Any idea how to make a girl introduce her friend to you?

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Ok there are some girls I like that Im trying to date however their interest is not exactly overwhelming and the risk of friendzone or disappearing is high.

I was wondering if there was a way to remain in a positive allignment with them that would have them introduce their friends to me.

I know usually the fat/ugly girl wont introduce to you her friends but in this case is the opposite.
Its me doing the chasing and in case of failure trying to get their friends.

Whats the best thing to do? make a move and then accept the friendzone in case of no-go or chose either her of the friend things?
Anybody succeeded in that?
 

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Make sure you set the frame for the friendzone. Don't make her the one initiating it. If she has tons and I mean tons of contacts then it may be worth your while to treat her like the "gentleman" everyone despises of on sosuave. Open the doors, never talk trash, sometimes listen to her problems and be active in giving good solutions etc.

If she has tons of friends and hookups are possible, just hit on the girls you want. At some point many will ask about you and your friend will speak positively of you. Girls DIG when their female friends vouch that the guy is a nice guy, but hate it when you show that behavior to THEM. At this point never replicate the nice guy behavior to the girl you are interested and go total a-shol-.

This contrasting personality (what she hears vs what she sees) will make her hamster head spin. Ex. Am I not good enough? My friend can't be lying so wtf is going on?

Only do this to girls with tons and tons of HB friends. Otherwise it's not worth your time.
 

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I always value any female acquaintances I make. If I don't really see myself hooking up with her I make it a point to disqualify myself as a potential mate for her. If a girl is interested in you she will start trying to qualify you by asking questions. I don't go so far as to make her think i'm useless. But if there's any particulars she may be looking for I make sure to fail those requirements.

Her: So do you have a girlfriend?
Me: Nope...
Her: I love the ocean, wow when is the last time you went?
Me: The ocean sucks, the sand irritates me. UGH! I never go!

See? Now she knows i'm not good for her but maybe one of her friends...
 

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Have the friend like you. She'll do the rest.

Or introduce yourself.
 

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Yeah but be careful with having the friend like you too much. As soon as a girl has any interest in you she will 100% most definitely tell ALL her friends you are OFF limits. And that is a hard/impossible one to recover from. You either have to establish that you like one of her friends before she "calls you" or just disqualify yourself from her. And women do not like to admit failure so she won't go and tell her friends "well go for it then I don't think he likes me" why? so she can see her friend hook up with you and be the jealous girl in the shadows? I'm sure there are exceptions to this, anything is possible. This is only one scenario I have found myself in several times.
 

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Yes, the phenomenon SgtSplacker refers to is being "Called". As in "I call that guy off limits!" If a woman takes a man of a female friend who is called she ends the female friendship forever.

Don't get "Called" by the fattie.

That said, if you sleep with one, they will all want to sleep with you if the first one sings your praises.
 

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I have met a Hb6 who knew I was interested in a hotter girl, and she wanted my number anyway and told me she had plenty of "friends". I never went up on that opportunity. I simply wasn't interested in the girl. I guess I could have called, but what do I say: "I'm ready to meet your friends now"?

How about that... a HB6 who offers you a chance to meet her friends in exchange for your phone number...

She was probably just drunk but I still don't get her intentions.... Putting me in the Friend Zone??? :/
 

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Thanks for your suggestion guys,it all make sense however I have a doubt.
If I end up in her friendzone is there the risk that her friends will just follow that due to their sheep mentalit and see me as a friend material too?
 

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Too many questions man! Just go with the flow mannnnn!

GIVE her your number and hang out with her when you can. Just don't try to impress her at all (no paying for stuff). And like the example above, disqualify yourself every chance you can while being a friend. What you want is one of these "even steven" relationships with her. Where she understands she can gain absolutely nothing from you except maybe a friendly lay on a cold night. Let her know in a very nice way that you have absolutely no interests in her. One way is to complain to her about a girl you are supposedly dating. Like that she understands you are not interested in her but you maintain your availability because you are unhappy in this on/off relationship. Friendzone that BIATCH!!! Maybe she even steps up and tries to hook you up with a better girl since she sees her friend needs help and she's obviously into playing the match maker, she already suggested that when you met her. What she should get out of the relationship is some companionship and maybe a random lay on a cold night.

Think about like you are jumping into a school of fish, you cant have the fish that you saw near the surface where you entered the water. But as soon as you are in the middle of the school just open your mouth and eventually you will have a full belly! 1,000,000s of animals eat like this every day. BE the mighty poon whale!
 

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Bradd80's got it.

