ANy benefit towards becoming a female's friend?

[women haze]

I wonder, because i am being told by another friend of mine that I should become this chick's friend that We met at a happy hour.


In my head I am like...ooooh okay and become orbiter #4 in the many male friends that she already has?

When you befriend someone to which nowadays that term is thrown around so loosely.

A friend is someone you relate to on some level that you think is cool, someone you would do mostly anything for right? your amigo right hand man etc

Can I really be "friends" with some random chick at a bar just because she looks good?

She was sexy believe me, but i just feel I wouldn't relate to her AT ALL...
yet, I don't have many female friends so i guess being her buddy would get me close to meeting other chicks?

My boy is a social butterfly, but he is in a relationship right now so he is pushing this bar chick on to me..

I'm introverted and couldn't care less if this chick is in my life or not..but it could be good for me. I am so confused should I contact her?

I don't know what do you guys think?

 

[Robert28]

contact her, ASK HER OUT ON A DATE. damn all the let's be friends and tell secrets and eat popcorn while watching a lifetime movie, b.s.

if she says no then forget it. if she says yes, don't act like you want to be friends on the date. be aggressive with this one if she has alot of oribters. make it CLEAR your intentions.

 

[ilikecharlene]

A friend is a friend, gender notwithstanding.

It could be an avenue to other women, of course, so yes pursue. IMO, the initial step in dating is to get around as much as possible and meet new people. at least then, one will widen their scope in dating terms.

another thing is that you both may fall for each other over time. To me it's a law of human interaction that over time a man and a woman in a friendship will fall for each other. men and women cannot be friends without such a thing happening.

 

[Mr. Suave]

What the is your friend on about, "you should become her friend"? What? You haven't even been rejected as far as I can tell from that post so what is he talking about?

 

[demezel]

unless there is really no way your seeing a chick sexually( which you are not) then a friendship is just a cover under your penis and her vagina. You will want to fvck her and if your alpha she will probably also want to fvck you so yeah.... real "friendship" between a chick and a dude happens only when you really see her/him like a brother/sister but most of the time one side always want more out of a friendship so yeah..... fvck each other and live forever happy

 

[Zerro]

A man and a woman can only be friends if NEITHER wants to have sex with the other, as long as one does and the other doesn't will never work out.

 

[Mike32ct]

I wonder, because i am being told by another friend of mine that I should become this chick's friend that We met at a happy hour.


In my head I am like...ooooh okay and become orbiter #4 in the many male friends that she already has?

I agree with the skepticism.

When you befriend someone to which nowadays that term is thrown around so loosely.

A friend is someone you relate to on some level that you think is cool, someone you would do mostly anything for right? your amigo right hand man etc

Can I really be "friends" with some random chick at a bar just because she looks good?

She was sexy believe me, but i just feel I wouldn't relate to her AT ALL...
yet, I don't have many female friends so i guess being her buddy would get me close to meeting other chicks?

It's possible, but don't count on it. Consider talking to her to be social practice. If it leads to more with her or other chicks, great. Otherwise, just shoot the sh*t with her and see how she reacts.

My boy is a social butterfly, but he is in a relationship right now so he is pushing this bar chick on to me..

He probably means well. But the big question is, "Do you and this chick 'click' ?" You won't know until you interact with her. She might be cool. She might be a b*tch. She might enjoy talking to you. She might totally ignore you. Test the waters by chatting with her next time.

I'm introverted and couldn't care less if this chick is in my life or not..but it could be good for me. I am so confused should I contact her?

It's good that you couldn't care less. But you don't have her number, so it would be weird to try to call or text her. Have your buddy take you out some night when he thinks she'll be out. Have him introduce you.

I don't know what do you guys think?

After your buddy introduces you, chat with her for a bit and see how she reacts. Does she make eye contact with you, or just look across the room? Does she try to keep the conversation going or gives you one word answers and lets it fizzle out?

Most of all, you can find out if she is someone you would like to date or be friends with. Maybe it's neither. But find out.

 

[TopGun2000]

A man and a woman can only be friends if NEITHER wants to have sex with the other, as long as one does and the other doesn't will never work out.

true

 

[f283000]

Ever since i adopted the NO FEMALE FRIEND philosophy into my life the drama in my life was greatly reduced.

I think it depends on what type of man you are.

If you don't have a lot going for you then sure you probably have time to waste hanging out with women.

If you are a busy man that has a full time job, works out on a weekly basis, plays sports, likes to read to improve himself, then YOU DON'T HAVE TIME TO BE HANGING OUT WITH WOMEN!

Busy men don't hang out with women. When a busy man is with a woman that's because he is either dating her or f_____ her!

Living the life of no female friends means keeping women on a professional level and only allowing women into your life that you want to f____ unless when it's for acceptable social circle situations.

You won't see me:

----- hanging out with 1 female friend: If I'm out with a woman that's because that's a woman i'm trying to conquer. There's no such thing as going to hang out with a woman in my life.
----- Joining a pack of women to go out somewhere: I'm not going to be the token male guy hanging out with a pack of women at a mall who only use such guys to feed their egos and treat him like their gay friend.
----- Getting involved in a woman's drama/relationship life in any way shape or form: Listening to women cry about their jerk boyfriends over the phone/giving out any sort of advice or listening ear to any woman's relationship problems. There is no way i will let myself be subjected to that.

Times I might be with a female outside of work that i'm not interested in:

----- An acceptable social circle situation: where my buddy takes his gf, i take my gf and we go have dinner somewhere. That right there is acceptable and what adults do.

To summarize the NO FEMALE FRIEND philosophy: If you ain't trying to f____ her then don't waste your time on her.

 

[nismo-4]

The only benefit is for social proof. If you want to bring said girl into a club to get other girls, that's cool.

But otherwise, f**k all this friendzone sh*t. I don't wanna hear about a woman's boyfriend problems.

Look bi**h, you chose him because he made you wet and you knew what was gonna happen, so congratulations you made a return on your investment.

Becoming a female's friend when you're trying to f**k her is nothing more than a dragged up rejection.

 

[SamTheHobit]

F283 pretty much hit the nail on the head.

 

[FairShake]

It's always good to have another friend. Can always open you up to new women.

Plus, if you are sufficiently cool and good-looking enough the friendship WILL lead to fvcking.