Dude_man123
Don Juan
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So, I was talking with this chick for a while and we were starting a relationship. It wasn't perfect, but thats not possible. Everything was going alright though. We work together, and there was a little drama, but mainly because people I work with were immature but I think all of that has cleared up.
Anyway, the chick really liked me, I could see it in her eyes, she called me a lot, and was always asking me to call her (it was rude not to, so I did) anyway, last Wednesday, I was leaving for the weekend. I saw her and that night I kissed her goodbye and played around a bit. I told her to call me while I was away and she told me I should call her later that night, in about an hour. She has always been hung up on me calling her... and she was worried I would leave her and stuff. I thought all of this was good, even though I ensured her that I wouldn't, but yeah, shes a chick so she worried about this stuff.
Anyway, I go home, call her, she doesn't answer. Ok, cool, shes probably busy. I go to bed. I leave the next day and come back on sunday, and she has never called me back. I see her sunday, she says hi, I say hi, and just walk past her, when I was leaving the building I was walking out and she said bye, I said cya, and she thanks for talking, but I was already half way out the door. Oh well.
Monday
We work together, but I really didn't want anything to do with her since you know... she never returned my call, stopped showing interest, etc... why should I? She kept asking whats wrong and stuff, and I was like, nothings wrong. She persisted so later I asked her what was up, why haven't we spoken in a few days and she was like, oh you could have called me, blah blah blah. I said, I did, but you didn't answer.
Her: No you didn't
*pulls out phone, shows her* *She checks her phone*
Her: Oh.
Me: yeah. so how is "us"? (I was trying to figure out if she still wanted to continue the relationship, no point in burning bridges over nothing)
Her: I don't know... we haven't talked in few days. You decide.
She has been making a big deal about me not calling her and stuff, unless she asked. So I simply said:
ME: Well, if we go out, I'd call you more.
Her: But I don't that you actually will...
She was looking pretty sad at this point... idk. Something was up.
She told me she would call me the next day around 9 PM. I was chilling with some friends and checked me phone around 9:30. No calls... hmm... ok. Sup with that? I call her, leave a voice mail. I mean, she says she wants me to call her... so why not?
She texts me back 20 mins later, apologizes and explains. Ok, its cool.
The next day I work with her, I spoke to her but we were short on time, so we decided we would definitely talk the next day, but since I was working I had to call her when I went on break and she was off. Cool. I call, no answer. Uh huh...
I text her and say "ok, I guess your busy... I'll call later" Like, 20 minutes later she goes by where I work and tells me that her grandmother had to have surgery and that she has been tied up. Since I told her I would call, I did, no answer.
Ok, understandable.
Last night, I'm working, shes off again. I call her when I go on break, no answer. She texted me and explained. She wasn't lying, she was at some football game or something, and I know she was telling the truth. Anyway, her best friends dad had some kinda health problems so they had to go take care of him... and of course, she said sorry at the end of the message.
Anyway- shes not the kind of chick to lie. And she has no problem telling guys to leave her alone. She doesn't apologize unless she means it... which she has twice for not speaking to me. I have seen her tell guys when they are being clingy and what not and told them to back off. I have seen her flat out reject guys.
Shes done none of that to me. In fact, she has told me that she is very open, speaks her mind, and will let me know if she has a problem. Cool-- I want that.
Should I assume everything is cool and that she really is just busy? I think she was upset because I wasn't showing a lot of interest in the relationship. Maybe I overdid it. Idk... It just sucks cause we were supposed to talk about the future of our relationship and theres too much stuff going on.
What do you guys think?
Personally, I think she can't make up her mind what she wants. Her last BF cheated on her, and the last guy she was talking to turned out to be gay. The last guy I know who liked her that she turned down ended up spreading lies about her and was just an immature jerk. (watch her end up with him)
Any advice? I know I could walk away whenever, but I don't want to. Theres no point in burning bridges until you have to.
Anyway, the chick really liked me, I could see it in her eyes, she called me a lot, and was always asking me to call her (it was rude not to, so I did) anyway, last Wednesday, I was leaving for the weekend. I saw her and that night I kissed her goodbye and played around a bit. I told her to call me while I was away and she told me I should call her later that night, in about an hour. She has always been hung up on me calling her... and she was worried I would leave her and stuff. I thought all of this was good, even though I ensured her that I wouldn't, but yeah, shes a chick so she worried about this stuff.
Anyway, I go home, call her, she doesn't answer. Ok, cool, shes probably busy. I go to bed. I leave the next day and come back on sunday, and she has never called me back. I see her sunday, she says hi, I say hi, and just walk past her, when I was leaving the building I was walking out and she said bye, I said cya, and she thanks for talking, but I was already half way out the door. Oh well.
Monday
We work together, but I really didn't want anything to do with her since you know... she never returned my call, stopped showing interest, etc... why should I? She kept asking whats wrong and stuff, and I was like, nothings wrong. She persisted so later I asked her what was up, why haven't we spoken in a few days and she was like, oh you could have called me, blah blah blah. I said, I did, but you didn't answer.
Her: No you didn't
*pulls out phone, shows her* *She checks her phone*
Her: Oh.
Me: yeah. so how is "us"? (I was trying to figure out if she still wanted to continue the relationship, no point in burning bridges over nothing)
Her: I don't know... we haven't talked in few days. You decide.
She has been making a big deal about me not calling her and stuff, unless she asked. So I simply said:
ME: Well, if we go out, I'd call you more.
Her: But I don't that you actually will...
She was looking pretty sad at this point... idk. Something was up.
She told me she would call me the next day around 9 PM. I was chilling with some friends and checked me phone around 9:30. No calls... hmm... ok. Sup with that? I call her, leave a voice mail. I mean, she says she wants me to call her... so why not?
She texts me back 20 mins later, apologizes and explains. Ok, its cool.
The next day I work with her, I spoke to her but we were short on time, so we decided we would definitely talk the next day, but since I was working I had to call her when I went on break and she was off. Cool. I call, no answer. Uh huh...
I text her and say "ok, I guess your busy... I'll call later" Like, 20 minutes later she goes by where I work and tells me that her grandmother had to have surgery and that she has been tied up. Since I told her I would call, I did, no answer.
Ok, understandable.
Last night, I'm working, shes off again. I call her when I go on break, no answer. She texted me and explained. She wasn't lying, she was at some football game or something, and I know she was telling the truth. Anyway, her best friends dad had some kinda health problems so they had to go take care of him... and of course, she said sorry at the end of the message.
Anyway- shes not the kind of chick to lie. And she has no problem telling guys to leave her alone. She doesn't apologize unless she means it... which she has twice for not speaking to me. I have seen her tell guys when they are being clingy and what not and told them to back off. I have seen her flat out reject guys.
Shes done none of that to me. In fact, she has told me that she is very open, speaks her mind, and will let me know if she has a problem. Cool-- I want that.
Should I assume everything is cool and that she really is just busy? I think she was upset because I wasn't showing a lot of interest in the relationship. Maybe I overdid it. Idk... It just sucks cause we were supposed to talk about the future of our relationship and theres too much stuff going on.
What do you guys think?
Personally, I think she can't make up her mind what she wants. Her last BF cheated on her, and the last guy she was talking to turned out to be gay. The last guy I know who liked her that she turned down ended up spreading lies about her and was just an immature jerk. (watch her end up with him)
Any advice? I know I could walk away whenever, but I don't want to. Theres no point in burning bridges until you have to.