An important part of this strategy is to make yourself look very desirable when you are with the portal girl (so there's no chance of getting friend zoned by her crew). Show off a bit, always dress very nice. Use her to make them jealous and want you. Buy 4 tickets to a concert, say you got them for free and invite the portal girl and her friends. Maybe suggest one you thought was cute. Sparkone up on the way, buy a round at the concert and start chatting up the cute one if she shows any IOI's. If you have a car drive them out there, it makes you look more authoritarian, more in control. If you do this right without making your intentions obvious you are in there and in the best way too.

It's really a balancing act because you want to seem very cool/calm, and very friendly with the portal girl but you have to direct your interests to the girl you are interested in so everyone kinda understands you think she's cute. I usually pick the cutest friend that has shown me the most IOIs. And make it seem like I have a special attraction to her.

Avoid any 1 on 1 time with the portal girl. Invite her everywhere but have your friends there too so maybe they can chat her up a bit and she doesn't develop too many feelings for you. The important part to this is to let people know how you feel about them. The portal girl has to understand that you have no feelings for her. I would not bang her until you have banged at least one of her friends.
 

It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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bradd80 said:
Fellas, keep in mind that getting a chick friend to hook you up with a hottie is hands down the best way of getting hooked up with an HB 9. The HB 9 has a referral from a good friend of hers, so her guard is let down (ie now suddenly all men aren't pigs). Plus, if you play your cards right with the friend, she will make it seem to the HB 9 as if she is being hooked up with tom cruise/brad pitt/george clooney all rolled into one lol Just do what I told you to do and try not to make any glaring mistakes during your date with the hottie and you should be fine :rock:
Absolutely. And now you have all these chicks you are hanging out with providing super social proof to other girls. And the portal girl is totally going to make it seem like you are a god among men to anyone she talks to. Some of the best nights of my life I have spent them in groups like this.

I have to admit one of the best ones I let slip by was a portal girl that started hitting the gym and got a good job. Man she turned into a looker. Massive rack but pretty over weight, now she's all thin and fit I almost died last time I saw her and still just as busty... Lesson learned: never completely disregard the portal girl...
 

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bradd80 said:
Fellas, keep in mind that getting a chick friend to hook you up with a hottie is hands down the best way of getting hooked up with an HB 9. The HB 9 has a referral from a good friend of hers, so her guard is let down (ie now suddenly all men aren't pigs).

Just one word of advice about the tickets: don't make it seem like you're trying to buy their attention. Women have sensors for this kind of thing, especially the really hot ones who are used to having guys do anything for them. Buying them things actually subconsciously makes them think that you are trying to manipulate them into liking you because you don't have enough personality to do this on your own. Plus a lot of really hot women (even the non-golddigging ones) will start to see you as a mark who can be used to pay for drinks and dinners for her and friends. Try to win them over with your personality as much as you can, and try to avoid looking like the guy they can use and step all over. The really hot women want a guy who is fun yet confident and strong and will not let ppl use him and walk all over him.

Remember, if you follow my advice and play your cards right with the friend, she will make it seem to the HB 9 as if she is being hooked up with tom cruise/brad pitt/george clooney all rolled into one lol Just do what I told you to do and try not to make any glaring mistakes during your date with the hottie and you should be fine :rock:
No offense Bradd, but after reading your long thread of how you gotta spend $300+ on a meal for an HB9 I'm quite appalled to see what you wrote on this post.
 

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bradd80 said:
No offense taken. You don't get good at anything without making some mistakes along the way.
I got scammed too. My own fault. It was only $20. I sponsored the brother of the girl I was interested in one time for a charity event thinking it would help get me in her good books. Yup. Everyone has AFC moments. :crackup:

Live and learn boys. :yes:
 

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jhl said:
Make sure you set the frame for the friendzone. Don't make her the one initiating it. If she has tons and I mean tons of contacts then it may be worth your while to treat her like the "gentleman" everyone despises of on sosuave. Open the doors, never talk trash, sometimes listen to her problems and be active in giving good solutions etc.
I gave this a try once after finding out the chick already had a boyfriend. Next thing I know I'm getting invited to all her parties and being introduced to her girlfriends. That changed my mind about walking away upon finding out a chick is not available.
 

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Make up an excuse and introduce yourself to her. You have a built in connection/something to talk about by knowing her friend.
 

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Zerro said:
I gave this a try once after finding out the chick already had a boyfriend. Next thing I know I'm getting invited to all her parties and being introduced to her girlfriends. That changed my mind about walking away upon finding out a chick is not available.
The best type of girl is the bubbly HB7 socialite who is liked by everyone and I mean EVERYONE (guys girls older men older women younger men younger women). These girls have like 1000+ friends on FB get like 50+ likes for every update they post (not the AW so don't mistake what I write). If you run into one of these girls best to friendzone ASAP and get on her good side, hang around, and everyone will just trickle in.

It's like a bear opening its mouth to catch salmon when they are trying to jump against the water current.
 
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