you need to wake up.

-Blitz

 

[Starman]

I dont think he was acting immature, after all, he said the girl was NEXTED because she lied to him, and showed no regard for his feelings whatsoever

I would have done the same thing. But it sounds like you NEXTED her completely from your life to stabalize your ego, pride and self respect.

this girl is still stung by the bee of rejection (and women never forget) and is still holding a grudge against you (and in her little mind she probably has no idea why you NEXTED her)

Realistically, a well adjusted person would be civil enough to even acknowledge the presnce of someone she knew/dated. But you are talking about a shattered fragile ego here that she still hasnt recovered from, and she was trying to display her anger/rejection from you by completely ignoring you.

RE-NEXT

 

[Walden]

Man any girl who you've doggy-ƒ***ed whilst spanking her fat ass is gonna feel a little akward talking about the weather with you.

Edit. Is ther anyone who still reads R_S , my ignore list is getting looong

 

[xblitz44x]

"I dont think he was acting immature, after all, he said the girl was NEXTED because she lied to him, and showed no regard for his feelings whatsoever"

Sorry to ressurect this, but Starman, what was immature about this isn't the fact that he NEXTED her. But the REASON he nexted her. He did it because he liked her and his ego was shattered. Not because he truely didn't want anything to do with her. It was childish.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

WHO GIVES A ****!! SHE'S YOUR EX!!!



PIMP

 

[PRMoon]

Man you can't shame a girl like that and tell her that there's no grounds for friendship and expect her to talk to you. that's just plain dumb. If you know you're not going to be friends with a person you don't talk to them, you've passed the point of aquaintances and crossed over in to the hate zone in her mind so no, why would she talk to you? I her mind she was probaly at least 10% right about whatever it was she did and you wrote her off 100% so don't expect anything from her at all. And why do you care? If anything its a pointless endeveor trying to get her to notice you or say high you know will be fruitless so let it go. Treat her like a stranger and she'll do the same to you. Sure its rude but its a social norm for people to ignore people they don't like and she don't like you no more so forget her and spend your time in better ways talking to people you like.

 

[docv]

Man any girl who you've doggy-ƒ***ed whilst spanking her fat ass is gonna feel a little akward talking about the weather with you.

:crackup: ...classic