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Random approached a girl for the first time in my life the other day. She seemed interested at first. She was flirtatious and was asking me a lot about myself. When I asked her out though I got the impression she had a bf, but she said "ummm sure".

I text her with no response back, then I find out (not from her) that she's in a 4 year relationship.

Bump into her yesterday and without me asking she says, "I never got your text, my phones been screwy." When I asked she said she still wanted to go out, but it was awkward. Still didn't mention she has a bf.

Is there any chance at this point? If so, what's my next move?
 

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Why would you want to pursue a girl that is in the midst of a four year relationship? Do you want to be the chump that gets sloppy seconds in the bedroom? Do you want to hear about her boyfriend and their bs? If she's willing to go out with you, meaning she'll cheat on him to do so, do you want a girl that will also cheat on you eventually? She'll come with baggage and drama. Is that what you want? Read the DJ bible then ask yourself these questions and see if you still want to date this potential cheating b*tch.

http://www.djbible.classicalgasemissions.com/
 

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Boyfriend puts her in the limited effort category. Netflix, things near or in your place, straight up sex. Otherwise don't waste your time.
 

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I should've mentioned, this girl is really hot and I'm not looking for anything serious right now. I feel bad for the guy, but if this led to her ditching him I'd be doing him a favour.
 

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Let me get this straight. You text her with no response. Yet without mentioning you texted her she says "I never got your text, my phones been screwy." How did she know you texted her? You already have a problem and you haven't even held her hand yet? You're being played. If you don't believe, then find out for yourself. Good Luck!
 

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If she doesn't answer, just wait a few days and try again. Don't take it personal, or over analyze
 

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I figured she's playing around, I just don't know why she wouldn't mention her bf if she wasn't interested. Especially since we're all at the same school seems like playing with fire if she cares about her bf at all.

Not taking it personal. I guess I'll try and contact her once or twice more, nothing to lose.
 

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Random approached a girl for the first time in my life the other day. She seemed interested at first. She was flirtatious and was asking me a lot about myself. When I asked her out though I got the impression she had a bf, but she said "ummm sure".

I text her with no response back, then I find out (not from her) that she's in a 4 year relationship.

Bump into her yesterday and without me asking she says, "I never got your text, my phones been screwy." When I asked she said she still wanted to go out, but it was awkward. Still didn't mention she has a bf.

Is there any chance at this point? If so, what's my next move?
No.

Didn't get your text. -- lie.
"Would still like to go out." = still won't answer your texts and will blame the phone, my network and you before i will be honest.

Doesn't tell the truth "i have a bf," low quality liar.

Don't waste your time
 

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I have gotten the i didn't see your text crap before. Just ended in more flaking and oh i didnt see your text. She has low interest. Move on.
 

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As Nismo-4 would say your princess is another castle.

Keep in mind that a girl that likes you won't confuse you.

Think of this girl like a vampire. Your attention is equivalent to human blood. The more attention you give the stronger she becomes and the weaker you become. Withholding attention makes her weak.
 

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I'm pretty sure what happened is that when she met me she was on the fence because of her bf, and now that she's made her choice she doesn't want to seem like a slut by admitting she gave me her # when she had a bf.
 

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Ditch this one, OP.

Stick with us and there'll be plenty more hot chicks for you ;)
haha thanks! Approaching her was definitely one of the more exciting things I've done recently, so I don't on Doing it more
 
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I'm pretty sure what happened is that when she met me she was on the fence because of her bf, and now that she's made her choice she doesn't want to seem like a slut by admitting she gave me her # when she had a bf.
Had the exact same thing happen to me. Cold approached the makeup girl behind the counter of the duane read store. SHE suggested we go out to lunch. Came back in an hour picked her up and took her to lunch. Lots of flirting, lots of smiling and kino. Got her phone number. Lots of flirty texting.

and then...

called her one night when she was at her BF's house. phone rang once and then went to voicemail. Got a call from her 5 minutes later. Sounded like she was outside out of breath and told me "LOOK I'm happy to be friends but I can't break up with this guy. Our parents know each other and my mom loves him a-lot!!"

I basically told her no worries and that was that for her. Never looked back.

REMEMBER THIS: Women are weak. F*ck what the media and society tells you about them. WOMEN ARE WEAK and will give into their emotions if they're around a man that can provoke her into doing so. Read this thread: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/the-truth-about-women.83349/

^that is why I am almost confident I'm not getting married. It's not that I don't think I couldn't get a girl to fall in love with me, I'm worried about when I'm not around what her EMOTIONS will trick her into doing. WOMEN ARE WEAK AND CANNOT HELP THEMSELVES.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Dont do it for your brother man. Plenty of wet ***** everywhere
 

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The only acceptable answer for asking a woman out:

"Sure!"

Anything else, cut bait and fish other waters.
 

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I would also accept:

"My panties are so wet right now."
And you could answer to that with "Aye, captain! Let's proceed to the draining room" :p
 

Don't always be the one putting yourself out for her. Don't always be the one putting all the effort and work into the relationship. Let her, and expect her, to treat you as well as you treat her, and to improve the quality of your life.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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